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My self-summary
Disclaimer: I am primarily looking for friends, ideally queer girls. I have an awesome partner and while we're open to dating people outside of our committed relationship, we're not necessarily seeking that out. We are NOT looking for a third/unicorn, if I am interested in you, I am interested in you on my own behalf. That said, while I'm lucky enough to have a great gaggle of friends at the moment, they're so damn straight I could use them to draw blueprints. I really need some positive gay energy back in my life. So provided you're cool with that...

Things I like:
-Art and Art Museums
-Mosh pits at ska shows
-Cat themed everything
-Dive Bars
-Poetry and spoken word
-Intersectional Feminism
-Swing Dancing once every 2-3 years
-Snail Mail
-The beach
-Gardening (aka Attempting to garden and killing everything)
-Tumblr (i-singanyway)
-The Mountain Goats
-Webcomics/Small Press
-Cooking and Baking

Right now I am an Abbi seeking her Ilana. If you fit the description (or understand the reference at all, honestly), send me a message and maybe we can get into some shenanigans.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm currently working in the finance department of a medium-sized association near Farragut. It's not the end goal by any means, but it pays the bills pretty well and buys me time to figure out where I'm going and what I'm doing.

On a Be-Here-Now level I'm running, drinking tea, learning to draw, learning about chemical compounds, writing and reading a hell of a lot of poetry, falling in love with strangers on the metro, pondering word origins, starting my own photography business (, making up new (usually disgusting) cocktails, and being WAY too fascinated with snow.
I’m really good at
Anything, the first time I try it. I have crazy beginner's luck. Overall, I'm bad at talking on phones, good at taking pictures, and great with directions. I have a knack for finding music that will become popular some months later.

I've also recently learned that I'm a real pro at making stupid hats look even worse.
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes. Once in middle school a kid in my drama class said they looked "like gravel" and was very confused when I didn't take that as a compliment. Also, they're blue so... that makes no sense.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
This might take a while.

Books: Love in the Time of Cholera, Feed, Franny and Zooey, World War Z, Anthem, Annie on My Mind, The Penelopiad, the Tragedy of Arthur by Arthur Phillips, Sweat by ZNH, Sci-Fi-y short stories, cookbooks.

Movies: The Life Aquatic, Science of Sleep, Seven Pounds, Imagine Me and You, Wristcutters: a love story, The Invention of Lying, God Bless America, Close Encounters of the Third Kind, The Jerk, the Constant Gardener, anything Kubrick.

TV: BROAD CITY, Casual, Transparent, How I Met Your Mother, Firefly, Buffy (ok, fine, ANYTHING Whedon), Exes and Ohs, The L Word, Chopped, Cutthroat Kitchen, Top Shot, Top Gear, Tosh.0 (UCF alum woot!), Orange is the New Black like woah, IT Crowd, the Office, the Guild, Orphan Black, Bob's Burgers! Will and Grace forevverrrrr.

Music: Mountain Goats, Fleet Foxes (whom I swore never to like), Stornoway, Typhoon, Stars, the Decemberists, Regina Spektor, Sufjan Stevens, Hey Marsailles, Noah and the Whale, Ingrid Michaelson, Mirah, Jaymay, Inara George, Architecture in Helsinki, Tori Amos, Ani Difranco, Opus Orange, Mumford and Sons, Tegan and Sara, Of Montreal, River City Extension, Radical Face, Beirut, Benni Hemm Hemm, Kishi Bashi, Ra Ra Riot, Sea Bear, Sigur Ros, Iron and Wine, Rogue Wave, Teitur, Hey Rosetta, Alexi Murdoch, Emilliana Torrini, Thao and the Get Down Stay Downs, Kaki King, The New Pornographers, Sea Wolf, Joshua Radin, The Shins, Fionn Regan, A.C. Newman, Frightened Rabbit, Joni Mitchell, Joan Baez, Fleetwood Mac, Shawn Colvin, Rachmaninov, Holst.

Podcasts: I have to include podcasts. Thanks to Serial, I'm now borderline addicted to crime drama podcasts. They keep me sane at work.

**I seem to keep running into bluegrass in VA. If you have an opinion about it or any brilliant suggestions, I'm trying to gauge my feelings toward it.

Food: If it's edible, lemme at it! Thai, sushi, and quality Tex-Mex are sure bets.
The six things I could never do without
music|camera|art|the beach|honeybees|cherries
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to fix all of the world's problems.

Where we come from, if existence is cyclical (not just on an individual lifespan level, but that too).

False binaries of gender, disability, sexuality and forming clever plots to patiently subvert them.

How a word or phrase or social norm came to be. Sometimes I'll find myself at the end of a 2 or 3 minute train of thought where I've made up an entire detailed scenario about how these things may or may not have happened.
On a typical Friday night I am
If I'm not hanging out with my friends at one or another of our apartments, I might be at home reading or cooking or watching an old sci fi movie.

I'm always up for finding a new bar or restaurant, or going to a show or performance. I particularly love spoken word, open mic, karaoke, impromptu swing dancing, or discovering a new dive bar. I don't tend to like club-esque places that are so loud I can't hear myself think over the music, but I do like to dance and beer is just super. If you know a good barcade in DC, that's a void in my life I need to fill.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have severe anxiety. Not the gee-I'm-stressed-because-of-this-challenging-life-event kind, the overwhelming-fear-of-death-out-of-nowhere-and-now-I-can't-breathe-or-move kind. I've had it for about 4 years and I'm actively managing it, but I still have rare days when it's running the show. It's something potential friends/mates should be aware of.

On a lighter note, I'll also admit that when I open your profile for the first time I scroll immediately to the section that describes your musical preferences and then decide if I'm going to read the other parts and look at your pictures. I harbor the unhealthy superstition that I can recognize awesome people solely on the basis of shared musical taste.
You should message me if
-You want a going-out buddy and you have somewhat similar taste (beer, music, films, and poetry at least, as those are some of my preferred activities)
-You know a good tea place.
- You hike or have a group of pals who hike. Most of my friends are pretty indoors-y.

If your idea of a perfect day is discovering awesome music or poetry and then going to an art museum and comparing what we heard to what we see, please message me immediately.