29 Woodside, United States
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My self-summary
A Ravenclaw who values sly and cunning thought. I sometimes tell myself that I am ruthless, but time has shown that I care too much about other humans to be a Slytherin. I view the world as an abundant land of experiences and opportunity, while at the same time I am skeptical of what lies on the surface. I prefer to listen before I speak, but I am very comfortable acting on incomplete information.

I believe in empowerment of women in the workplace and discarding gender norms. Probability is the closest thing I have to a god, and I reject the idea of universal morality.

I practice ethical non-monogamy. I find hierarchical relationship structures detrimental. I try to give more than I take, and my ideal self is a person who is compassionate when under stress, and courageous when afraid.
What I’m doing with my life
I have a super cool job. I'm a engineer who works on energy efficiency, commissioning, energy management, and sustainability consulting. I'm a 'boss' now, which is tough but rewarding. I am working with folks that care about having a positive work environment and doing the right thing, and I'm excited to be in a spot where I can empower those around me to have a meaningful impact on the world.

When I'm not working or spending time with my partner aresenum, I'm spending time with Radish, our four month old Australian Shepherd. Things I've learned:
1. Puppies are capable of great and terrible things
2. God, this is a lot of work
3. I love this

I never thought of myself as a dog person before, but this experience is helping me to form my own definition of 'family' that I did not know was there. Still don't want kids though.

Other things - I like listening to podcasts, doing some indoor rock climbing, or planning a trip to West Virginia for a hippy camp that has a mild resemblance to a cult.

I find myself wanting to get out of the city frequently, and I usually drive north for about 45 minutes to go hiking every few weekends.
I’m really good at
Being way too competitive with board games, making fresh squeezed orange juice, making burritos, explaining why Cards Against Humanity super sucks, getting really excited about HVAC and picking the best light bulb you could possibly imagine.

I do happen to be a huge dork with a big collection of board games. I host board game parties every month or two.
The first things people usually notice about me
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Mostly nonfiction and essays. Books about psychology, business, and sociology. Finished "Lean In", "Naked Economics" and "The Art of War" not too long ago. Haven't quite finished "More Than Two" yet, but I'm working on it. Currently reading "Good to Great"
Shows: Easy, Better Call Saul, Game of Thrones, Walking Dead, Adventure Time, Girls, Louie, Broad City, House of Cards, Steven Universe,
Music: Opeth, Stephen Wilson, Folk Metal, Explosions in the Sky
Food: Burritos, Gatorade, granola, orange juice, burgers, thai food.
Podcasts: This American Life, Planet Money, Hidden Brain, Serial, Startup, Reply All, Invisibilia, Science vs. etc.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why can't polyamory be seen as 'normal'? Can't wait for that day to come.
Corporate culture
Kink culture
How strange it is to identify as a moderate, despite my hippy like eccentricities
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Survivor is probably my favorite show. #noshame

For the sake of tags: poly, polyamorous, polyamory, non monogamy, non-monogamy.
You should message me if
you like being physically active or like the idea of just walking around and talking as a date

Meeting someone from OKC sometimes has this weird subtext where you're supposed to be attracted to one another. Please be understanding that I probably won't be attracted to you within 4 hours of meeting you.

you embrace some form of polyamory / non monogamy