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Don't @ me if you're religious/"spiritual"

I live with my husband, XCountryDavid. I am a housewife, a gamer, nerdy, a secular humanist, radically progressive, an intersectional feminist, and unapologetically antitheist and anti-spiritualist.

I vie for peace and balance, and I seek a state of being of pure love and compassion. I value kindness, logic, honesty, integrity, and the quest to become an ever-better person, and I want to connect with others who value these things. I wish to discuss ideas, and grow as a person, become ever more socially aware and conscientious.

I am kinky, enjoying numerous kinks, both sexual and non-sexual. I do not expect you to be kinky, and kink does not need to be a part of my relationships. I have been in the kink life for a long time, and joined Fetlife a few years ago, to further expand my kink horizons. Strictly speaking, I have no fetishes.

I mentioned that I'm a gamer... well, that's a bit of an understatement... I started playing video games first, in 1981, then board games in 1983, tabletop RPG's since 1987, and tabletop War Games since 1989, as well as collectible Card Games etc since 1997, and LARP'd for three or four years in the late 90's and 2000. Today, I mostly play various PS4 games, like Elder Scrolls Online, Fallout 4, Far Far Cry 4, Skyrim Special Edition, Diablo 3 Reaper of Souls, Borderlands Handsome Collection, and Dynasty Warriors 8 Empires, as well as some retro games on my laptop, like Master of Magic, Neverwinter Nights, and X-COM: UFO Defense. I have a few board games and card games, and I am hoping to get in on a 2nd (d6) Star Wars games soonish.

I am a former comic book nerd, and puzzle wiz-kid, and former avid reader; I haven't read a comic since 1997, rarely do puzzles anymore, and don't read much anymore either, and I'd like to change the latter two. I'd also love to learn to dance... what does that have to do with nerdiness? Nothing, I just want to learn to dance :p

I struggle with mental and emotional wellness, and probably will for the rest of my life, and this does not mean, that I am unable to be an attentive and communicative partner or friend, it does mean however, that my struggles could effect relationships, however, I am open and honest about those struggles, and do my ever-increasing best to prepare said partners for what to expect. I struggle with agoraphobia, PTSD, chronic depression, and others.

As a partner, I am affectionate, self-aware, conscientious, compassionate, generous with my time and energy, and belongings, and I show my affection with touch, words, and sentimental gestures. I feel deeply, and I am sensual about life, and can just as easily moan from a delicious food or drink, as from sexual pleasure ;)

You are a chaser.
You think there are only two genders.
You think trans women are really men.
You think non-binary genders are invalid.
You are racist.
You are xenophobic.
You are religious or "spiritual".
You think astrology is legitimate.
You are a republican.
You are a libertarian.
You are a neoliberal.
You think anarchy is viable.
You deny climate change.
You think vaccines cause autism.
You think autism is something that needs to be cured.
You stigmatize mental illness.
You think logic is merely a personal perspective.
You think that Sandy Hook was a hoax.
You voted for Trump.

...because I just don't have the time or energy for your shit.

This is a work in progress...

If you message me, I will respond.
What I’m doing with my life
Learning, Evolving, Loving My Wonderful Husband, Cuddling Puppies, Defying The Status Quo, and Playing my PS4.
I’m really good at
Helping others.
Playing video games.
The first things people usually notice about me
My sweetness and compassion, my intelligence, and how tall I am.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
BOOKS: The Sword of Shannara, The Elfstones of Shannara, The Wishsong of Shannara, by Terry Brooks; Meditations, by Marcus Aurelius;

MOVIES: Legend(1984 Fantasy), Wonder Woman, What Dreams May Come, The Last Samurai, Serenity, The Matrix, The Dark Crystal, Dark City, The Dark Knight, Inception, John Wick, The Neverending Story, Silverado, Mr Frost, Unforgiven, 3:10 To Yuma, Bunraku, Big Trouble In Little China, Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon, District 9, Constantine, Last Of The Mohicans, Lady In The Water, Gremlins, The Grey, Message In A Bottle, No Country For Old Men, Puss 'N Boots, Reign Of Fire, The Prestige, RED, RED 2, The Patriot, Traitor, Riddick Trilogy, Taken, Scott Pilgrim vs The World, Ronin, The Town, True Grit, Unleashed, Troy, The Warrior's Way, 13 Assassins, The Good The Bad and The Weird, I am Legend, Smokin Aces, Hero, Fearless, Watchmen, The Inside Man, The International, Shoot 'Em Up; Korean Cinema

TV SHOWS: Jessica Jones, Lie To Me, Luther, Luke Cage, The Originals, Penny Dreadful, Agents of Shield / Buffy The Vampire Slayer, Angel, Stargate SG-1, The Practice, Boston Legal, House, The Mentalist, Firefly

MUSIC: Lisa Gerrard, Garbage, Tori Amos, Hans Zimmer, Poe, Tears For Fears, Rob Dougan; I like some of most genres, including: Rock, Classic Rock, Punk Rock, Hard Rock, Hardcore, Metal, Prog Metal, Death Metal, Black Metal, Doom Metal, Post Punk, Cold Wave, Ethereal Wave, Jazz, Bluegrass, Folk, Swing, Hip Hop, Soul, Rap, New Age, Industrial, and more.

FOOD: Stuff I can't eat anymore :'(

GAMES: Elder Scrolls Online, Fallout 4, Diablo III: Reaper of Souls, Borderlands Games, Dynasty Warriors 8: Empires / Skyrim, Fallout 3 / Romance of the Three Kingdoms 8, Final Fantasy XII, Shadow of the Colossus, Need For Speed: Underground 2 and Hot Pursuit, Soul Calibur III, Madden '07 / Neverwinter Nights / Final Fantasy Tactics, Suikoden II, Vandal Hearts 1 & 2, Need For Speed 3: Hot Pursuit, Tekken 3, Command & Conquer, X-COM: UFO Defense / Final Fantasy 4 & 6, Super Metroid, Super Castlevania IV, Actraiser 1 & 2, Super Street Fighter II: The New Challengers, Ogre Battle, Dungeon Master, Super Mario World, Mario Kart, Contra III: Alien Wars / Master of Magic / Final Fantasy, Dragon Warrior, The Legend of Zelda, Zelda II: The Adventures of Link, Kung Fu, Bad Dudes, Shadowgate, Ice Hockey, Double Dribble, RC Pro-AM, Super Mario Bro. 2, Mega Man, Castlevania 2 & 3, Contra, Iron Sword, Metroid, Battle For Olympus / Tetris, Excitebike / Moon Patrol
Six things I could never do without
My Wonderful Husband
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The issues I struggle with every day, regarding my mental and emotional wellness, physical health, safety, my husband's and my financial security and future.

Racial injustice, misogyny, transmisogyny, rape culture, ableism, religious delusion and fanaticism, this crumbling country, animal cruelty, philosophical matters, the suffering of others in myriad situations...

I think you get the picture.
On a typical Friday night I am
At home, playing ESO, Diablo III, Fallout 4, a Borderlands Game, Skyrim: Special Edition, or Dynasty Warriors 8: Empires, on the PS4.

Or watching Netflix with my hubby.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Get to know me to find out.
You should message me if
you find me interesting, and think we might become friends, or potentially more.
The two of us