31Phoenix, United States
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My self-summary
If you like seeing new things or want to share the good stuff with someone else, let me know. I don't get to live forever so I don't see the use in a relationship that doesn't push me to live to the fullest. I want to go hiking with you, or dancing, or wine tasting, or horseback riding. I will also relish the nights we order Chinese and watch a bunch of movies.

Basic facts: Former Military, plan to retire into a teaching job somewhere, and I like a good strong single malt scotch to diffuse the anomie of Western Civilization.
What I’m doing with my life
The idea of a relationship for me is becoming focused on what I can accomplish with another person that I can't accomplish alone. The obvious thing there is a family, but I think that's just one aspect. I am talking about sharing a calling.

That could mean a lot of things. I don't know exactly and suspect I won't until a good way into the relationship. It could be going to Turkey or Greece to help refugees, it could be proof reading each other's work or even running a business. I have a daydream of becoming a shepherd, moving to Wales, and doing the whole bard thing. All I know is that I think a marriage means more than sharing a bed. It's about joint ownership of our lives, whatever that entails.
I’m really good at
Words. Lots of 'em.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm slightly under 6'5", which confuses all the guys who are 6'6" and shorter than me. I have a deep voice. I'm getting worried that this is the total depth of the average human's perception.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books. I like them. Definitely a fan of the heavier sort, Hegel, Baudelaire, Homer... you know, dead guys, frequently German. I also have a soft spot for the better "children's" books, like The Little Prince and Winnie the Pooh. I do read other, more age-appropriate things for fun. Most recently I read The Wake, which you should read too.

My favourite movies: High Noon, OCTPOB, Casablanca, The Seventh Seal, Shadowlands, Andrei Rublev, Harvey, Up!...

Music: Welsh folk, Phish, Fleet Foxes, Earl Scruggs, Hank William Sr, Bowie, Grateful Dead, Led Zeppelin, the Stones, Beck, Rjd2 Palestrina, Bach, Beethoven, Mussorgsky, Ralph Vaughn Williams, Gerald Finzi, Benjamin Britten, John Tavener, Chesnokov, Blues, old-time, quality Jazz, and other likely randomness.
Six things I could never do without
I'm changing this to rather not do without. Less drastic that way.

My computer (income)
The Welsh Rugby Team
local pub
Something to read
A hat
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I'm going to write next
Philosophy of History
Tech, games, and how they're changing how we interact
What I'm eating for dinner
How to grow the business side of the writing thing
All of the above in the context of the Orthodox Church
On a typical Friday night I am
Usually writing, with friends, or watching something stupid on Netflix.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
For the first nine months of living in Phoenix I did not own a bed, and did not sleep in one aside from a brief visit home. I now own a mattress, and am considering not getting the box spring or frame since I'd have to give up so much floor space. As it stands I can prop the mattress against the wall and pull it down when I need it - like an old school P.I. in the movies.
You should message me if
You aren't appalled yet if you're curious, please write, and start with the stuff that doesn't sit well with you. I'm generally open to random letters, but please don't expect much else to come of it at first. If I decide to pursue you romantically (this will take a few responses) I don't plan on being subtle.

Don't tell me I'm perfect or write anything resembling "where have you been all my life". I can do nothing good for a woman that can't see my faults. We're all broken, which means (among other things) that we all make terrible crutches. That doesn't mean I won't do my best to support you or catch you when you fall, but it does mean I can't fix anything in you you don't fix yourself.
The two of us