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My self-summary
I can dance and I can cook. What else do you need to know?

OK fine, there might be more worth knowing...

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My love languages in order are (from the Book, The Five Love Languages):

physical touch
words of affirmation
quality time
acts of service

I think it's important that we share the same top 3.

I see myself as

strong left brain and also strong right brain. Not your stereotypical engineer.
secure and understanding.
open and honest.
engaging to talk with.
women consistently say that they feel comfortable with me right away
witty (eye of the beholder)
physically and emotionally passionate
sometimes particular
views pets as mostly a burden, albeit with lovely personalities and comforting demeanors
a sharer. Music, movies, books, restaurant menu--I'm interested in what you like.
unique mix of self absorbed and outward looking. It's important to me that the people around me are happy and fulfilled.

Personal growth is the biggest motivator in my choice of career and activities. I like getting good at things that enable unique experiences. Past examples include, in chronological order (stop laughing): running; study of chemical engineering; tour cycling; study of English literature and writing; Chinese-style cooking; free diving for abalone; pistol target and action shooting; gentleman ranching; sailboat racing crew; study of psychology, counseling, and business leadership; rough water sea kayaking and Greenland-style rolling; steel tip darts (fail); chess; study of software engineering; social dancing, solid intermediate country two step, cross step waltz, west coast swing; guitar (fail.) Emphasis on the word "past" for most of these. I just don't enjoy the outdoor sports the way I used to. Light hiking, walking, dancing, and social/intellectual activities are still good.
(Is this list a little too much? Come on, be honest.)

profession - Enjoying my job more than ever. I work with a great team, latest technologies, and I get paid to learn. Software development operations (DevOps) engineer since 2009. Chemical engineer and management in semiconductor and IC manufacturing development for 24 yrs before that.

Was married for 33 years. Separated then divorced, since December, 2012. Low baggage.

I'm looking for an easy, simple relationship. Someone to be close to, share activities, a meal, walks together, holding hands, occasional road trips, dance practice and social dancing. I yearn for a steady relationship but I'm particular. It would have to be really right for both of us.

Characteristics I'm looking for in a partner.

roughly matched financially
warm, secure personality
high integrity
we share some of the same interests. Especially dancing.

- not prone to addictions
- you had a reasonably healthy upbringing
- I used to have "STD free" here, but I've crossed over to the HSV-2 side of the population.

Fun facts and other white lies

I was once kicked out of private daycare. It wasn't my fault! The kid wouldn't let my twin sister play in the sandbox.

I passed the Navy Seals swim and run test in Navy boot camp. Never mind that it was 40 years ago and I failed the push-ups.

I have pattern baldness in the back.

I can almost juggle.

Guess which one is a lie.
What I’m doing with my life
Studying software
Dating a little
I’m really good at
Reading people.
The first things people usually notice about me
My voice. Engaging conversation.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Anything with great English usage. Formerly Russian and other classics in English, Terry Pratchett's Disc World series for its humor. Stories with a strong human side. Mostly software study now. Currently reading Winterdance, and Geek Love.

Music: Pretty flexible. I enjoy seeing what you like. As for my own taste, lately, a lot of the west coast swing tunes, sort of a blues meets funk meets contemporary sometimes with just a hint of hiphop here and there. For romantic, Carla Bruni is great (I feel like I'm in a French Villa when I listen to her,) and lots of other possibilities. For reading, or deep relaxation; classical crossover vocals, classical guitar, some opera with emphasis on female vocals. Country, folk, oldies, offbeat stuff, all ok. Not into metal nor the nastier hiphop. Not that into classic rock any more.

Fav Movies: Good Will Hunting, Rounders. Movies based on true stories. Dramas. Intrigue.

TV: I have a TV with internet only; Hulu, Amazon, Netflix, TED talks. Watch sporadically. Favorites are some of the epic series; The Shield, Breaking Bad, The Newsroom, Game of Thrones, Homeland. Social/competition shows; Survivor, Master Chef. Shark tank.
Six things I could never do without
The female gender
Computers, internet, smart phone
Hiking boots
Dance shoes
Physical exercise
Human touch
Intellectual activity
Leeway to break the rules (as lightly illustrated here.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
- Dance moves.
- Should I date that person or not?
- What can I create that would be amazing and useful.
- If I could live anywhere in the US, where would I want to live?
- If I could live anywhere in the world, where would I want to live?
- Professional development.
On a typical Friday night I am
out with you?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
See my fun facts and other white lies : ).
You should message me if
You think we'd be a good match and you think I'd think so too.
The two of us