Bethany1980
35 Seattle, United States
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My self-summary
I'm a muffin who is an ill fit for boxes of any size. I'm originally from MA, but found a home in the comfort-loving culture and wide, wild beauty of the PNW. My wise and good parents encouraged me to make the most of my "one, wild, and precious life" and I have had a splendidly challenging, and often humbling, time trying to do so. I am emotionally and spiritually solid and am quite keen on living a life worthy of those I love. I try to surround myself with people who actively challenge themselves emotionally, physically, spiritually, and intellectually. I seek a partner who has developed some self awareness and wants to both push, and be pushed, to give more and go deeper.

I find it unfortunate that online dating is so acutely focused on what we have in common. I delight in our differences and appreciate all types of people. You don't have to have the same opinion as me, you just have to have asked the question and be able to articulate the justification for your conclusion. Whether we are to be friends or lovers, I derive great pleasure in simply learning the rich complexities of why you do what you do.
What I’m doing with my life
I currently work as a RN in an ER. I was an EMT for 8 years before going to nursing school. I took my summers off to lead wilderness trips for teenagers. I have worn many hats and my diverse experiences have taught me the power of patience, listening, and flexibility. As a result, I am attracted to people who are also empathetic to the many life paths that we can travel.

I love having good clean fun outside and in. I sleep equally well in a bivy or bed, love to dance, dabble in art and music, and am always up for benign mischief. I am particularly passionate about playing in the mountains, public health, and all creatures- great and small. I fancied being an outdoor extremist during my twenties. Unfortunately, my disposition left me a bit short of the mark...I'm just not THAT crazy, and pain is totally overrated. Regardless, I'm always up to try anything, and hope we can have many wild adventures together.
I’m really good at
Detecting B.S. I value authenticity and integrity highly and seek out people who have true and honest hearts.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I am present. Physically and emotionally.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Book: Jacob Have I Loved

Movies: Anything epic with a happy ending such as The Count of Monte Cristo, Willow, Pride and Prejudice, Fried Green Tomatoes. Violence as entertainment disturbs me a lot, especially if it involves animals and children. I vomited after Pan's Labyrinth and found Cold Mountain thoroughly traumatizing. I am careful to steer clear of such things now. My beloved grandfather was an infantryman in Patton's 80th division during WWII. He was captured during the battle of the bulge and suffered horrifically as a POW. His rejection of war and violence influenced me greatly as a child. I've dutifully watched every WWII documentary available to give me context for his sacrifices, but mostly prefer movies with rainbows and butterflies...and the occasional aliens vs giant robots apocalypse flick.

Music: I adore music, especially when its homemade. Summer 2013: Photosynthesis, Beloved, and Burning Man.

Food: I eat anything but babies. When I first moved west, I was totally in awe that grocery stores stayed open 24hrs. I would often go to the store and mosey about the isles at 1am, just because I could. I have heard that there are homes where portions, and ownership of said portions, is of high importance...independent of resource limitations. In my childhood home it was first come, first serve. if we ran out of pie, we baked more pie. I refuse for food to be a cause of tension as it is one of my most sacred forms of celebration. My ideal evening is cooking and sharing good food with good friends, or whomever is around at the moment. Nurturing people with food makes me very, very, happy. It's all about love, family, belonging, and connecting!

Drugs, coffee, and alcohol: Never have, never will. My vice is sugar...and I embrace it with enthusiasm.
The six things I could never do without
laughing, loving, learning, belonging, moving, being. While I'm a fan of financial stability, I care little for material wealth and the attitudes of entitlement that often accompany it. Material possessions are convenient, entertaining, and useful, but completely expendable. I try hard to demonstrate that I value my relationships with others much more than the coins in my pocket.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The past, and how I can apply its lessons to my future.
On a typical Friday night I am
Dancing if at all possible, or in the company of friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a Mormon bisexual burner who accidentally fell in love with a witch when I was 20. (if you can handle that sentence than we should definitely find some cake and eat it together.) We were together 10 years and have preserved a strong friendship. I've found that there is wisdom in always assuming you know less than you think you do about what you are assuming is an absolute...absolutes are a rare bird in this life, and exceptions abound.
You should message me if
You're a friendly and gentle sort who digs into life with gusto and is up for swapping stories, eating good food, and maybe playing a bit. Dating intimidates me a little, so I'm treading lightly. My goal is to be friends first, and lovers if we end up lucky. Cheers!
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