35Oulu, Finland
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My self-summary
I'm a bit odd.
I feel this is a good thing.

More often than not, I come across as being more than a little dorky, but I'm by no means that nerdiest kid on the block.

I can switch between being introverted and extroverted fairly well, and I need to spend time doing both in equal amounts. As a result, you will often find me reading in public; it's the best of both worlds. Come talk, and I'll quickly set down the book or iPad to converse. I may live in my head a little more that is strictly recommended, but I'm more than willing to come out and play.

I already had a degree in psychology before coming to Finland, but I went back for another in global software development. The change in gears has been an interesting one, though I'm still not sure where it will take me. For right now, I'm working as a consultant, helping design solutions to help other companies improve their task flow and product/systems usability. It is a nice combination of my two degrees, but I hope to shift into working for a real firm.

I'm happily married, but don't let that scare you off. If you know nothing about open relationships and/or polyamory, ask. I'm not looking for a secondary, but rather another equal. Hierarchy is for businesses, not relationships.

I'm not a fan of gender norms. Everyone can do everything.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm still trying to figure this part out.
I hope to have it at least half solved by the time I die.

I've been living life back and forth between Finland and the U.S., but I will hopefully be staying put in Finland for a while. The country hopping has been a result of a long series of complicated events, which I don't think I'd've ever chosen on my own. Given this, I'm glad I had the chance to be lost for a while, as I've learned a lot and grown as a person.

Now that I'm back in Finland, I still have no clue how things will end up, but I'm looking forward to continuing the journey.
I’m really good at
A number of different things, but none of the ones popping into my head have any real-world applications.

After forcing myself to think about it, I'd say I have fairly good people-reading skills. I'd also like to think that I multitask well.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have a face?

I'm not from around here?

Aside from that, I don't think I'm all that much of an open book. I don't try to hide much, but I just don't wear my personality on my sleeve.

To be honest, I'd really like to know the answer to this question, since I'm not one of the people doing the noticing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Hard science-fiction
Far reaching, cold, vacuum of space, polymer and metal, space operas. I venture away from this as often as not though. I almost always have something to read with me.

Movies: Tragic
If the hero died, I probably liked it. If the villain was glorified, more of the same. Really though, I'll watch almost anything. Please note that I reserve the rights to utilizing the "almost" in the previous sentence.

Music: Loud & synthetic
I was briefly an industrial/synth-pop DJ for a small club in Portland, Maine. I miss music greatly, since Oulu is not on the tour routes for anything but poorly aging metal bands.

Food: Worldly and meatless
I last intentionally ate meat some time in 1998, yet I still consider myself to be a foodie. It can be done. Asian influence is a plus, but not required.

Do note that I'm not vegan; I'm NEVER going to give up cheese, as it is a gift from the gods.
Six things I could never do without
Good people
Dark chocolate
A serviceable pair of shoes
A good, or at least entertaining, book
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Rules, laws, mores, societal expectations and how to get around them. Culture shock and how assumptions shape our lives.

As a bit of a country hopper, I'm constantly in the possition of having to start this proccess over again. Still, I think knowing is worth the effort.
On a typical Friday night I am
Trying to be awesome.

"Trying" may, rather unfortunately, be the operative word, but I'll get there sooner or later.

I spend most Fridays in, but I'm happy to tag along if anyone has any brilliant ideas.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm sure this is unoriginal, but doesn't it stop being private if I admit to it on OK Cupid?

If you really want to know something about me, why don't you ask? There are very few things I won't tell someone if asked directly.
You should message me if
1) There is something you want to know.
2) You have something you want me to know.
3) You have read this far.
The two of us