32Phoenix, United States
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My self-summary
If you like seeing new places and generally want to share the better bits of life, let me know. I don't see the use in a relationship that doesn't push both of us towards doing more with our lives. I want to go hiking with you, or dancing, or wine tasting, or horseback riding, though right now I'm leaning heavily towards Scuba diving. We should also order Chinese and watch a bunch of very old movies.

Basic facts: Former Military, plan to retire into a teaching job somewhere, and I like a good single malt scotch to diffuse the anomie of Western Civilization.
What I’m doing with my life
The goal of a relationship for me is to help each other be better at being ourselves. Obviously I'd like to wind up with someone with a lot of shared interests, but the only truly essential bit is that we help each other fulfill our respective callings.

That could mean a lot of things. I don't know exactly and suspect I won't until I get there. All I know is that I think a marriage means more than sharing a bed. It's about joint ownership of our lives, whatever that entails.
I’m really good at
Words. Lots of 'em.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm slightly under 6'5", which confuses all the guys who are 6'6" and somehow shorter than me. I'm getting worried that this is the total depth of the average human's perception.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books. I like them. Definitely a fan of the heavier sort, Hegel, Baudelaire, Homer... you know, dead guys, frequently German. I also have a soft spot for the better "children's" books, like The Little Prince and Winnie the Pooh. I do read other, more age-appropriate things for fun. Most recently I read The Wake, which you should read too.

My favourite movies: High Noon, OCTPOB, Casablanca, The Seventh Seal, Shadowlands, Andrei Rublev, Harvey, Up!...

Music: Welsh folk, Phish, Fleet Foxes, Earl Scruggs, Hank William Sr, Bowie, Grateful Dead, Led Zeppelin, The Who, The Stones, Beck, Rjd2, Palestrina, Bach, Beethoven, Mussorgsky, Ralph Vaughn Williams, Gerald Finzi, Benjamin Britten, John Tavener, Chesnokov, Blues, old-time, quality Jazz, and other likely randomness.
Six things I could never do without
I'm changing this to rather not do without. Less drastic that way.

Other books
Different music entirely
My bike
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I'm going to do in the next hour aside from scheming about what I'm going to do in the next hour
Philosophy of History,
Tech, games, education, and the other stuff that gets me paid
What I'm eating for dinner
All of the above in the context of the Orthodox Church
On a typical Friday night I am
Usually writing, with friends, or watching something stupid on Netflix.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
For the first nine months of living in Phoenix I did not own a bed, and did not sleep in one aside from a brief visit home.
You should message me if
You aren't appalled yet.
If you're curious, please write, and start with the stuff that doesn't sit well with you. I'm generally open to random letters, but please don't expect much else to come of it at first. If I decide to pursue you romantically (this will take a few responses) I don't plan on being subtle.

Don't tell me I'm perfect or write anything resembling "where have you been all my life". I can do nothing good for a woman that can't see my faults. Also it's just really bad writing and I can't abide that.
The two of us