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My self-summary

I'm here looking for friends. OKCupid is primarily a dating site. How does this make sense? The only method of finding romantic (or sexual) entanglements that has ever worked for me is to discover and explore mutual attraction with somebody I'm already friends with. But my social circle has become stable enough that I think whatever is there (or not) to be explored already has been.

So I'd like to expand my social circle. And, furthermore, expand it so as to create space for more potential romantic entanglements. Will this work? Who knows? If it does, will I actually want to become entangled? Really couldn't say at this point. But as I see it, a nominal failure would just result in finding new friends. And I could always use more friends.

If this doesn't sound like a a good use of your time, by all means, pass me by without a second thought. If you're at all interested, you may also wish to know: I have a girlfriend. She is currently my only partner, but I am not her only partner. Historically, I've been monogamous, but lately I have been learning more about ethical non-monogamy and trying to decide if any form of it is right for me. This is still largely a consideration in the abstract (see above).


Conversations shouldn't be one-sided, even (especially?) if I'm just talking about myself. We both stand to learn a lot more by interacting.

So I'll try to keep this short (I have a lot of trouble being concise) and as honest as possible (I hope I have less trouble with that one).

I aspire to be a strange and silly person, and I do a pretty good job of it.

A lot of my life is the consequence of an internal conflict between curiosity and comfort. When I'm inclined to be self-critical, I frame it as a conflict between boredom and laziness.

I very much believe everything should be taken in moderation. Including moderation. There is always a place for excess, too.

I try to always act and speak with intention and empathy. My failures, like my successes, are not extraordinary.
What I’m doing with my life
Living it, and looking for something more to do than just live.

If you want an answer more biographical than philosophical, I moved to Seattle after graduating with a degree in Physics. I still don't know what (if anything) I want to do with that degree, but I'm dispatching ambulances for now.

Left to my own devices, I spend time studying and teaching martial arts, riding my bike around the city, and playing games as often as I can find fellow-players.

I like to keep a few projects going. Right now, it's painting T-shirts and designing puzzles and games.
I’m really good at
Getting lost
Getting unlost
Explaining games
Playing with words
Improvisational cooking
Math, or something like it
The art of losing (it isn't hard to master)
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm terrible at noticing what other people have noticed about me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books are lovely things, and I'd love them all if I had the time. I like a lot of fantasy and science-fiction, and have more Opinions about "genre fiction" than I can reasonably write here. I'm not good at picking favorites, but The Annals of the Western Shore is definitely a contender. I like to read just about anything that comes my way, and there's also that huge backlog of excellent stuff that was written before I learned to read...

Movies I like do at least one of the following:
- Make me think
- Make me laugh
- Have lots of violence, explosions, and chase scenes
There are a few that do all three, but not many. Most of my favorites concentrate on two.

I honestly can't think of any music that I don't like, which may mean I have no taste. There are things I like particularly well, largely due to having been introduced to them by friends. Bach and Rachmaninoff. They Might Be Giants and Astor Piazzolla. The Mountain Goats and Crooked Still. Musical theater in general and Sondheim in particular. Apocalyptica and Rodrigo y Gabriela. Daft Punk. Walk Off the Earth. I don't think I have any coherent musical style.

Food is something I am passionate about. At least on occasion. I like strong flavors. I like simple dishes that show off one particular flavor. I like crazy dishes that combine lots of different flavors into some ridiculous agglomeration of tastiness. I like food that is fresh and freshly prepared, even if it wasn't particularly skillfully done. Also, I like pizza.
The six things I could never do without
Suspension of Disbelief (Disbelief Suspenders?)

The list is alphabetical, because I can't think of a good way to order it. Also, it is much too abstract, so here is a more tangible list:

Water (I drink lots)
Bicycle (I ride everywhere)
Glasses (I'm blind without them)
Sugar (I admit to a sweet tooth)
Paper (I scrawl notes to myself)
Hugs (Hugs are great!)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything and anything. Particular favorites of mine include:

- How to save the world
- The relationship between collaboration and competition
- Imaginary people and places
- Whether it's possible to love everything
- What I want to cook/bake/build next
- Words, names, and their origins
- You. Yes, you. And no, that's not creepy, I don't even know who you are.
On a typical Friday night I am
Given a free evening I may do any of the following:

Playing Board/Card/Video Games
Playing Roleplaying Games
Running (to stay in shape)
Running (around like a fool)
Wing Chun/Close Range Tactics
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I used to take antianxiety medication. It made me really anxious to think that I needed to influence the way my mind worked with drugs.
You should message me if
- you like to do things.
- you like to do nothing.
- you know where I can find a good roleplaying group
- you're interested in joining/starting a tabletop game
- you appreciate good hugs.
- you have an opinion about the passive voice.
- the moon is in the sky.