I__can__dance
60 Portland, United States
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My self-summary
I can dance and I can cook. What else do you need to know?

A conversation is worth 10 times a profile, and there's no substitute for spending time together. Nevertheless...

My love languages in order are (from the Book, The Five Love Languages):

physical touch
words of affirmation
quality time
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acts of service
gifts

I think it's important that we share the same top 3.

I see myself as

strong left brain and also strong right brain. Not your stereotypical engineer.
secure and understanding
open and honest
engaging to talk with
women consistently say that they feel comfortable with me right away
witty (eye of the beholder)
passionate
perceptive
sometimes particular

Potential downsides

not a sports fan
not into travel by airplane
views dogs, cats, and horses as mostly a burden, albeit with lovely personalities and comforting demeanors

Personal growth is the biggest motivator in my choice of career and activities. Past examples include, in chronological order (stop laughing): running; study of chemical engineering; tour cycling; study of English literature and writing; Chinese-style cooking; free diving for abalone; pistol target and action shooting; gentleman ranching; sailboat racing crew; study of psychology, counseling, and business leadership; rough water sea kayaking and Greenland-style rolling; steel tip darts (fail); chess; study of software engineering; dancing; guitar (fail.) Emphasis on the word "past" for most of these. I just don't enjoy the outdoor sports the way I used to. Dancing is my main recreation now; Country, WCS, Blues, Waltz eclectic. Walking and social/intellectual activities are still good.

profession - Enjoying my job more than ever. I work with a great team, latest technologies, and I get paid to learn. Software development operations (DevOps) engineer since 2009. Chemical engineer and management in semiconductor and IC manufacturing development for 24 yrs before that.

Was married for 33 years. Separated then divorced, since December, 2012. Low baggage.

I'm looking for an easy, simple relationship. Someone to be close to, share activities, a meal, walks together, holding hands, occasional road trips, dance practice and social dancing.

I've said all along that I'd like a long term relationship. I think I've just recently become the person who could be in a long term relationship. It really does take time. My daughter once talked with me about whether or not she should marry a specific guy. The only advice I gave her was that I think she should ask herself if it feels right emotionally and if it makes sense rationally. Both need to be there. Same advice I'd give myself for an LTR. In my marriage my ex and I both settled. I'm not looking to do that again.

Characteristics I'm looking for in a long term partner. (this is the rational part)

roughly matched financially
we click physically and emotionally
high integrity
we share some of the same interests. Especially dancing.

Musts
- STD free
- not prone to addictions
- you had a reasonably healthy upbringing

Fun facts and other white lies

I was once kicked out of private daycare. It wasn't my fault! The kid wouldn't let my twin sister play in the sandbox.

I passed the Navy Seals swim and run test in Navy boot camp. Never mind that it was 40 years ago and I failed the push-ups.

I have pattern baldness in the back.

I can almost juggle.

Guess which one is a lie.
What I’m doing with my life
Studying the latest software technologies.
Dating a little
Dancing a lot
I’m really good at
Reading people.
The first things people usually notice about me
My voice. That I'm comfortable to talk with.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Anything with great English usage. Formerly Russian and other classics in English, Terry Pratchett's Disc World series for its humor. Stories with a strong human side. Mostly software study now.

Music: Pretty flexible. I enjoy seeing what you like. As for my own taste, lately, for everyday around the house and working; Everlast, Plush, Alice in Chains, Nirvana, Stevie Ray Vaughan, Santana. For romantic, easy listening; Carla Bruni is great (I feel like I'm in a French Villa when I listen to her,) and lots of other possibilities. For reading, or deep relaxation; classical crossover vocals, classical guitar, some opera with emphasis on female vocals. Country, folk, oldies, offbeat stuff, all ok. Not into metal nor the nastier hiphop. Not that into classic rock any more.

Fav Movies: Good Will Hunting, Rounders. Movies based on true stories. Dramas. Intrigue.

TV: I have a TV with internet only; Hulu, Amazon, Netflix, TED talks. Watch sporadically. Favorites are some of the epic series; The Shield, Breaking Bad, The Newsroom. Social/competition shows; Survivor, Master Chef.
The six things I could never do without
The female gender
Computers, internet, smart phone
Hiking boots
Dance shoes
Physical exercise
Books
Music
Human touch
Intellectual activity
Leeway to break the rules (as lightly illustrated here.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
- Hmm, should I date that person or not?
- If I could live anywhere in the US, where would I want to live?
- If I could live anywhere in the world, where would I want to live?
- Professional development.
On a typical Friday night I am
out with you?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
See my white lies section : ).
You should message me if
You think we'd be a good match and you think I'd think so too.
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