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My self-summary
I’m an educated urban professional, with beatnik sensibilities and quirky interests & attitudes. I gravitate towards irony & abstraction, but am genuine and kind in how I show up for the people in my life.

I have long~standing, close friendships, and enjoy being part of my family. I volunteer and thrive on community connection. My career generally advances my beliefs & values and affords me a great quality of life.

I was a nerdy kid, who grew up on the fringe of 80s Austin punk and came to love this town deeply. In some ways, not a lot has changed: I still love going to shows, indie films & art openings, collecting old records and exploring. And I'm still engaged by ideas; am always writing & reading about topics that matter to me.

But this geeky cerebralism is balanced by my love of running, playing outside, and goofing around in general. I also meditate and do stuff that keeps me grounded & aware. It seems to work: I’m energetic, healthy and useful to others.
What I’m doing with my life
A few years ago I moved back to Austin, my titular hometown, after living many years in Seattle. I have a little house near Town Lake that has a mid~60s Atomic Ranch style, with elements of minimalism and eco~conscious design. I work just up the trail, in a job that often feels like a calling, but doesn't consume all my time or energy.

Per the "About Me" narrative, I like spending time with friends & family and live a fairly engaged and active life. I also need downtime, though, and seek~out periods of quiet & solitude. I'm a published writer and avid reader.
I’m really good at
showing up; physicality; structure & form; listening; relating; categorizing; melody; fast motion; slow motion; analogy; Balderdash!; conveying a sense; making a mark; making a sandwich; spotting patterns; frivolity; being still
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I’m less self-identified by cultural preferences than I used to be, but no less excited by them.

I love fiction, particularly classics and experimental novels & stories. For the past few years, though, I've mostly read books on urban planning & Buddhism (separately, not as an interdisciplinary field). The former relates to my work; the latter to my general beliefs & values. I also read The Nation, Jacobin, and books on politics, consumerism, and health science.

When I was a little boy, my dad would sing “Puff the Magic Dragon” to me on his guitar when I was taking a bath. As a fringey teen, music was catharsis & release. It all seemed so important.

My tastes include quirky alt~pop I loved in high school, like Sonic Youth; Yo La Tengo, and Young Marble Giants; as well as modern indie (New Pornographers, Guided by Voices); retro pop (The Beatles, The Mamas & The Papas); art rock (Talking Heads, David Bowie); post-punk (Minutemen, Wire, Joy Division); no depression (Luncinda Williams, Nick Lowe); folk (Joni Mitchell, Bob Dylan); and soul/R&B (Aretha Franklin, Bill Withers). And more recently, progressive swing (late period Duke Ellington, Stan Kenton), ambient downtempo, Third Stream jazz, and Brill Building pop.

In college, I lived with a guy who appears in the first scene of Slacker. But I’m not a huge Slacker fan….My tastes in movies are all over the map and not very educated. Here are a few: Being There, Graduation, Woody Allen & John Cassevettes films, Kite Runner, Clerks, The Usual Suspects, Klute, Down by Law, Amelie, High Fidelity, Pulp Fiction, Tell No One. And lots of documentaries about the impacts of food choices on public health & the environment e.g., Forks Over Knives.

I also love going to live theater and comedy. But I'm not very fluent in discussing either and will refrain from listing more stuff.

Usually pretty healthy, with an emphasis on fruits, vegetables, and fish. But decidedly non~purist and also very into southern American, French, Asian, Mexican, and Mediterranean cuisines. Love home~cooked meals & related gatherings.
Six things I could never do without
1. Community, friendship & family: And doing things that connect me to them, like travel, dinner parties, civic activism, road trips...having good times.
2. Reading, writing & music: Absorbing and producing words, sounds, ideas; have published in academic journals & written silly pop songs.
3. Physicality: Vigorous exercise, sometimes to exhaustion, and being strong & capable for as long as possible.
4. Healthy food: which is to say, my Vitamix...and eating consciously.
5. Objects & ephemera: Though in some ways a minimalist, I enjoy surrounding myself w/ art, books, records, and good design.
6. Meditation: I've benefited a lot from regular practice (mainly Vipassana and identify w/ secular strands of American Buddhism, though in a very secular, non~dogmatic way.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Random, fluid, and in no particular order: Swing dancing (its fun~ness & ways I can improve); Home projects (a few remaining interior finish~outs & getting the yard/deck/porch more functional by summer); Women (how multi~faceted & beautiful they are); Articles that I want to write (a couple more in my field, then branching out to new topics); My family (how much I love them); Internal contradictions w/in right~wing political thought; Meditation, food & sleep (how attention to these improves my sense of well~being); Finances (ways to budget & create opportunities).
On a typical Friday night I am
There's no set formula, but seldom is it anything soundbyte-worthy. It's more the vibe than the thing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I got my hand caught in the railing of an escalator when I was 5, because I wanted to see where it disappeared to at the bottom of the stairs. Remember thinking: maybe it went to a magic place, like the train in the wall @ Mr. Roger's house.
You should message me if
You resonate with the foregoing and are open to a long~term connection, but don't consider simple friendliness & fun a waste of time. Intangible relation matters more than particular traits or biographical details.
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