35Somerville, United States
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My self-summary
First thing you should know about me is that I moved from Boston to San Diego earlier this year. I know that's confusing, because my profile still says Somerville. The reason I haven't changed it is because I have the sort of job where I don't want my clients to be finding me on dating sites and I haven't figured out a way to have a profile that shows my new location without running the risk of it being seen by the wrong people and awkward situations ensuing.

That means that if you're still reading this you're either planning a cross-country move (lucky coincidence!), you're just bored and will read anything, or you live in California and I've already messaged you myself.

So, now that that's out of the way...

My highschool senior class voted me as the "most unique." Since then I've mainstreamed quite a bit, but I still think of myself as a social weirdo. I'm an INTP on my Myers Briggs, which feels pretty accurate to me. That means I'm introverted (prefer a small group to a big party), intuitive (comfortable with ambiguity and layered meanings), thinking (I react to situations with my mind, rather than with my emotions), and perceiving (I take a long time to make decisions). However my professional persona requires me to be outgoing and deal with emotions a lot, so people don't always realize what an introverted nerd I am until they get to know me.

I'm a Unitarian Universalist and that is a big part of my life. I'm happy to date people of any religion or lack-thereof, as long as they are accepting of my own.
What I’m doing with my life
I just moved across the country for a new job, bringing only what I could fit into a U-Haul pod. Having spent my whole life until now in the Northeast and Canada, I'm still getting used to year-round sandals and needing sunglasses. Also, after many years of grad school, internships, and multiple work-from-home jobs, and moving 10 times in 10 years, I'm really liking having finally "arrived" in the career I've been training for and living in a place I plan to stay in. For the first time ever I am thinking of buying real furniture (that doesn't come flat-packed!). I don't know many people in San Diego yet, so I'm looking for ways to get more involved in the community, meet people, and find my niche.
I’m really good at
Typing very fast without looking at the computer; Handling a crisis; Giving massages to pets; Writing on a deadline; Making decent meals out of random ingredients in my cabinet; Packing light; Harmonizing with songs; and I'm incredibly - almost pathologically - patient.
The first things people usually notice about me
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read and watch a lot of scifi and fantasy, including the bad stuff (especially the bad stuff?). My favorite author is Ursula LeGuin, whose stuff is not at all bad. I've read all of the Game of Thrones series, which was alright but not mind-blowing. I loved The Hunger Games and Harry Potter, so I guess my fantasy lit tastes are just more juvenile than most people's?

I can get into music of any genre, but I tend to get bored if it's too "pretty." Some of my all-time favorite music includes Baden Powell (check out his version of "Round About Midnight"), Elliott Smith, the soundtrack to Hedwig and the Angry Inch ("Midnight Radio" is my current favorite song, but there's an awesome cover by Cyndi Lauper that is amazing) and Ellen Greene singing as Audrey in Little Shop of Horrors (she dominates in "Suddenly Seymour").

My taste in movies and TV tends to run geeky. I love everything by Miyazake and Studio Ghibli, even the sad stuff. I like movies that are mind-bendy or visually stunning or that have fantastic adventures. I generally go out to movies for a fun escape, rather than to learn serious things or have deep thoughts, but I can appreciate when deep thoughts work their way in. I really liked the new Guardians of the Galaxy movie and I'm really eager to see the next Hunger Games. I think we're in a golden age of great television, but I've gotten behind on watching shows because I've been saving the good ones for when I have people to discuss them with. My guilty pleasure is the syfy network - Haven, Defiance, Lost Girl. I won't argue that these are quality shows, but sometimes I like to give my brain a rest. Oh, but speaking of quality shows, David Tennant is my favorite Doctor (isn't he everybody's favorite Doctor?). His face is just so expressive!

I love food, and will try almost anything once. At home I tend to cook vegetarian, but there are so many great restaurants around that I don't cook at home as much as I should. I love that there's so much good seafood in San Diego, particularly the Mexican seafood places. Before I moved here I'd had good tacos maybe twice in my whole life. Now I have amazing tacos whenever I want. I'll never get bored of that. Also, before I die I'd like to take an eating tour through Southeast Asia, although the best meal I ever had was grilled mackerel with bread and olives at a cafe near Lisbon.
Six things I could never do without
Green tea; My laptop (it's more like an appendage). That's it, i think. I guess I can do without most things. Actually, some of my happiest times have been when I've lived for a long period with nothing more than the contents of my backpack. Writing this makes me want to get rid of most of my stuff. And go on a trip.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My life has been such a whirlwind lately that I haven't had a lot of time to just think. Most of my thoughts have been about my work, which is great and challenging and thought-provoking. I guess I've also been wondering where the nerds are in San Diego. Having spent the last few years in the Cambridge/Somerville area, I'm used to being around lots of nerds all the time. They're sorta my people.
On a typical Friday night I am
Hopefully, trying out one of the great restaurants in my neighborhood--North Park--with someone and having a thought-provoking conversation.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm pretty vain (I work really hard to look like I fall out of bed looking this good!). That said, my clothes and appearance are a creative outlet for me, so I'm less concerned about meeting some generic standard of beauty than I am about expressing myself, which sometimes results in some strange outfits. I tend to like guys who enjoy getting dressed up too. This new trend where guys dress like they just walked out of either an H.G. Wells novel or O Brother Where Art Thou makes me happy.
You should message me if
You're an intellectually curious person who cares a lot about interpersonal ethics and social justice, who approaches new situations with an open mind, who generally chooses "better" over "bigger," who's comfortable being quiet with another person, who's willing to face scary things, and who might be interested in getting together some time for a cup of tea.
The two of us