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My self-summary
26 • ESFJ • NY ➡SF • Moved for a change of pace and a new adventure • working at Willamette University • a bit of a wanderlust • I'm starting to want a substantial relationship with someone who's independent with their own aspirations, but then abandon that quest when I get bored • also at a point in my life where I'm excited by pursuing my own goals and committing feels like an anchor • hell bent on shattering glass ceilings • I spend a lot of time thinking about social identities and how they influence the way in which we navigate the world • if you don't I'm unsure how substantial our interactions could be • i'm very affectionate once I'm comfortable • and not on here for any specific thing, I just like human connection.
What I’m doing with my life
Enjoying the ride, setting myself up for the future, doing a lot of dancing and performing at your local karaoke watering hole
I’m really good at
knowing myself
finishing your beer
staying calm in stressful situations
listening objectively
tactful transparency
word play
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Born confused, All About Love, Between the World and Me, The Perks of Being a Wallflower, Black Butterfly, Anything by Nicholas Sparks or Jodi Picoult

TV: Sherlock, Grey's Anatomy, Scandal (SHONDAAA), Jane the Virgin, Modern Family, Arrested Development..I watch way too much TV - have on average 20 shows in the rotation at any given time.

Music: I like artists like the 1975, MS MR, Alessia Cara, Tori Kelly, Drake, The Lumineers, Tegan and Sara, Haim, Sara Bareilles, Chris Brown, Whitney Houston, Carrie Underwood..I could go on forever..I'm pretty eclectic in the way of I like everything, even country - despite realizing that the narrative of country music isn't inclusive of queer women of color

Food: cheese, sushi, pizza, parsnips
The six things I could never do without
1. Headphones/music
2. Burt's bees
3. Phone
4. My bed/my snowman pillow
5. Kindle
6. Syracuse basketball
I spend a lot of time thinking about
-Finding ways to push and challenge myself so that I continue to grow as a person.
-Breaking old patterns of behavior even if they're seductive
-Piercings and tattoos
-Gender presentation
-How can anyone question that police brutality exists???!? Ignorance is bliss, but it sure ain't attractive.
-Code switching and how I won't do it, and does being my authentic self mean that I won't get as far in life? I think the only way to answer the question is to live it and see.
-Where do I want to live next?
-Are my 20s supposed to be an experimental mess? I think so.
-My unapologetic blackness and how I come into reclaiming my identities more and more every day
On a typical Friday night I am
Grabbing drinks with friends, dancing like a mutha fuckah
You should message me if
You read this and you wanna:
adventure and/or grab a beer
have an intellectual conversation
I dunno, why not?