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My self-summary
So I'm a writer... who likes to write... a lot. Please don't let it scare you, noting that I do recommend reading at least as far as the juicy part a few paragraphs down. With this essay I'm like my dog, who by always carrying in her mouth a tennis ball clearly exhibits benevolence, as if a handshake, expressing no desire to bite or harm. (How could she be anything but well-meaning when so earnestly focused on a mouthful of yellow fuzz, right)? I hope you accept this composition in the same light, as my authentic expression of goodwill, long-winded as it may be, but written with full intent to be forthright and revealing.

Still 21 after all these years. Ever young, playful and adventuresome, I thrive on passion, compassion, empathy and paradox... always willing to be a solid and dedicated friend through both smooth sailing or rough waters, a do-gooder and wanna-be poet. Usually laid back, sometimes intense, naturally self-assured, I am attentive, easy and comfortable, kind-hearted, generous, stable, reliable and a calming influence (the type of person you want around in an emergency, who even once successfully performed the Heimlich maneuver), never overbearing or judgmental.

Despite this exercise in grandiloquence, please know that in person I am authentically empathic and a good listener... a basic, solid, soft-spoken, low-maintenance quiet guy who once served as a front-line diplomatic officer negotiating for peace, sometimes while under hostile fire. A proverbial lumberjack who believes that a man should be a man even when alone in the woods, I'm a regular Joe and humbly prefer to be in the company of casual and easygoing people.

Je ne regrette rien, rien de rien. Car ma vie, car mes joies, aujourd'hui, ça commence avec toi.

Cutting to the chase, as for the reason we're all on this site, there's no telling how things may develop between a man and a woman... open communication, mutual respect, common interests and physical attraction may just chemically interact to spark true friendship and a romantic relationship. If so, on the intimate side, I love to love and be loved, to touch and be touched. Your satisfaction and happiness will matter to me more than my own, as it should be. I remain vital, energetic, cerebral yet instinctual, open-minded, patient, caressing, considerate, assertive and confident, yet humble and respectful in your presence.

Yes, I admit to very much enjoying sex and wanting meaningful intimacy as an essential pillar of a non-platonic adult relationship. With regard to this topic it would be best to describe me as more of a marathon runner than a sprinter, though mixing it up some can be very surprisingly nice as well. Hardly submissive, I nonetheless take instruction well. Lovemaking is as much about what happens before and after. "O lente lente currite noctis equi." Run slowly, you horses of the night, for magic draws power between dusk and dawn. I will do my best to take your breath away, and you take mine. I may be just a bit of an ethical hedonist (virtues included), and feel that having enough free time to savor and enjoy life's pleasures should be important to us both. Coming away exhilarated and exhausted from an occasional long lost weekend, in my opinion, can be an excellent adventure.

One more thought... Armed with a wry, ironic sense of humor, you can sometimes catch me humming a tune or singing outright (especially on a long drive), just because. With my two daughters in their 20's and on their own (more or less), and with my son spending the year overseas, I am now an empty-nester, enjoying lots of free time. Being equally at ease with good conversation as with trusting silence, it may also be important to note, as one who believes that laughter cures most ills, that I will do my best to give you cause to chuckle at least a few times a day. My stories tend to be humorous. Write me, and I'll send you something funny in return.

In conclusion, with all due respect for noble intentions, ya gotta have fun in life. No human can guarantee a happily ever after as in the fairy tales, but even if... you can only get there one day at a time. A worn cliche with a twist... Live every day as if it were your last, for one day you're sure to be right; and as forever might end tomorrow it seems good advice to do everything possible to enjoy today. Carpe Diem.
What I’m doing with my life
...used to be an intellectual; today I'm trying not to be too sensible.

Having started adult life as a journalist, playwright and counselor for runaway youth (...not afraid of a little drama, especially considering my penchant for writing theatrical productions), I later served as a diplomatic officer and gentleman on foreign lands during war, and after the army abandoned my muse for a "real" job in aerospace.

Currently I dedicate much of my personal time to keeping that creative spark alive. A little bit of mischief can be fun too, like making crazy love all night long.

Still writing prose and plays, and doing mixed media (photography-based) fine art. Wanna collaborate? You'll get full billing as my muse... or I can be yours.

I've grown very comfortable in my own skin and believe that life's too short for us to waste it on controlling, petty, co-dependent or toxic drama. Breathe in the fresh air and enjoy the positive, liberating moment. Live, love, be happy.
I’m really good at
...balancing and improvising... and giving massages... oh, and telling flat jokes, and picking up after the dog (a finely honed skill, especially in tall grass). All will be well.

A natural-born nurturer, of all things I am happiest parenting and being the best dad possible. I proudly cheer my kids on as they spread their wings and find their own way. Being a guy, I still believe that almost anything can be fixed (especially with duct tape), and will always quietly try to achieve harmony and balance... with a little added spice.
The first things people usually notice about me good nature, coupled with authentic and easygoing conversation, right from the start.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Boccaccio's The Decameron; Evelyn Waugh's Sword of Honor Trilogy; Kurt Vonnegut's Cat's Cradle and Slaughterhouse Five; Tom Wolfe's The Electric Kool-Aid Acid Test; Martin Buber's Ich und Du; Camus' L'Etranger, the classics, etc., etc., etc.

Movies: People Like Us, Searching for Sugar Man, The Graduate, The Big Lebowski, Charade, Breaker Morant, Knocked Up, Roman Holiday, The King's Speech, Doctor Zhivago, anything with Cate Blanchett, Natassja Kinski or Grace Kelly,

Music: everything (except maybe for Chinese opera).

TV shows... old stuff: Doc Martin, Weeds, Northern Exposure. Documentaries of all sorts.

Food: trying to avoid red meat.
The six things I could never do without three kids, two times over. They are definitely not "things," but I could never do without them being a regular presence in my life, regardless of their geographic location at any given time.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...keeping my houseplants alive, and enjoying life... if not now, then when?

Oh... and of all our naturally and internally stimulated potions of love: PEA, norepinepherine and dopamine (the chemistry of infatuation and lust), I just as much look forward to the subsequent effect upon us of endorphins and oxytocin, the stuff that enables us to open ourselves to cuddling, trust, true friendship, affection and acceptance... if you get my meaning. Not only is this combination pleasurable, it's really good for us, and may we have just the right measure of it all.
On a typical Friday night I am to anything.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
First of all, the OKC personality trait analysis for me seems for the greater part wrong, as I can be both quite romantic and spiritual. Being a confident and positive man, however, I very much respect and enjoy the company of an equally assertive woman, one who knows what she wants and who'll consider taking the initiative (especially since it is you, not I the guy, who really makes these decisions). Furthering that notion, it's also fun and interesting to be in the company of open-minded people who aren't too awfully vanilla.
You should message me if enjoy excellent, open and respectful communication with an authentic gentleman.

Robert Frost wrote, "Happiness makes up in height for what it lacks in length." I thrill at those moments when swept off my feet or into something greater than my cognitive reasoning can explain, when intuitive forces take over. Be it passion or bliss, life seems best when we can reach beyond the voice in our heads. I enjoy photographing in fog and mist, dancing into the early hours of the morning, taking naps on weekends, being in awe of art and things that fly, arguing with my muse, and most of all, having my kids confide in me. I prefer involvement over solitude and would rather communicate in person than through a lifeless computer screen. Interested?

Though by all means an old-school gentleman, please NOTE: if we express interest in each other I will almost immediately ask to talk or meet. We're on this site to get to know each other in person, yes? I do hope that our finding each other will eventually lead to a meaningful and substantive romantic relationship (as I seek neither a hookup nor a platonic companion nor a pen pal), and it would sure help if we're both equally intimately inclined (i.e., into regular healthy sex with our lover and partner), as that for me is one of the essential pillars... just saying.