69 Columbia, United States
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My self-summary
So how to summarize a life? I haven't done a 9 to 5 thing for 15 years which means I'm pretty fortunate. I don't hold a full time job anymore but I'm hardly retired either. In fact, I'm kind of nutso busy. How did that happen? What I like now is I live on my own terms; time and flexibility are more important to me than anything else. It's lovely to make room for things that I've always wanted to do. I've traveled a lot and I think nothing has molded me more. No I don't think I have to travel and then beauty is everywhere, yes? My inner landscape interests me now too. My challenge these days is to learn how to live every day, pace myself, buck the Teutonic thing of pushing oneself to the bone. Everybody in my family has this affliction, pushing themselves like their life depends on it. We can't seem to help it. But I'm learning to chill, yes I am, living in the MO. But it's not easy to change yourself in a fundamental way, have you noticed?

I think I'm an introvert-extrovert right down the middle; I go through phases of manic socialization. On the one hand, I'm buoyed by doing things with people I really love or enjoy, who are positive, who make me feel comfortable. But it's always nice to pull back too. I implode if I don't have enough down time to myself.

I'm a tree hugger actually, yes, out with it. I care about countries and people and animals and the environment and the future and hope you do too. I don't think global warming is a liberal plot. I flinch when I merely pass someone working out at the gym and Bill O'Reilly is on Fox. Why does OKCupid tiptoe around political persuasions? Time is of the essence, yes? We need to know.

(A recent NY Times article I read said people on these sites often fudge their weight and their ages. Geez, why didn't I think of that? My photos are all dated, I'm precisely 5'8" as stated, not shrinking, 134 lbs and slender.)
What I’m doing with my life
I've worked hard in the nonprofit sector for years, most recently as a consultant, furthering causes I care about; I think I'll always do this on some level. I've concluded you can't save the world, just affect your little parcel, so there's less intensity about it all now. I've lightened up a lot, learning to laugh and play more, indulge in everything I love and minimize negative things. I am doing more creative things, things I've always wanted to do, should have been doing all along. I wrote a memoir about my travels in the developing world (it's true, there's one good book in all of us). I talked about it long enough and finally did it. I've done a run of photographic exhibits on Morocco in galleries in Howard and Montgomery county. I had a great response. This has been a very satisfying endeavor, but it's also getting tougher to sell art in this economy.
I’m really good at
Keeping in touch; supporting friends; analyzing; organizing events (not my office); cooking things I like to eat; researching; being an animal whisperer; intuition; editing photos and editing sentences.
The first things people usually notice about me
Actually, you have to tell me... but be kind.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Love reading and movie watching. Oh, so many. Midnight's Children, The God of Small Things, The Hours, Bel Canto, White Tiger, about India; great read. Movies: The King's Speech, A Single Man, The Horse Boy, The Red Violin, Stranger than Fiction, Elling, The Shower. Trying to see more funny/clever/whimsical movies; too many movies and plays are cheerless. Music: Modern Arabic, blues, rock, new age, some classical, open to lots of things. I love Mediterranean, Indian, Thai, Vietnamese, Chinese, Mexican food.
The six things I could never do without
Art; wonder; beauty; writing; photography; laughter; movies; reading; friends; animals; affection/kissing/cuddling; music; new projects; great food.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
.... too many things; I'm a ruminator. That's why I meditate when I can; clears out the crap (we get too much of what's wrong with the world, how much can a person take?); how I can be better; things I can't change and want to change (eternally working on that); how to be more efficient with my time; how to do everything I want to do in the time I have left.
On a typical Friday night I am
...going to my local international/indie film group.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
You should message me if want to! Sure the %s count for something, sure liking/ doing the same things count for a lot. But in the end, what counts is an emotional connection; everything else tends to fall in place.