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My self-summary
I am a Nerd. And a Jock. I am consistently amazed and awestruck by the beauty and complexity of life and our universe. I am looking for other people to share with on this cosmic journey.

I am an extreme extrovert - I get a kick out of socializing, and meeting new people excites me. I am a ball of energy and I am looking for people to keep up with me (yes that is a challenge).

I invented the portmanteau "sunbrella", which is unfortunately less elegant than the already existing term (parasol).

Damn you, parasol!!!

I am married to the love of my life. We are madly in love with each other and happily nonmonogamous. That means that I am open to new friendships, short-term/long-term lovers, and yes even deeper romantic connections full of emotions. I think a lot of people who are not experienced with nonmonogamy have difficulty imagining how there could be any types of romantic relationships besides casual hookups or the road to marriage (because we aren't taught how to build these other kinds of relationships). I assure you, there are an infinite number of ways that people can relate to each other romantically, and most of them can have plenty of meaning and emotion. I think that a lot of the stress, mismatched desires, and regrets in life come from our cultural unwillingness to explore these gray areas between the two extremes of the romantic relationship spectrum. Open up your imagination a bit and you just might find that you feel electrified and alive with adventure and connection that you never before thought possible.
What I’m doing with my life
I spend a lot of time at school learning about the science and art of healing. If things go as planned, I will be a physician!

In my free time, I fence competitively, sing my heart out, practice Spanish with anyone who's willing, bicycle as much as possible, and generally look for fun adventures.

Other things I love include beer and bourbon, board games, hiking, listening, finding patterns.
The first things people usually notice about me
My distinctive deep voice really stands out. People always tell me I should go into radio. I often wonder if that's a nice way of saying I'm ugly.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Kurt Vonnegut (RIP) is my favorite author. Now (slowly) reading: "Cien Anos de Soledad" por Gabriel Garcia Marquez.

My favorite movie is The Princess Bride.
Now watching: whatever movie you invite me to.

Six Feet Under is my favorite show.
Now watching: Cowboy Bepop.

Favorite band is The Smashing Pumpkins.
Now listening to: TV on the Radio and St. Vincent.

Indian food is my favorite!
Now eating: salads and bacon.

Poly stuff (look at these to learn more about relationships of any kind):

Books - Sex at Dawn, Opening Up, More Than Two
Podcasts - Savage Lovecast, Life on the Swingset, Pedestrian Polyamory
Websites - morethantwo.com
The six things I could never do without
Instead of answering this question, I am going to answer the opposite. Here are six things that I wish would disappear from my life:

1. The many ways the US healthcare system is awful
2. Shitty concrete built-environments taking over our planet
3. Miscommunication (except ones that end up in hilarity)
4. Being traffic
5. Willful ignorance
6. The inevitable slow, cold death of the universe due to ever-increasing entropy and expansion
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Sex, relationships, and communication
Substance use, abuse, and addictions.
Athletics, exercise, and fencing.
Medicine, physiology, and bodies.
Feminism, culture, and social justice.
Fun, adventure, and experience.
You should message me if
If, after reading my impassioned speech in my first section, you are absolutely sure non monogamy is not for you, I recommend you look into some reading about it to get more information (see my books list for suggestions). If you are already poly/open, interested in exploring different relationship styles, or simply freespirited and openminded (and tired of love based on fear and ownership) - please send me a message!

My ideal woman is someone who is wicked smart, funny, and full of positive energy. I'm not opposed to short term casual relationships, but my preference is something more than that. It may not be obvious from my profile, but I actually have a lot going on in my life in addition to my nonmonogamy. My life is full to bursting, and I don't have a ton of time, so please be patient with my schedule.