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My self-summary
A little about me: Born and raised in Kansas City, I joined the Catholic Church in 1999. Since then my faith has gone a long way toward defining who I am. Family means a great deal to me and, although I am not yet blessed with any of my own, I love kids. As a matter of fact, I am employed in public school special education, a vocation I find quite challenging, intriguing, and -- most of all -- rewarding. Oh, and I'm also a licensed foster parent.

I am most interested in a long-term, committed relationship. Feel free to ask questions of me, should you feel so inclined.

I am kind, honest, and fun-loving.
What I’m doing with my life
I work full-time as a special education paraprofessional. I also work various part-time jobs to earn extra income.

I attend Mass regularly, and am a Fourth Degree member of the Knights of Columbus.

I try to spend time with family and friends when possible, but am finding as I get closer to middle age (I pray I'm not already there...) :-), most of my friends and all of my siblings are busy being married and raising families.

Finally, but certainly not leastly, I am seriously contemplating, researching, and taking the first steps toward adoption. Currently I am a licensed foster parent.
I’m really good at
I consider myself to be a good listener.

I am also detailed-oriented, and even sometimes, unfortunately, a bit of a perfectionist. I say unfortunately because although perfectionism CAN be a good thing (like if I were doing an engine repair on the 737 before your flight leaves for South Padre), it generally turns out to be a bad thing for me, in that it sometimes causes me to procrastinate. Perfectionism is also a negative for me in that it often leads to me not delegating jobs when I am too busy, because I'd rather do them myself to ensure the finished product is up to my impossible standards. Finally, perfectionism tends to lead to a cluttered living space because I put off organizing my surroundings until such time as I know I can get the job done right, and all at once. But as most people know, the frantic pace of present-day life leaves little or no time for superior work. I recognize this flaw in my character, and I am trying to fix it, by doing the task NOW and settling for "good enough" on the less critical chores; or by delegating the task to another person and settling for their definition of good enough, and then smiling, nodding, and biting my tongue when they ask, "How's that?"

Now what did that have to do with what I'm really good at?! Perhaps I'm really good at recognizing my own character flaws...

I am also really (pretty?) good at accepting constructive criticism. Finally, I am good at helping others, understanding others' points of view, compromising, putting others' needs ahead of my own, defusing angry people/situations, and drawing/writing bubble letters (no, seriously).
The first things people usually notice about me
I have tiny eyes.

Once you have finished laughing, let me explain. My eyes are actually normal (average?) in size, but because I have very poor vision, I wear eyeglasses with a strong prescription. To look at me head-on is to look at a beady-eyed man! :)

Why do I know this is one of the first things people notice about me? Because of the strange looks I get when people (especially the many kids I work with) first meet me: first they stare up at me with a kinda puzzled look on their faces; next they'll kinda squint at me; then they'll slooowly shift to one side or the other of me, so that they can get a look at my eyes from behind the glasses; and finally they'll move back to directly in front of me so as to make sure they really saw what they thought they saw. (They really did.)

Usually by this time I've noticed their puzzled looks, and I smile, lift up my glasses so they can see my myopic eyes unaltered by the high-powered lenses, and say, "See? My eyes are really normal-sized." Some of the kids actually appear relieved at this point! :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite books:

I generally read nonfiction books pertaining to instruction of children, literacy, child development and psychology, special education, cognitive and physical disabilities, educational advocacy for children with disabilities, assistive technology, the affects of poverty and/or broken homes on children, foster care, and adoption.

Any fiction I read is generally limited to poetry (if you consider that fiction) and children's books.

Favorite Movies:

When I actually watch movies, I prefer action-adventures, comedies, and even the occasional romantic comedy. I can also tolerate some romances and dramas, as long as they aren't too sappy.

I am not a fan of horror/scary movies.

I do like most kids' movies, although I prefer live action or CGI to animated. I recently saw "Cars 2" at school and really enjoyed it. I love how the creators of such movies can make them entertaining for both kids and adults.

I once saw the animated movie "Iron Giant" at school and thought it was an awesome movie with a great message for kids -- and adults -- about making sacrifices for the ones we love. However, I can not for the life of me understand why the makers of that movie felt the need to include curse words in a kids' movie. Granted, by today's standards they were pretty tame words that most kids are probably all too familiar with ('hell' and 'damn,' if I remember correctly). But what's the point? Who in the world is the moviemaker trying to impress? As with most all curse words, these were not central to the plot. In my opinion those words may have been the main reason the movie earned a PG rating instead of a G. But, I digress...
Six things I could never do without
God (God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit); family, friends, reading material, nature, and Mexican food.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The world, the future, and my place in both. I also spend a lot of time thinking about my desire to have a family of my own.
On a typical Friday night I am
Watching TV, checking email, and/or having dinner with family or friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Um, well, I do like to shop. I generally find that it calms my mind, especially if I'm not looking for anything in particular, and the store isn't jam-packed with customers. And I don't even have to buy anything.

I also find coloring and cutting things out of paper with scissors to be very therapeutic activities. One of the perks of working in an elementary school!

I hope I haven't seriously altered any guy stereotypes here... :-)
You should message me if
... you would like to know more about me, either as a casual friend or possibly something more serious; you feel you want to spend time with me; you have questions or helpful suggestions; you are single (unattached and unmarried); you are open to the idea of possibly having children, through either birth or adoption (of course, if you are already actively raising several children of your own, I might be open to some sort of compromise); you do not abuse drugs; you are willing to commit to an exclusive relationship should we decide we are compatible.

(Of course, people only interested in a casual friendship, pen pal, etc., need not meet all of these criteria.)
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