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My self-summary
I don't want to be one of those people, but nope, I can't see likes. I'm not paying for this mess anymore. Drop me a note, even if it's just "Hello". I love getting messages! Who doesn't?

So it's baseball season... usually one of the best times of the year. Okay, Giants not doing so well... no, let's be honest, they stink... but it's a long season. I would really love to have some baseball dates this year. C'mon, let's go to a game! We can probably get good seats.

I moved back here not long ago after 17 years working in L.A. and I’m so glad to be back where I grew up. I'm witty, kind, easy-going and a lot of fun to be with... at least that's what my friends tell me.

I lead a very laid-back existence. Live on my own, just me and my cat. No children, no drugs, no weirdness, no extreme rock climbing or training for triathlons on weekends, no dungeons with whips or chains, no lingering ex's and no crazy family drama or trainwreck friends. That's how I like it. I keep my fridge stocked with drinks and good food so I can enjoy relaxing, watching movies, listening to music, home projects and working on whatever whenever. Simple. I don't need to be in constant movement or travel to far-off lands for my life to be fulfilling.

Recently spent a nice afternoon at the Old Mint attending the San Francisco History Expo. I love anything having to do with SF History. My great-grandfather shot the famous "Trip Down Market Street" film in 1906 so I feel a tremendous family tie to the city. And I got to talk about it on 60 Minutes!

I worked in TV for over twenty years and have lots of neat stories if you're interested in that kinda thing. I've written for a daytime soap, researched questions for a sports trivia game show and sneaked fast food to the kids from Boy Meets World. In a not so indirect way, with a little foresight, I could have saved the world from ever having to know the Kardashians. I'm a member of the Television Academy and an Emmy voter, which floods me with a giant stack of screener DVDs to watch every year, which of course I don't. And yes, I do realize that NONE of this is impressive to the 96% of women on OKC who don't watch or own a television.

I love baseball and am a "true-orange" third-generation Giants fan. I have a goal of seeing as many different ballparks as I can and am planning a multi-city ballpark tour sometime next season. I enjoy live music in small places, barbecued hamburgers and trying new restaurants. Why are there no good delis up here?! I'm no gourmet cook but I can make just about anything I want... or at least give it an honest shot.
What I’m doing with my life
One of my life's ambitions is to watch every movie on AFI’s Top 100 of All Time list. I still have a ways to go.

I've already had my dream job so I’m thinking on what to do next, though I will never give up getting back to it someday. A volunteer job I was doing recently turned into a real part-time paying position so that’s keeping me out of trouble for now. I own my own home and have myself pretty well set up for the future.

Meanwhile, here are some things I am NOT doing with my life --

*Planning my next exciting trip to Columbia and Madagascar.

*Considering living in Nepal for an indefinite amount of time.

*Backpacking through Indonesia.

*Swimming the waters off the Greek islands.

*Jumping on a plane to Tanzania at a moment's notice.

*Rappelling down the Great Wall of China, digging wells and teaching English in some jungle village or any of the other myriad adventures so many people on here have planned or have done, including everything I listed above.

In all honesty, I really don't feel the need or calling to go traipsing all over the world. I'm really just looking for someone fun to spend my free time with. Is that so bad?
I’m really good at
I'm a great listener. I think I give pretty good advice and care a lot about the people in my life. I'm the one who always remembers birthdays and anniversaries. If you happen to casually mention a candy bar you really like, you can bet the next time you come by I'll have one for you. I like doing that kinda thing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I don't know why there's so much animosity towards this section. This one's my favorite! This is where you really see what you have in common.

Books... I always have a book going (Thanks, Mom!). Mostly biographies and non-fiction. I love reading about history, especially early American. I buy more books than I can read. I just finished a book about how the JFK administration might have played out had he not been assassinated and decided I needed something lighter next, so I picked up Cary Elwes' account of the making of The Princess Bride movie and now I'm involved in an old book I found on life in San Francisco in 1849. I'm also halfway through an exciting Steve Berry book on my tablet and the Tom Petty biography is on my nightstand. Yeah, I'm all over the place. On top of that I subscribe to way too many magazines and am a lifelong newspaper subscriber. Yup, I still get the Chronicle delivered every day -- the actual paper newspaper.

Movies... The original Star Wars movies, Godfathers I & II, most of the John Hughes movies, Shawshank, Almost Famous, 40 year-old Virgin, Kill Bill, Apollo 13, The Natural, Major League, No Country For Old Men, Fools Rush In, A Bronx Tale, so many others. I have a warm spot in my heart for old silent films. There's a cool little silent movie theater in Fremont I'd love to take you to.

Shows... I love documentaries and news specials, Deadliest Catch, Big Bang Theory, Childrens Hospital (funniest 15 minutes on TV), Blue Bloods, Louie (best half hour on TV), Survivor, Rick & Morty and anything about Hoarding (it makes me want to clean out a drawer immediately). I still miss West Wing, ER and NYPD Blue. New faves include Ray Donovan, You're the Worst, This is Us and Designated Survivor. I really like the show Episodes on Showtime -- it's the most accurate depiction I've ever seen of how TV really works behind the scenes.

Music... 80's New Wave is still my favorite. Can never get enough Tom Petty & the Heartbreakers (crazy about Mudcrutch right now!), Stones, Stan Ridgway and Depeche Mode (Got my tickets for October!!!). Jackshit is my favorite live small band (It's Elvis Costello's band playing Rockabilly in character - they're awesome! They mostly perform at one small club in L.A. and I go down to see them every time they play), David Bowie, Steely Dan, Chicago, Chili Peppers, the real Van Halen and of course -- Springsteen! I've seen him well over a dozen times and caught him in Oakland last time around. It was religious!! I wish I could follow him on the road like people used to follow The Dead. I saw Dave & Phil Alvin do a show up in Berkeley recently and now The Blasters channel is my new Pandora favorite. ***If you know who Dave & Phil Alvin are, please write and say hi!

Food... I'm up for pretty much anything except seafood and sushi. (That's not a typo -- I don't like sushi) Give me a cheeseburger and fries (or onion rings) anytime and I'm a happy boy. I dug bacon before it was cool. I love comfort food (I do a great brisket and meatloaf -- sorry, vegans), Mexican, Italian, Chinese and Round Table Pizza! I'm always on the lookout for a good BBQ joint. Pesto makes just about anything better. Breakfast is typically my favorite meal of the day and I traditionally cook myself a nice big breakfast on Sunday mornings. How do you like your eggs?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...whatever happened to cooking something at home together or ordering a pizza, popping in a DVD and simply enjoying each other's company for an evening? There's so much to be said for just hanging out. Sure, I love to travel and go places, but not all the time! So many people on here seem to feel that if they stop moving for five minutes they’re going to dry up and die.

...why SO many women on here are 5'8" and taller? When did the Bay Area become Land of the Amazons? much I miss being half of a couple. How much I miss the fun of dating someone -- looking forward to phone calls, a text hello, making plans together, really talking about what's on our minds -- our hopes, our fears and what we had for lunch that day.

A few years ago I was dating a girl who lives in L.A. and I drove down pretty often. I liked her so much that even that drive, which I usually can't stand, was wonderful. I want to feel like THAT again. so many people I see here on OKC can afford to live in San Francisco when we keep hearing it's one of the most expensive places in the country to live. Seriously, how do you do it?? Especially when you're taking so much time off work to do all that global travel.

...why so many women who live too far away to even meet just LOVE my profile but none of the locals I write to ever get back to me. Come on, if we both live in San Mateo I'm sure we have SOMETHING to talk about!!

I just got a really nice note from a woman in West Virginia. sigh....
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
None of these are really all that private... just random stuff to admit... Feel free to comment.

I find women who have no tattoos at all to be fascinating. These days there's more of a story behind why you don't have any as opposed to what "that one" means.

I won't meet you for coffee but I will meet you for pie.

I asked a friend for something interesting about me I could add to my profile. He said I should mention that I have my own washer and dryer because women who live in apartments will like that.

I worked in television production when I lived in L.A. and put together a pretty decent IMDB page. I have lots of good stories if you're interested in that kinda thing.

***A bit of an editorial comment here... seriously, if you're one of those "I'm too evolved to watch TV"-types that seem to have taken over around here, I am SO not your guy. For the record, "I don't own a television" is a bit dated as a smug humblebrag. First of all, there are some amazingly smart well-made programs on these days as there always have been. Second, watching television shows on Netflix counts as watching television -- I'm not sure how so many people convinced themselves otherwise. Third and most important, not owning a TV doesn't amount to much if you can't go two minutes without checking your phone (which is, in my opinion, a far more contemptible modern vice).

Many people on here seem to be very preoccupied with Burning Man. To be perfectly honest, I don't intend on EVER going to Burning Man. I would rather sit through an all-day tax seminar than go to Burning Man. I loved the article I read about how Burning Man was conceived to get all the hipsters out of town so the rest of us could enjoy the quiet for a few days.

I don't get up early on Saturday morning to bike ride to the farmers' market for fresh produce. More accurately I drive over to Safeway on Saturday afternoon to pick up some lettuce.

This two-minute video sums up precisely why I hate smart phones --

Here's another good one...

In my spare time I don't rock-climb/bungee-jump/sky-dive/hang-glide/zip-line/base-jump/moon-walk/pole-vault/X-Game or Tough Mud. I just don't believe people do all the things they SAY they do on here. Are we really out discovering new hiking trails every weekend? Really?!
You should message me if
The fact that I own a TV doesn't scare or repulse you.

You keep a clean car, fridge and bathroom. Want to instantly learn about someone you're dating? Check out the inside of their car, fridge and bathroom. If you're not initially horrified then they might be a keeper. (Based on comments received, I may have to reevaluate this one)

You live close by. You have a warm smile. You own a car. You're a Giants fan and will go to games with me. When you tell someone "I'll call you later" you actually DO IT!! Reliability is huge with me. You think the most important part of a relationship is being together and being there for each other, not what you do or where you go. You don't bash anyone's politics in your profile (SERIOUSLY!!). Your days of using "party" as a verb are behind you and you're looking for something a little more grown-up. You like holding hands at a movie. You like holding hands anytime!

Thanks for reading this far... If you did, treat yourself to a cookie.
The two of us