58 St. Louis, United States
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My self-summary
Update 12/07/14
I left my job that keeps me living out of state for most of the year. I'm back to being a year round St. Louis resident. I have also made changes in my dating/relationship direction. This last year, I had two potential LTR that ended abruptly. No bad feelings towards each other. Partly due to my working/living out of state, and also we didn't make it through the adjustments couples go through when trying to graft their lives together. In the end, I decided to go in a direction that several of my friends have. I have become committed to being polyamorous.

People give this title many meanings. For me, it's about making strong connections with others and excepting that I can give and receive many things from more than one person/partner/lover. It means I am not trying to direct or be directed towards a specific agenda. I prefer things develop organically without manipulation. It also means I don't need to end/destroy a current bond to start a new one.

I believe most people put so much pressure on themselves and their loved ones to live up to this idea of what a relationship is supposed to be,and to attain. When things change, we see it as a failure. I prefer to see it as a shift, a change, but not necessarily an ending.

So, if we exchange messages, I hope we see our common interest, enjoy the idea of sharing new interest, and be open to what develops between us.
What I’m doing with my life
Working too much, although I have managed quite a few hikes this year. Enjoying nature when, I can. Considering that I work as an industrial painter, I see an incredible amount of wildlife. Basically all the creatures connected to the Mississippi river. Lots of aquatic birds, reptiles, and unfortunately, Asian carp. Pulling myself away from the internet enough to plant my nose in a good book.

No longer working 60 hour weeks. I have predictable weekends free for social activities.
I’m really good at
Dealing with extreme personalities, listening, being a good confidant, and friend, making a good brunch, wildlife photography, massage.
The first things people usually notice about me
I really do not have a clue.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books; All of Patrick McGinley's books, Bill Bryson, A Pen Warmed- up in Hell by Mark Twain. Most well researched books on history, particularly the one's with behind the scenes activities by our government. Movies include documentaries, plus Coen brothers, Peter Jackson's LOTR, and I plan to see the new movie on Lincoln. I'm a big NPR listener, and for about the last two years, little to no tv. Music ranges from some rock, ballads, Celtic, folk, Classical, opera and others. I love most ethnic foods from Mexican to Indian. Recently enjoyed a raw (ish) food dinner with friends. Red wine, and mimosas along with some micro beers.
The six things I could never do without
Nature, camera, family, friends, newspapers, natural bodies of water, and coffee.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Health and future.
On a typical Friday night I am
I may be at home recovering from the week, having a friend or two over, or getting out for dinner and entertainment. I enjoy my neighborhood (Tower Grove South) and all that it has to offer. so I would enjoy showing it off to someone new.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Well, perhaps this is judgmental of me, but when I see selfies taken in the bathroom, I can be extremely critical. Tacky bathroom decor is a game ender. ;-)

But wait!! There's more!! So as not to eliminate this opportunity to date me, please note correct answers on two questions here. The glove turned inside out fits on the opposite hand, and the sun is larger than the moon.

Last private thing I'll admit is that I can be a self deprecating smart ass. But usually not at the same time ;-)
You should message me if
You enjoy nature, photography, water. Environmental issues are important to you. You have a more relaxed personality. Not into high drama, and you also are willing to take time getting to know someone. The journey can be as great as reaching the destination.

I would add that my sense of humor can range from dry and abstract, to just plain silly. Laughter is very attractive on a woman.

You should message me if you want to learn how to see a spider at night from a distance of fifty feet. If this makes you curious, we may click!