BenAlles
41 Bryn Mawr, United States
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My self-summary
I'm very good at times, very bad at times, and sometimes both.

I like to sing at the top of my lungs, mostly when I'm alone, but under the right circumstances I am not afraid to belt it out with other people around. Sometimes I think they enjoy it!

According to okc I'm "less attentive" than others, ; how'd they figure that? Less attentive to what, I'd like to know...I'm very attentive to the things/people I care about. I'm curious about how people I don't yet know see things, and what they really want or enjoy. I also like to try out new things--especially when they are edible, musical, or literary. Most people don't know me as well as they think they do, but perhaps that could change...

since I have not posted a very clear pic, a self-description might be in order (though I'm sure you're not just all about looks...right?): average height, thin, pale (unless unshaven, I suppose), dark hair, uh...sexy, deep, moody, ferocious eyes? the next time I look in a mirror I will have to work on this...

I am curious, creative, and excitable
What I’m doing with my life
Looking, wondering, musing, and thinking it all over. And sometimes writing about it. Also talking about it. And I get paid for that; how could I possibly complain?
I’m really good at
incrementally improving my profile...check back in three months to be amazed at how much more quirkily interesting I am than I at first appeared.

...wondering whether The Ethical Slut is an oxymoron.
The first things people usually notice about me
Well, there are all sorts of people, after all. And at least two sides of me. But people tend to wonder if I'm as young as I look. I tend to wonder how young I look.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
food: not into large chunks of meat, but most other edible objects are worth trying out. I'm especially fond of things that combine flour, butter, and sugar.

Books: oh, where to begin? are you sure you care?
The six things I could never do without
books...how many is that?
at least six, I'm sure, so long as we include things inside books, like ideas, stories, arguments, words, and the letter "e". I am also fond of saying "uh".

I'm also very fond of the internet, which I find to be very much like a giant choose-your-own adventure.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why we do the things we do. It can't be just to spread our genetic code, can it?

Also: wondering why an otherwise fairly sophisticated site cannot seem to get its gender pronouns right in automatically generated text
On a typical Friday night I am
not impressed with Dan Brown. or Ayn Rand.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I REALLY wish I could spank my students. Some of them really ought to be spanked.
You should message me if
you think I would want you to. and you have ESP. or if I messaged you--in that case, there's a really good chance that you should message me (or so *I* think!).
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