52Durham, United States
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My self-summary
Please read my profile before messaging me. Do not message me if you're outside of NC, just looking for some fun, or too disrespectful to carry on a cordial conversation. I am now single again and looking for a new long-term relationship. Just because I'm single doesn't mean I'm desperate. I prefer someone I can go to art shows or concerts with or just hang out in front of the fireplace or the park. I love to sit back and relax, although it takes me a while to get to that point with new people, and yes I cry at the sad movies, sometimes like a baby. I like to cook and do a pretty good job of it, I can work on cars and help in the yard but ***spoiler alert**** I've never been a great housekeeper, I'm not a slob but my house usually looks lived in, it'll never stay spotless... I am smart enough to re-wire the starting system on a Harley from blue prints but I have no college degrees yet, (partially because I married young and blessed the world with three wonderful children at an early age.) I am studying for my CAPM certification. This world we live in is constantly changing and I'm steadily grabbing onto whatever I can to stay alive. I love doing things, going places, playing games (not the rude mind variety) dancing and living for the first time in my life. I AM NOT INTERESTED IN CASUAL SEX, phone/text/video sex, or helping you cheat on your unsuspecting spouse, so please don't ask. Myers-Briggs = ENFJ Wow, who knew?! Actually, I'm a conditional extrovert, if I'm around people I know and trust I'm extroverted but if I'm around strangers where I feel unaccepted, I can become very introverted.
What I’m doing with my life
Turning it upside down and shaking it to see what's left inside. Honestly I work 40+ hours a week, I'm writing on 2 of 4 of my books, I write poetry, sometimes songs, draw, paint, dance, sing (usually out of tune) and I am trying to teach myself to play the guitar. I really want to get back to my art more, encouragement in that area would be a major plus! Oh, and going back to school for Certified Associate Project Management!
I’m really good at
I was raised by my Grandmother so I'm a pretty good cook. I can sew too but don't do it often.
I am really good at fixing things and making things and sometimes fixing things I made! lol I REALLY love problem solving, give me a puzzle/problem and I'll solve it or go mad trying! Most recently I was tasked with helping friends re-cover their cat tower, it turned out much more fun than I could have thought.
I usually fix my own car, occasionally my friend's cars and my adult children's cars.
I have started a mural on one wall of my home office, it's not bad but a work in progress to say the least.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I'm almost 6 ft tall (taller in shoes) and some say my smile, my eyes or my laughter.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My favorite books were Rose Madder - Stephen King, Shawshank Redemption, and Dead Zone. Recently I read Still Life by Louise Penny and loved it, so I worked my way through half of the series now and have an autographed copy of one of her books.
Movies: I love animated movies: Finding Nemo, Beauty and the Beast, but Land Before Time is my favorite (yes I'm a kid at heart), regular movies would be Overboard, Green Mile, Labyrinth except at Christmas during which time I MUST watch A Christmas Carol, but not just one, as many different ones as I can find.
Shows: The Mentalist and Bones and Game of Thrones, but I am also getting caught up in Elementary, Sherlock, Mid-sommer Murders and Big Bang Theory.
Music: a little bit of everything from Country when I'm working, Rock (sometimes country or metal) when I'm driving and classical or Savatage (now known as Trans-Siberian Orchestra) when I'm drawing or painting. Rock, metal or some rap while I'm cleaning.
Food: Chinese food, steaks & baked potatoes, burgers out on the grill........... most anything, I'm really a foodie at heart.
Six things I could never do without
Chocolate, my kids, GOD, my friends, love and hugs.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Stupid stuff. Which project to work on next. How can we solve world hunger when so many people value money, property and status more than another human life? Why do people hate so much? What can I do to make a difference? The spiral continues from there.
On a typical Friday night I am
Playing racquetball then at socials and/or with friends. Occasionally I'm snuggled up in bed reading or working on my latest project or studying. I love to get friends together for games!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
You'll find out when you get to know me, but I can be quiet and shy when we first meet but don't let that fool you because once I'm comfortable I could talk the ears off a mule. If there's anything in particular you want to know just ask but please make sure you really want to know before you ask.

P.S. The first thing I usually notice about someone is eyes and smile, if they say you're friendly and caring that's a good start. Also if you can make me laugh that's a plus.
You should message me if
1. You read my profile and would still like to meet.
2. Understand what respect means.
3. Are looking for a relationship, not a hook-up or FWB
4. You are a kind, friendly, and fun-loving person, who would like to spend time with another kind, friendly, and fun-loving person.
5. Even if you are a few miles outside of my chosen preferences but still in NC, say hi, they are more guidelines than absolutes. I've found that just when you think you know exactly what you want, someone wonderful will completely change your mind!
6. Do Not message me if you live in another state or country!! I want an actual close relationship not an online chat/ telephone or video sex partner, someone you call when you happen to be near my location, and not a long distance relationship.
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