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My self-summary
I am looking to widen my social network and find friends to go to movies, plays, walks on beaches, being outdoors in any of the bay areas beautiful parks, or sharing great conversation over dinner in the great restaurants in the bay area. I love independent films, old classics, documentaries, and a little bit of everything else except violent films. I prefer deep and meaningful relationships to superficial ones. I read a lot, and a wide variety of stuff, probably more nonfiction than fiction, but I love to read novels when I have time.

I am a good listener, fun-loving, and a beach bum
What I’m doing with my life
I'm trying to learn how to age with grace and maturity and keep growing. I'm learning how to have balance in my life. I'm developing the creative writer side that I stifled for years.

I have lived in San Francisco for about 7 years and am still getting to know the area. I know this is "gay mecca" but I'd really rather be outside in the beautiful nature spots of the bay area. I love to explore and my favorite places thus far include Point Reyes, the Marin Headlands, and many of the beaches up and down the coast. That doesn't mean I won't explore lesbian cultural events from time to time.

In my day job, I teach at San Francisco State University and love it there after spending many years at the University of Iowa in a much more conservative climate. I was an out lesbian there, but here I'm valued as an out lesbian who does LGBT research. Yea!
I’m really good at
Writing, listening, trivia games, remembering lyrics to old songs, reading, collecting beach stones...
The first things people usually notice about me
I don't really know! Guess I'll have to ask some of my friends this question.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
too many to mention. Gift from the Sea by Anne Morrow Lindberg, books by Angeles Arrien, especially The Second Half of Life, sci fi fantasy when I want to escape, nonfiction books by people like Barbara Ehrenreich when I want to think, etc. I have loved the books by Sarah Waters, Jamaica Kincaid, Jasper Fford (Lost in a Good Book is a scream!). Girl with the Dragon Tattoo, Room. I love my kindle for reading fiction.

Food--anything not too spicy (alas, aging has taken a toll on my digestive system). I love to try new restaurants.

Music--mostly jazz vocals (Dinah Washington is an old favorite), but listen to lots of different types of music depending on mood, from Lady Gaga to Joan Armatrading, Tuck and Patty, Anita Baker, Acoustic Alchemy, black-eyed peas, Joni Mitchell...
Six things I could never do without
books, the beach, writing, friends, my computer, sleep
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything you can imagine, but in the past few years, I thought a lot about how to lead a life of greater integrity and meaning, so I enjoy conversations with others about how they are continuing to grow and develop as humans. But I often spend time trying to figure out the mysteries of life--why do we itch? Why do we park on a driveway and drive on a parkway?
On a typical Friday night I am
in my flannel pjs at home reading a book or watching a movie
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm shy. Some people might see me as stand-offish, but it's my lifelong shyness that holds me back.
You should message me if
you are interesting in making new friends, in getting acquainted slowly, in having deep and meaningful conversations, in laughing often. I have a bit of an off-beat sense of humor, and like to poke fun at our lesbian culture/behaviors, and that offends some people, so you if cannot laugh at the oddities of our community, you probably don't want to meet me.
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