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My self-summary
First off, I'm poly! Secondly, I'm looking for either long-term or casual dating, preferably with someone who actively compliments my current relationship(s).

That being said, if you like talking about psychology, helping make the world a better place however you can, or finding like-minded individuals whom you can converse, keep reading. :)

Let's see. How to summarize myself... I am a total geek and very proud of it! I spend a lot of time working on improving myself intellectually and emotionally. One of my highest priorities is improving the gentleness and clarity of my communication. I sing pretty much constantly, and I love to sit around and play music with people, both casually and with various local bands. I'm also a huge fan of filking, instafilking about pretty much anything, and hosting filk circles.

I have a baseline level of caring about ...everyone, that seems to sit higher than most. I love everybody. Everyone deserves compassion and care and respect and safety and love. And then when I meet people and get to know them personally, I love them even harder. And then sometimes I fall in romantic love with them. But I love everyone, as a rule. Sometimes people behave in ways that are not acceptable and I have to remove them from my life, but even then I still feel compassion for them. It can be kind of exhausting, but as Watsky says, "I prefer it to the alternative."

So I treat people like I love them. Because I do.

I spend most of my time smiling, but I tend to have resting sad face. I'm probably just lost in thought.

I'm polyamorous. :P I consider myself sapiosexual, and pansexual, so keep that in mind when deciding whether to message me or not. (Note: I say sapiosexual because I find smart brainness sexy. I do NOT mean arbitrary test scores (like IQ) or education. I mean being insightful into something. I find artistic brains sexy, and emotionally cognizant brains sexy, and verbal brains sexy, and handcrafting brains sexy.)

I'm kinky, and while I tend toward the submissive and masochistic side of things, I am a switch depending on the partner and my mood.

I love to share knowledge, but if people get into an argument about something where both sides are correct, or worse, both sides are -wrong-, I am liable to jump in with actual facts that diffuse the situation yet make a solid point in regards to whatever they were talking about.

I am determined, loving, and geeky.
What I’m doing with my life
Working on becoming the best version of myself that I can be. I choose to live Kaizen, which translates to "continuous improvement."

More specifically, I'm getting ready to go to Evergreen State College in the fall, working on my BA prior to getting my Montessori teacher's license.
I’m really good at
Counseling, being compassionate, singing, playing guitar, being passionate about other people's passions, learning and growing, babysitting, cutting hair, appreciating people.
The first things people usually notice about me
Judging by the catcalls and stares, probably the size of my breasts. Other than that, likely the fact that I am singing.

Update: according to my boyfriend, the first things people notice about me are the "love and warmth" that I "radiate." xD And that I make those around me happy.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Oh man, this is always one of the more difficult ones. Let's see...

Books: The Miles Vorkosigan Saga by Lois McMaster Bujold, Hello, Cruel World by Kate Bornstein, Anything written by Tamora Pierce, anything written by Laura Ingalls Wilder, anything written by L. M. Montgomary, anything by Terry Pratchett, Anne McCaffrey's books, Neil Gaiman's Sandman, Heinlein, Libba Bray, Asimov, The Fire Within (and it's sequels) by Chris D'Lacey, and many many others.

Movies: The AVENGERS(!!!!!!), Tangled, Kiki's Delivery Service, Howl's Moving Castle, My Neighbor Totoro, Escaflowne, the BBC Pride and Prejudice with Colin Firth, Scott Pilgrim VS. The World, Better Than Chocolate, Labyrinth, The Dark Crystal, Bride and Prejudice, Bend It Like Beckham, WALL-E, The Lion King 1 and 2, Mulan, Hot Fuzz, The World's End, Shaun of the Dead, Paul, The Little Mermaid, and many more I can't think of right now. :) And yeah, I do have a thing for kids movies. ^.^

Webcomics: El Goonish Shive, XKCD, Questionable Content, DMFA, Go Get A Roomie, Gunnerkrigg Court, Sorcery 101, Pictures Of You, Ozzie and Millie, Sandra and Woo...

Shows: Buffy, Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along-Blog, Firefly, Bones, Dr. Who, Torchwood, Phineas and Ferb, Once Upon A Time, Malcolm in the Middle, Tokyo Mew Mew, Danisnotonfire, Psych, New Girl, Bob's Burgers, Blacklist, How I Met Your Mother, Supernatural, Adventure Time, Steven Universe...

Music: This is the worst one. I have a very eclectic taste in music, and I always find it really hard to list it off. This would be one of those things people should ask me about if they are curious. Since I have to make a partial list, here are some of my top favorites: Rise Against, Suzanne Vega, Radiohead, ABBA, Bob Kanefsky, Heather Alexander, Julia Ecklar, Emilie Autumn, Evanescence, Vixy and Tony, Tim Minchin, Amanda Fucking Palmer, Dresden Dolls, Leonard Cohen, Ani DiFranco, Tori Amos, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Frank Hayes, Rammstein, Eisbrecher, Pink Floyd, Mickey Phoenix, Doubleclicks, The Offspring, Seether, Alexander James Adams (who I have now had the pleasure of performing with), Pentatonix, Dessa, Watsky, Barenaked Ladies, Matchbox 20, Weezer, Marcy Playground, Postmodern Jukebox..

Musicals (because this thing doesn't have enough categories): Into The Woods, Phantom Of The Opera, Seussical, Les Miserables, Chasing Nicolette, RENT, Rogers and Hammersteins Cinderella....

Food: Tomatoes, raspberries, bagels with cream cheese and lox, salmon sashimi...

Video Games: WoW, Soul Caliber 5, Skull Girls, Mario Kart, Zelda games (specifically Ocarina of Time), Rock Band, Guitar Hero, DDR...
Six things I could never do without
Music, compassion, my loved ones, people to love me, hope, and the belief that everyone can be helped to grow into themselves and thus have a better quality of life. :)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why life is the way it is, my own psychology, how to help my friends in life, how to better myself in useful ways, the people I love, ways to improve the world, music, beauty, and hope.

...oh. And sex. Lots of thinking about sex. xD

And most recently, how incredibly calming and beautiful the sound of rain outside my window can be on a still night in the city.

And the fact that I am currently a lot like Steven, but oh my god I want to grow up to be Garnet. "I am made of love" is a concept I strive for unceasingly.
On a typical Friday night I am
Either on a date with one of my delightful shiny people, or watching Steven Universe with my dad and sister. :)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
The most private thing I will admit here is that I am diagnosed with multiple mental illnesses. I have type 2 bi polar, ADD, and chronic anxiety. I also have a fairly extensive trauma history. These things make my life a lot harder, but I'm working on not letting them define me.
You should message me if
a) You are higher than an 85% match with me.

b) You are prepared to have read my profile and followed these guidelines (if I get a message from someone who obviously just glanced at my picture and decided to message me, I simply won't respond.)

c) You are interested in actually having conversations, as opposed to simply telling me we should fuck without knowing me at all.
The two of us