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My self-summary
I'll say one thing about heart ache: it helps define what you're looking for.

I'm an open relationship, poly kind of guy. I want a strong relationship with at least one guy, a relationship that meets a lot of my sexual and emotional needs and someone to live with, ultimately. But I also need variety: a variety of kink and sex, of people and personalities, a variety of love.

Sex is a big part of my life. Sex lets me better understand myself, giving me identity and purpose, and giving me something to share and teach to others. Sex is what enables me to form the kinds of friendships and loves that mean the most to me, allowing me to show people who I am and learning who they are, as well. Sex also defines my current career pursuit, with porn and sex toy reviews in mind, and sharing the knowledge I glean from all my sexual endeavors to hopefully help others in search of it.

Gaming is also a big part of my life, and predominant in my life right now. A gaming boyfriend would be cool. I'm mostly a PC gamer right now, and would love to have more people to play with online. But given the opportunity to have gamer friends in real life, board games and dnd-esque role-playing games would be fun, too.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm looking at moving to the Seattle/Tacoma area, probably closer to Tacoma since it's cheaper.

I'm lighting a fire under my ass to get a move on the life I want to have instead of feeling perpetually stuck with the life I have now. Hopefully, moving will be an important step to getting where I want to be.
I’m really good at
Procrastinating and letting anxiety get the better of me.

Being terrible at small talk, but will passionately talk about the stuff I'm interested in.

Did I mention I have asperger's?

Sarcasm was my first language, uncomfortable honesty is becoming my second.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm short and soft spoken.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I don't read books much any more. Nevertheless, Harry Potter, The Lord of the Rings, Good Omens, The Last Herald-Mage trilogy, and Timothy Zahn's Star Wars books have left a lasting impression on me. And while fantasy dominated my earlier reading life, non-fiction has become an increasing focus, to help understand the world around us and the world we currently live in.

My Spotify playlist has Lady Gaga, Pentatonix, Rihanna, Lana Del Rey, Coldplay, Bim (they did Scatterheart), some Adele and David Guetta, a little Shakira and Beyonce. But I grew up on classical music thanks to my parents and love me some Bach and Handel, and the Beatles and hits from that era thanks to my brother.

The movies I tend to watch nowadays are Marvel movies and Pixar and a few other animated movies. The Lord of the Rings movies were epically moving and awesome (as was the music). Despite not knowing the comics it's based on, Scott Pilgrim vs the World was nerdtastic and I binged on that for a bit. Batman Begins was good, but Heath Ledger's Joker was defining. Despite owning the movie, I haven't been able to go back and watch Brokeback Mountain; it softened my stone heart and is the first movie, and still one of very few, that got me to cry.

My PC gaming tastes are pretty wide-ranging, but I greatly prefer cooperative gaming to competitive play in multiplayer settings. Hence why I like Diablo 3, Path of Exile, Warframe, Guild Wars 2, and the like. And, of course, I've got single-player games I like to play, too.

On Youtube I watch a good bit Rooster Teeth's Achievement Hunters and Let's Play channels, and JackSepticEye.

I listen to a good number of podcasts. Rooster Teeth, Always Open, Off Topic, We Have Concerns, The Comedy Button, The Adventure Zone, Risk!, Ear Biscuits now that it's back, Savage Lovecast, The No Safeword Show, and Ungagged Podcast.
Six things I could never do without
Sex, as mentioned before
Gaming, ditto
Fantasizing/Daydreaming, seriously, it's a way of life
Logic, also a way of life
I've been going without love and true family, but that needs to change
Ditto about friends
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I love barebacking so much that I got HIV. You've got another think coming if you think I'm giving that up.

Also, not particularly private, but I couldn't fit it in anywhere else, I'm not an animal/pet person. I don't want to live with pets, and I have a feeling I'll have trouble living with pup and furry kind, at least if it's a major part of your personality.
You should message me if
You're interested in becoming an online-gaming friend.

Relationship-wise, anything will necessarily be short-term until I move to Washington, assuming that plan doesn't fall through. I just don't see how a long-distance thing could work for me, unless it evolves into an online-gaming thing.

Regardless of it being short or long term, though, I'm trans inclusive. I haven't been with a trans guy before, so there's bound to be a bit of learning curve there, but I'm certainly interested.
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