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My self-summary
I no longer serve in the military. I spent 6 years in, and am now out. OKCupid doesn't let you change your username, and I don't feel like making a new account and losing the work on this one.

I am what and who I am. I make no apologies for it, unless I'm wrong. If you don't like it, or can't accept it, you can find another friend. Accept me with open arms, and I'll be one of the most caring people you'll ever find. I take trust seriously. I strive to be worthy of the trust given to me, and expect no less in return. Betray that trust and you'll be fighting a long journey to regain it.

I'm an introvert. I enjoy friends once I make them, but I'm not always the most open to strangers. It takes a lot for me to approach someone I don't know, and it almost always feels awkward to me. Because I take trust so seriously, it can take time to earn it. Once earned, I'm much more open. I treat my friends like most people treat family. I enjoy being social with them. I enjoy the time I spend with them. I strongly believe your family of choice is stronger than your family of blood. You choose them to be family, and continue that choice despite the troubles it may bring you. Choice is stronger than something forced upon you. I have my family of choice, and I value them above all else.

I never really look for a relationship. I let them develop when they flow into my life. Life's a journey, and sometimes people are meant to share that journey with you. Some for longer periods then others. Part of the reason I'm poly is I believe one should be free and open to letting these relationships develop when they chance into our lives.
What I’m doing with my life
Right now I've got my issues that I'm working through, and I've got great partners and great friends to help me through them. I'm not encouraging relationships to form at this point, because I think they'll complicate matters more than they'll help. I'm open to friendships, though.

H-Girl: You're like the polyamory poster boy =p
H-Girl: Ha, I'll give you a cookie if that shows up somewhere in your profile

Stealing [and modifying] a paragraph from Kotodateru:
I'm currently seeing nafakcha and Hakidonmuya and developing something with another person not on OKC, and not really looking for another relationship at this point. They're seeing me, and have their own relationships which I value. *Potential partners do NOT have to get involved with any of them EVER* although they are welcome to, *but we all try to be platonic friends with everyone involved.* I'd love for you to message all of us.
I’m really good at
I'm really good with computers. I touch them and they seem to work. I think they're scared of me.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm told I'm quiet and calming. That it's reassuring to be around me. I guess that's the first thing people notice, and they seem to like it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books... I've read a lot. Some of my favorites are The Wheel of Time series by Robert Jordan, the Honor Harrington series by David Weber (<3 Treecats), as well as several of his other books like Apocalypse Troll and The Excalibur Alternative, the Otherworld series by Kelley Armstrong, The Sword of Truth series by Terry Goodkind, and The Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling. I tend to read in spurts (read whole series of novels in a month) then go for a while without reading much.

Movies... Most of my favorite shows and movies are of the Sci-Fi genre. I tend to like Action movies. Drama and Comedies are also good. Can't say I have a favorite anymore...but movies can (and often do) make me cry. All it takes is a well acted scene of unconditional love, and my eyes tear right up.

Music... I listen to pretty much everything at some point, but I tend to stick to Hip Hop and I guess it's Alternative, or modern rock, pop, er...who knows, too many genres and they all mix and match nowadays. Maybe my radio presets will help for the locals: 95.3, 101.1, 101.9, 106.7, 107.1, all FM.

Food... I've come to realize I'll eat pretty much anything, but I love food that have lots of starches and meat... Pastas, American Chinese food, etc. I tend to prefer simpler meals (sesame chicken and fried rice or spaghetti and meatballs) to complex "weird" ones. I'll try almost anything, but if given a choice, I'll stick with what I know I like.
Six things I could never do without
In an order which doesn't even make sense to me: My computer on the internet, a bed, my car, a friend, my credit card, and something to do.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I spend a lot of time thinking about where I am and how to get closer to where I want to be. It's a daunting task, and one I'm not sure I'm capable of achieving.
On a typical Friday night I am
Lately I don't do much outside the house. When I do get out, it tends to be something involving the local (Brevard) BDSM Scene. There's plenty of groups scattered throughout the county, and usually something going on most weeks. If you'd like to know more or get involved, please ask.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I didn't think The Twilight Saga by Stephenie Meyer was all that bad. Sure, it was sickeningly into the "one true love" who was "destined" to be together in a completely exclusive, all-encompassing type of love that I find objectionable...but it's a cheesy romance novel, I can accept that and get over it. Then sure she took poetic license to re-invent what vampires and werewolves are and what traits they have...and I was actually rather cool with that. She took something that's old and made it new, and was rather creative with it. I can grok that. It all together wasn't that bad of a piece of had a compelling plot that kept me along, and was rather well written...for a cheesy romance novel.
You should message me if
You like something I said, and think we'd get along. Let me know what you liked so we can start an interesting conversation, though.
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