Benjamin1250
29Woodside, United States
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My self-summary
Introverted Ravenclaw with Slytherin tendencies. Career and dog driven. Values independence and doing things outdoors. A skeptic wary of deception, but optimistic about humanity in general.

I practice ethical non-monogamy. I find hierarchical relationship structures detrimental. NYC is both very fulfilling and too much at the same time. I try to find balance between soaking it all in and escaping from it.

I'm not very good at hanging out with people that I don't like 'all the way'. I tend to connect most with people that are able to be alone with their thoughts for extended periods of time, and are able to speak to what is true for them. I like people who are confident when they know what they're doing, but also realize that they will never know everything.
What I’m doing with my life
I have a super cool job. I'm a engineer who works on energy efficiency, commissioning, energy management, and sustainability projects. Made the transition to management last year, which is challenging, empowering, and sometimes terrifying. My job is important to me, and I am working with folks that really give a shit, which is cool as heck.

aresenum and I raise a dog together. She does most of the work though. Radish, moon of my life, is our eleven month old Australian Shepherd. First time dog owner.

I never thought of myself as a dog person before, but this experience is helping me to form my own definition of 'family' that I did not know was there. Still don't want kids though.

I find myself wanting to get out of the city frequently, and I usually drive north for about 45 minutes to go hiking every few weekends.
I’m really good at
Being way too competitive with board games, explaining why Cards Against Humanity is a shitty game, picking the best light bulb you could possibly imagine, and having laser-like focus until a problem is solved.

I do happen to be a huge dork with a big collection of board games. My house mates and I host board game parties every month or two.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Books about psychology, business, and sociology. Lean In, Naked Economics, More Than Two, Good to Great, and First Break all the rules
Shows: Easy, Better Call Saul, Game of Thrones, Walking Dead, Girls, Louie, Broad City, House of Cards, Steven Universe, Bojack Horseman
Music: Opeth, Folk Metal, Explosions in the Sky
Food: SPICY FOOD. Burritos, Gatorade, granola, orange juice, burgers, thai food.
Podcasts: This American Life, Planet Money, Crimetown, Serial, Startup, Reply All, Invisibilia, Science vs. etc.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Is there a way to filter out couple profiles on here? I swear 1/3 of my 'Browse Matches' page are these clowns that only want to date someone together.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Survivor is probably my favorite show. #noshame
You should message me if
I'm comparatively strict when it comes to safe sex practices to a lot of folks out there. I'm not going to feel comfortable having sex unless you know a thing or two about risk factors and take a proactive approach to sexual health. #sexy

You are into non-monogamy, and take a non-hierarchical approach to it. I stay away from those that use veto power for both our sake. I usually avoid anyone that is specifically going into things with a narrative about what a new relationship should become. Read this if you're interested.
https://www.morethantwo.com/primarysecondary.html

You're looking for a meaningful relationship where we push each other to be the kind of people we've always wanted, to live courageously, and find out things about ourselves that we weren't aware of.
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