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My self-summary
So, five years of art school, then I hear about this aphantasia thing and guess what?

Just found the phrase, "Y'all are the tits."
I think this may be my new favorite phrase. It's such a wonderful metaphor. Because they're exciting and wonderful and bouncy and fun and soft and cuddly and fun to play with, and great with or without clothes, And big or small it doesn't matter. Whatever shape they're still great.

Man I miss hanging out with friends. And tits.

Sex positive (well as much as I can be solo, and shy/anxious), little bit radical (socially and culturally), affectionate, intentional, considerate, body aware, human bean.

No expectations, no limitations
What I’m doing with my life
I dance.
(Partnered social dancing, mostly Blues and East Coast Swing)

Developing body awareness (through dancing, exercise, and massage), learning about consent culture (and gender, and the patriarchy, etc.), making friends with circus folk and radicals, and riding my bike.

Someday I'd like a small house with a big garden, and a job enough to meet my few needs. I'd spend my other time dancing, loving, and dreaming up incredible and amazing projects.
I’m really good at
Being honest and open. Hugs. Dancing. Cooking. Cuddling!
The first things people usually notice about me
Apparently I'm living my life like the world is the place I want it to be, rather than the place it is. Makes things interesting sometimes.

Comments from people during a week long dance event at a run-down Summer Camp in Northern California:

"Very thoughtful I enjoy talking to you!"
"Great hugs :) "
"I needed your presence here this week, thanks for the good listening and conversations."
"Caring, thoughtful, & motivated"
"You're funny in a quiet sort of way"
"Super impressed by Yo Yo guy :) "
"Reaching; Growing; Loving; Questioning and Playful"
"You were a beam of light at recess"
"Ben, you sweet cuddle muffin!"
"Open arms, you glow"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
More and more, I feel like I don't really need to restrict myself to labels and boxes.

I love a good book, recommend one, and I'll recommend one back. (If you haven't read The Ethical Slut yet, read it, even if you're not interested in Polyamory, it's all about how to be a good person)

Movies are a great and easy way to share an experience with someone. I was once told that if all the world watched the same season or two of Friends, we'd be well on our way to world peace.

That being said, I'm a sucker for motivational sports movies. Rocky gets me every time. And those football movies? Remember the Titans? The Replacements!? Pure gold. (Don't take all my comments literally, you don't have to like sports movies)

Music is great. I love being able to dance to it. A well swung rhythm and I'll throw down some East Coast/Lindy/Charleston that'll make you laugh for the joy of living.

The formula of bread-type-thing, sauce-type-thing, toppings-type-things, (and often cheese) is pretty much a winner. Pizza, burritos, tacos, sammiches, gyros, yakisoba, sushi (rice is a grain, a stretch, but I'm taking it) etc.
Six things I could never do without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What is the most significant thing I've accomplished in this life so far?

How awesome people are. Like Patrick Warburton. Someone else said it better than I ever could. I find something very comforting and reassuring about Patrick Warburton. He just seems, I dunno, reliable and sturdy, like a Buick. In my imagination, he smells faintly of Old Spice and naps.

"Sometimes, the most romantic thing you can say to me, isn't 'I love you', or 'You mean everything to me.' When the day comes when those words don't seem to matter. The only thing you can do is surprise me. Get naked, push me against the wall and say: 'Babe, tonight, I'm going to wreck you.'"
On a typical Friday night I am
Why be typical?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have depression. It's not insurmountable, but it does get annoying sometimes. 60 mg of Prozac and 150 mg of Wellbutrin.

I own over $500 worth of yo-yos, and yo-yo accessories.

This song pretty much sums up how affection works for me.
You should message me if
I'm looking for someone who enjoys play.

Board games, video games any or whatever. Being playful and fun. And able to check in about feelings and concerns and questions. Also someone who really enjoys touch, and how neat bodies are. I really enjoy it when my partners are sensitive/responsive to touch (first times are like playing with a new toy, and seeing which buttons do what, and when we get to know each other it gets to be more like playing an instrument, and seeing what sort of music I can get their sensations to play).

You want to have fun and play together (not kink play, but that might be okay too. We can work it out.)

You're interested in good conversation, good cuddles, and/or great sex. (I told someone on here about this, and they replied that they had "the internet, a cat, and a vibrator". Way to be self reliant.)

You're looking for something casual to start with. Friends, cuddle buddy, friends with benefits, activity partner, etc.

I've been interested in seeing what this whole poly thing is about.

No expectations, no limitations

Sex, if it happens, is great. But if not everyone is excited about it, then it's not worth the time. Enthusiastic, mutual consent required.

Or if you want to learn blacksmithing, DIY stuff, kitchen projects, etc. (Or if you have a backyard I can blacksmith in)

And I'm almost always down for NSA cuddles and a movie.

"You wanna get weird and play some Mario Kart?"
The two of us