Comic book author, horror movie and lit connoisseur, medieval European martial arts enthusiast, walking encyclopedia of useless trivia, collector of monster toys, cultural dumpster diver. Basically an old Punk/Goth morphed into a big, fuzzy Hippie. Major league Leftie/Progressive, but also totally OLD-SCHOOL in many ways. I am the Anti-Player. I am the white Barry White. (And if you don't know who Barry White is, please rectify that immediately.)
I value honor and honesty above all else, so this is going to be a warts-n'-all type of profile. You can be assured that pictures of me are recent and that my age is correct. What you see is what you get. I'm chunky but losing weight, thanks to a healthy diet (fruits and veggies are a wonderful thing) and martial arts. I will, however, never be skinny, so if rail-thin pretty boys are your thing, I ain't your guy.
I've been a freak/mutant/misfit/outsider all of my life and usually have difficulty connecting to people who aren't at least a little "weird" or "different" themselves.
Two years ago I got out of a 11 year relationship (that should have ended a lot sooner) and feel like I'm ready to start dating again. My lady friends tell me this site is loaded with a billion dudes and a handful of women, but f-ck it - you gotta be in it to win it, right?
People describe me as mellow, easy-going, openly affectionate (I'm a big hugger), a good listener (people tend to call me when they're in crisis) honest and loyal (sometimes to a fault). On the down-side, I can be obsessive, stubborn and spacey (that would be my ADD), with a tendency to live inside my own head or with my nose in a book. I also grew up on George Carlin and Richard Pryor, so it's a given that I'm a bit of a god-damned fuckin' potty mouth.
I'm a sucker for brainy women. Intelligence is a MUST and creativity a huge plus. Body-wise I like everything from androgynous women with slim, boyish bodies to women with curvy, zaftig figures and everything in between. I guess I just like women in general, and personality is more important to me than body-type. I'm just lucky in that respect. If I like you, trust me, I'm going to like your body.
I'm a book person whose home looks like a library (and it functions as one for my friends). A cultural omnivore who find no meaningful distinction between so-called "high art" and "trash". There's no rule you can't love Shakespeare *and* Russ Myer. And if there were, I would tell it to go F itself.
If you have kids, don't sweat it - I love kids. I don't have any of my own, but friend's kids adore me and I love 'em to bits. I'm a "cat person" but ADORE dogs as well. If you don't love or at least *like* animals I don't even want to know you. Seriously.
Politically I'm on the "far Left" of the American political spectrum (in Europe I'd be in the center). I'm a Democratic Socialist, a registered Green and always vote third party. I'm reluctant to call myself a "Liberal", since being a Liberal these days evidently means supporting drone killings, indefinite detention, torture and warrant-less wiretapping. To me, "Democrat" and "Republican" are just brand choices, like Coke or Pepsi: either way you basically get the same thing and they're both bad for you.
Religion-wise I'm a Gnostic Christian with Valentinian leanings. Confused? Yeah, that's why I usually just say "Christian", although I'm probably not like any Christian you've ever met. I believe in science, for one thing. I believe in evolution, am stridently PRO-CHOICE, pro-marriage equality and, since I take the Bible very seriously I do not take it LITERALLY. I believe in Freedom of Religion, the very heart of which is freedom *from* religion. You know those folks who think Jesus rode around on dinosaurs, hate on gay people and are pro-war and pro-death penalty? Yeah, I ain't one of them.
What am I looking for? A good-hearted, compassionate woman with a great sense of humor, a positive outlook, a sense of honor and someone who, as a rule, doesn't play head-games. You don't have to be religious or even believe in God, but you have to have a CODE (preferably one that puts people before personal gain).
Oh, and a nice round, firm, pinch-able butt would be cool, too.
Currently working on two books: one fiction (a "Weird West" novel) and the other non-fiction called TREASURES OF TRASH CINEMA. I'm miserable unless I'm always working on something.
I'm also the co-president of Rockland Depression-Bipolar Support Alliance (R-DBSA) a local support group focused on helping people with mood disorders. I've been with the group for five years and have found it immensely rewarding helping people live with and manage their illnesses. I'm a strong believer that you get out of life what you *give* and that the best way to help yourself is to help *others*.
Talking people down off ledges.
Finishing what I start.
Staying focused and positive.
Pep talking people.
Learning completely useless skills (like sword-fighting or pistol-twirling)
Talking your ear off about cult movies, horror films and comic books.
Non-Fiction: Chris Hedges, Howard Zinn, lots of history. The Aztecs, the Vikings and Weimar Germany are probably my favorite subjects at the moment.
Novels/Short Stories: Philip K. Dick, Joe R. Lansdale (who loves my comic, by the way), F. Paul Wilson, H.P. Lovecraft, Robert E. Howard, Edgar Rice Burroughs, Alexander Dumas, Shakespeare, Dickens, Poe, Tolkein, C.S. Lewis, Arthur Machen, William Hope Hodgeson, M.R. James, George R.R. Martin (been a HUGE fan going back to his early Sci-Fi/horror days), Flannery O'Connor, Shirley Jackson, Oscar Wilde, Cervantes, Victor Hugo, Alexander Dumas and Ray Bradbury. Did I mention Joe Lansdale loves my comic?
Movies: I am a horror connoisseur to the point of snobbery, with a particular affinity for European horror of the 50's, 60's and 70's (i.e. Mario Bava, Lucio Fulci, Dario Argento, Jean Rollin, Hammer). Also a big fan of George Romero, David Lynch, David Cronenberg, Terry Gilliam, Johnny To, Alex de la Iglesias, Guilermo del Toro, Alejandro Jodorowsky and Wong Kar Wai. I draw no distinction between "art" films and exploitation movies and everything in between. I'm also a HUGE fan of Asian cinema (i.e. Hong Kong action films, Japanese samurai movies) and Italian Westerns.
TV: Mostly use it to watch movies on, but love DAREDEVIL (one of my favorite comics as a child), HAP & LEONARD and GAME OF THRONES (I was a George R.R. Martin fan back in college and am happy that the rest of ya'll are finally catching up). For news, Democracy Now, RT and The Young Turks.
Music: Fields of the Nephilim, Black Sabbath, Roky Erickson, Moonspell, Ronald Koal, The Cult, Death Grips, Fear Factory, Lacuna Coil, Theatre of Tragedy, Queen, Misfits, Ramones, T-Rex, Slayer, Bauhaus, Peter Murphy, Iggy Pop/Stooges, Wolfsheim/Peter Heppner, Secret Discovery, Celtic Frost, Escape With Romeo, Zeraphine, Solar Fake, Rammstein, Xymox. Also a rabid fan of Italian film composer Ennio Morricone.
Video Games: Total Bethesda junkie (i.e. SKYRIM, FALLOUT 4). It's really kind of pathetic. (I may be single, but my SKYRIM waifu is *smoking* hot. I just got her this chain-mail bikini and this big sword and... um, I'm a shut up now.
Food: I'm a pescatarian (that means I'm pretty much a vegetarian but I eat fish), so that means SUSHI.
Art (books, music, movies, etc.)
Electronic cigarettes (couldn't have kicked my 25 year tobacco habit without 'em!)
Historical European Martial Arts
My depression/bi-polar support group
Christ, I've become such a hippie (although I still can't stand The Grateful Dead).
We both know that you never know if that spark is going to be there (you know the one I'm talking about) and if you're going to click on a first date. If either one of us just ain't feeling it, the worst thing that can happen is that we maybe make a new friend.
And dick pics. Can't forget the dick pics. Because we all know you ladies just looooove having complete strangers send you photos of their junk.