BJK32
37Vancouver, Canada
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My self-summary
Recently I got married, however I also identify as polyamorous (if you're unsure of what that is, google is your friend). My partner also has a profile on OKC tabithamarie16 and we live together in downtown Vancouver. I don't see my relationship as the singular identifying feature of myself, but I believe in honesty in relatiosnhips so if you're interested in learning more about me please read on, if non-monogamy is not your jam, I wish you luck in your online endeavours!

I've recently become quite involved in the Greater Vancouver Interactive Arts Society and its local Burning Man regional, Burn in the Forest, which happens in July. I'm holding out hope that 2018 will lead me to my first trip to the playa, but there's that ticketing thing, so we'll see.

I like to travel; having been to Mexico, Guatemala, Belize, and most of Europe, and off to Hong Kong and Vietnam in September, so if you've been and have any tips, please toss em my way.

I'm active, I play squash 3-5 times per week, flag football in the spring and and try to get in a boot camp class a couple of times per week. When the mood strikes me I still make it out on the basketball court, but that doesn't happen as often as it used to. I try to get the bouldering gym once in a while but probably not as much as I want to.
What I’m doing with my life
I work for an real estate development company in downtown Vancouver and I seem to have an unhealthy love of numbers and spreadsheets.....don't ask me why, because I'm not sure even I know.

I facilitate a local poly discussion group and am currently on the board of the Vancouver burning man regional group. I spend a lot my time being a part of both of these amazing groups of people, it's incredibly rewarding to give back to communities you are passionate about.
I’m really good at
I've been told I'm good a listener and am a loyal friend....these were just the first things that came to mind; there's a part of me that's always been that caretaker personality.
The first things people usually notice about me
My laugh. Whether it's in a movie theatre, outside, or in the pitch black of night, you'll know I'm just around the corner if there's a good story going on.

I also get the odd person who says that I look like NPH, which is always amusing, I've used that to my advantage and gone to costumes parties as both Dr Horrible and Doogie Howser MD!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Opening Up, Sex At Dawn, The Ethical Slut, , The Dark Tower series (re-reading now as they are bringing out a movie in 2017), anything by Malcolm Gladwell, Lord of the Rings and currently working through Clan of the Cave Bear series.

Movies: Once upon a time I worked at a video store, leading me to have probably 15 movies in my top 5, so here's a snippet: Fifth Element, Leon: The Professional, Reservoir Dogs, Devil's Advocate, Fight Club, Christopher Nolan Batman movies, Boondock Saints, Life as a House, Usual Suspects, the Game....this list could go on for a while...

TV shows: Anything Joss Whedon (Buffy, Firefly, Dollhouse, Dr Horrible) Dexter, The Wire, Friends, West Wing, Newsroom.

Music: I enjoy most music, don't really have a soft spot for country, but occasionally it's ok, although I will admit I'm terrible at recalling songs or the artists that write/perform them.
Food: I enjoy food made from fresh ingredients and almost always prefer a meal cooked at home than one cooked at a restaurant. I don't really have anything that I couldn't live without and will eat most things.

Sadly I've recently discovered that I'm allergic to gluten, dairy, eggs, soy beans, garlic, peanuts and almonds; so eating these past few months have been challenging, but rewarding. I find myself eating a lot of sushi, as it's pretty easy in a pinch.
Six things I could never do without
- The ability to make social connections - in whatever fashion that may take
- Taste buds (I saw this documentary where people had lost the ability to taste food, that would just suck)
- Contacts! Seeing is important and without them apparently I'm legally blind - one of these days I think I'll go and check out Lasik

Do we really have to do 6.....
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Life.....mine and in general. I'm not necessarily philosophical and not trying to find life's meaning or anything, but I enjoy seeing and hearing people's reactions to different stimuli. I enjoy studying people - the differences amongst people in the world is one of the most interesting things about it.
On a typical Friday night I am
Doing something low-key. I'm not a crazy partier, but I enjoy hanging with friends at a bar having a few drinks to unwind from the week.

I will admit recently I've taken a much more pronounced liking to dancing and recently have closed down Celebrities dancing until they turned on the lights.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I will always support the music of Britney Spears....even though she lip syncs at her concerts.
You should message me if
If you enjoy sharing experiences with someone new and you're not looking to settle down with one person and have children.

While I live with my partner, there are many other ways a relationship can go, I don't believe in the purpose of a relationship being to end with marriage and children. Each relationship should be able to grow organically and also stop and plateau right where it fits between those 2 individuals.

So if you're willing to see where that may be, drop me a line.
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