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My self-summary
Chivalry isn't dead... it just smells a little funky.

Comic book author, horror movie and lit connoisseur, medieval European martial arts enthusiast, master of useless trivia, walking encyclopedia of Cult movies, collector of monster toys, terrible cook. Just got out of a 11 year relationship two years ago and feel like I'm ready to start dating again. I'm very modern and progressive, but also totally OLD-SCHOOL when it comes to relationships. I am the Anti-Player.

I value honor and honesty above all else, so this is going to be a warts-n'-all type of profile. You can be assured that pictures of me are recent and that my age is correct. What you see is what you get. I'm chunky but losing weight, thanks to a healthy diet (fruits and veggies are a wonderful thing) and daily exercise. I will, however, never be skinny, so if rail-thin pretty boys are your thing, I ain't your guy.

People describe me as mellow, easy-going, openly affectionate (I'm a big hugger), a good listener (people tend to call me when they're in crisis) honest and loyal (sometimes to a fault). On the down-side, I can be obsessive, stubborn and spacey (that would be my ADD), with a tendency to live inside my own head or with my nose in a book. I also grew up on George Carlin and Richard Pryor, so it's a given that I'm a bit of a god-damned fuckin' potty mouth.

I've been a freak/mutant/misfit/outsider all of my life and usually have difficulty connecting to people who aren't at least a little "weird" themselves.

I'm a sucker for brainy women. Intelligence is a MUST and creativity a huge plus. Body-wise I like everything from androgynous women with slim, boyish bodies to women with curvy, zaftig figures and everything in between. I guess I just like women in general, and personality is more important to me than body-type. I'm just lucky in that respect. If I like you, I'm going to like your body.

I'm a book person whose home looks like a library (and it functions as one for my friends).

If you have kids, don't sweat it - I love kids. I don't have any of my own, but friend's kids adore me and I love 'em to bits.

I love animals. I'm a "cat person" but ADORE dogs as well. If you don't love or at least *like* critters I don't even want to know you. Seriously.

Politically, I'm what would be considered on the "far Left" of the American political spectrum (in Europe I'd be in the center). I'm a Democratic Socialist, a registered Green and always vote third party. I'm reluctant to call myself a "Liberal", since being a Liberal these days evidently means supporting drone killings, indefinite detention, torture and warrant-less wiretapping. To me, "Democrat" and "Republican" are just brand choices, like Coke or Pepsi: either way you basically get the same thing and they're both bad for you.

Religion-wise I'm a Gnostic Christian with Valentinian leanings. Confused? Yeah, that's why I usually just say "Christian", although I'm probably not like any Christian you've ever met. I believe in science, for one thing. I believe in evolution, am stridently PRO-CHOICE, pro-marriage equality and, since I take the Bible very seriously I do not take it LITERALLY. I believe in Freedom of Religion, the very heart of which is freedom *from* religion. You know those folks who think Jesus rode around on dinosaurs, hate on gay people and are pro-war and pro-death penalty? Yeah, I ain't one of them.

What am I looking for? A good-hearted, compassionate human being with a great sense of humor, a sense of honor and someone who, as a rule, doesn't play head-games. You love animals, are on the Left of the political spectrum, and respect the rights of others to live their lives free of societal constrictions. You don't have to be religious or even believe in God, but you have to have a sense of ethics or a code (preferably one that sees people not as a means to an end, but as an end in themselves).
What I’m doing with my life
The job market being what it is, I recently tapped into my nest egg and started my own business, producing, selling and promoting my comic book SIX-GUN GORILLA. It has been a fantastic adventure thus far. The book has been getting rave reviews and was a surprise hit at the 2013 New York Comic Con (meaning no one was more surprise than me!). If you're curious you can check the book out at and

I'm also the co-president of Rockland Depression-Bipolar Support Alliance (R-DBSA) a local support group focused on helping people with mood disorders. I've been with the group for five years and have found it immensely rewarding. I'm a strong believer that you get out of life what you *give* and that the best way to help yourself is to help *others*.
I’m really good at
Talking people down off ledges.
Finishing what I start.
Staying positive.
Pep talking people.
Learning new forms of swordsmanship.
Talking your ear off about cult movies, horror films and comic books.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm a big guy. The down side of this is that I'm scary-looking to a lot of people. Then again, my friends and people who know me tell me I'm just a big teddy bear and find it difficult that anybody would be afraid of me, but they are! This is especially ironic given the fact that I *literally* wouldn't hurt a fly (I always catch insects and boot them out of the house). Fuck it - animals and little kids *love* me, and I find them much better judges of character than most adults.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I'm mostly a non-fiction kind of a guy these days (usually research for my next comic book or screenplay), but also gobble up novels and comic books.

Non-Fiction: Chris Hedges, Howard Zinn, lots of history (fixated on Medieval Germany right now).

Novels/Short Stories: Philip K. Dick, Joe R. Lansdale, F. Paul Wilson, H.P. Lovecraft, Robert E. Howard, Edgar Rice Burroughs, Alexander Dumas, Shakespeare, Dickens, Poe, Tolkein, C.S. Lewis, Arthur Machen, William Hope Hodgeson, M.R. James, George R.R. Martin (been a HUGE fan going back to his early Sci-Fi/horror days), Flannery O'Connor, and Ray Bradbury.

Movies: I am a HUGE horror freak, particularly fond of European horror of the 50's, 60's and 70's (i.e. Mario Bava, Lucio Fulci, Dario Argento, Jean Rollin, Hammer). George Romero, David Lynch, David Cronenberg, Terry Gilliam, Johnny To, Alex de la Iglesias, Guilermo del Toro and Wong Kar Wai are also favorites. I draw no distinction between "art" films and exploitation movies and everything in between. I'm also a HUGE fan of Asian cinema (i.e. Hong Kong action films, Japanese samurai movies) and Italian Westerns.

TV: Mostly use it to watch movies on, but love BREAKING BAD, HANNIBAL, LOUIE, GAME OF THRONES and LUTHER. For news, DEMOCRACY NOW.

Music: Fields of the Nephilim, Black Sabbath, Roky Erickson, Moonspell, The Cult, Death Grips, Fear Factory, Lacuna Coil, Theatre of Tragedy, Queen, Misfits, Ramones, Slayer, Bauhaus, Peter Murphy, Iggy Pop/Stooges, Wolfsheim/Peter Heppner, Secret Discovery, Celtic Frost, Escape With Romeo, Zeraphine, Solar Fake, Rammstein, Xymox. Also a rabid fan of Italian film composer Ennio Morricone.

Video Games: Total SKYRIM junkie. It's really kind of pathetic.

Food: I'm a pescatarian (that means I'm pretty much a vegetarian but I eat fish), so that means SUSHI!
The six things I could never do without
My friends and loved ones
Daily meditation
Electronic cigarettes (couldn't have kicked my 25 year tobacco habit without 'em!)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Fulfilling my goals (finding new ways to promote my comic), current and future projects (i.e. stories, character arcs, etc.), God (whether He/She/It really exists or not), the fact that my country is turning into a police state, sex (I'm male - duh), the afterlife (what it might be like, if it exists) and longsword fencing (whether the German or Italian school of longsword fencing is superior).
On a typical Friday night I am
Sitting at home working on my comic and then watching movies with my feline buddy Mr. Figs, usually classic horror, Western, Kung Fu or 90's art film. Pretty much a homebody at this point, but looking to change that. It's tough after having just been in an eleven year relationship, and I have no interest in hanging out at bars and clubs (been there/done that).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've suffered from a mood disorder (depression, anxiety, ADHD) since childhood. The good news is that - although incurable - it is a *treatable* illness. I recently got the help I needed (i.e. therapy, medication, support group) and am SO much stronger and healthier as a result. I'm co-president of the Rockland Depression/Bi-Polar Support Alliance and it has been a truly healing, elevating experience. I've learned that the best way to help yourself is by helping *others*.
You should message me if
You want to start a conversation and see if I'm the kind of guy you'd be interested in meeting for coffee, a drink or lunch/dinner, etc.. You never know if you're going to click with someone, so if we don't I certainly won't take it personally and hope you have the same attitude. At worst we might meet a nice person and maybe make a new friend. But yeah - nothing ventured, nothing gained!