BiChai
44 San Antonio, United States
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My self-summary
"There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your philosophy." - Hamlet

I'm a unrepentant flirt in an open marriage; my wife is on this site as well.

I try to be candid and honest yet diplomatic. I'd rather be hated for what I am than loved for what I am not. If I say I will meet you, I'm not going to back out at the last minute.

I could lie about myself. I could say I'm looking for "the one," tell you I'm straight and single or some bullshit story about how my marriage is unhappy blah blah blah. I could feed you every line in the book that you've probably heard before. But I won't because it's not in my nature. Even if, god forbid, something were to happen & I was no longer married, I would still not be looking for just one person. That's not who I am.

I prefer to avoid one night stands, but certainly not looking for monogamous relationships either - just friends and if it becomes something more, great. If you just need someone to make you feel special until the "right" person comes along, I play that role well.

I listen more than I talk. I appreciate the fluidity of life. I know from experiences that I could spend an afternoon of romance & passion and never see her again because that evening she met "Mr. Right." I cherish the memories & continue on.

I love Australian Rules Football, and I'm happy it is finally getting some air time again in the states. I will watch football, basketball, baseball & hockey; I prefer pro to college. I love my San Antonio Spurs, Geelong Cats & the Chicago Cubs. I am a Cubs fan because of Scooby-Doo, and yes I will gladly explain that if you're interested.

I commend you if you believe in soulmates & one-true-loves, but I don't. Then again, if you do believe in those things you've probably already passed me by.

Unlike some people, I actually read profiles. If you have an age limit that is even one year younger/older than I, I will not message you because I assume you wouldn't be interested. If the age limit you put it is not set in stone and you are interested, then message me.
What I’m doing with my life
Work and errands (there is still a stereotypical suburbanite aspect to my life).

Refining my philosophy in life which is not-so-oddly similar to libertarianism.

Traveling & photography when I can.

My wife and I enjoy a great open marriage. It continues to be an incredible experience that allows us to experiment and share our affection with those close to us.
I’m really good at
Sarcastic remarks & sexual innuendo.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm a chubby guy. I fidget. I'm quiet until you get me talking (it's not that difficult).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My Favortie Books: #1 is Good Omens by Neil Gaiman and Terry Pratchett; it's a delightful comedy about Armageddon. Ayn Rand's Atlas Shrugged and The Fountainhead are absolutely amazing - I never thought I would get into a book about either architecture or railroads. I enjoy Peter David's sci-fi and John Douglas' true crime books. I also like graphic novels - okay, okay, comic books - especially if they have artwork by George Perez, Alex Ross, or Ivan Reis, or are written by Geoff Johns, Gail Simone or Grant Morrison. And, of course, I'm a fan of The Ethical Slut.

My Favorite Movies: sci-fi and comedy. Mystery Science Theater 3000: The Movie, and if you're nice to me I'll let you come over and watch it. Other faves are L.A. Story, Bull Durham, Batman Begins, The Dark Knight, Hot Fuzz, Shaun of the Dead, Young Frankenstein, Some Like it Hot, The Apartment, Gandhi, On the Waterfront, Citizen Kane and Casablanca.

My Favorite Music: Collective Soul, Cowboy Mouth, Brother Cane, The Fratellis, The Interrupters, Alice in Chains, Tantric, Cool for August, Foo Fighters, Nine Inch Nails, Rob Zombie, Seether, Ha Ha Tonka. On the lighter side Hootie & the Blowfish,Great Big Sea, Edvard Grieg, Georges Bizet, Mozart.

My Favorite Foods: Sushi is the best, but I'll try just about anything. I also love to cook.

My Favorite TV Shows (not that anyone asked): The Flash, Archer, Arrow, Modern Family, Venture Bros. & Sherlock for entertainment. Red Eye for commentary (because I'm a Libertarian). Oh, and I love watching Good Eats so much that I've developed a crush on Alton Brown. 24, Mystery Science Theater 3000, Constantine, Freedom Watch, Millennium, Chuck, Pretender, Smallville, Fringe, White Collar, and Frasier are my favorites of TV shows past.

My Favorite Martian: Ray Walston
The six things I could never do without
My wife, my cats, my house, toilet paper, garlic, & sports.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The nature of existence, the yin and the yang, the light and the dark, the equal and opposite reaction.

When OKCupid is going to just admit "Special Blend" is code for "Random" and when when there will be a filter to eliminate people who are only looking for single guys so I don't have to waste my time or theirs. Granted, I really don't spend a lot if time thinking about this, but it felt like a good place to vent.
On a typical Friday night I am
Going out to eat with my wife and/or friends, singing karaoke, or just relaxing at home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm a bisexual quasi-polyamorist, but you'd know that if you read my profile.
I'm a sucker for redheads.
I will call your bluff.
You should message me if
I have only one requirement for people who are thinking about messaging me:

You can respect other people's beliefs even if you don't agree with them. If I read your profile and you openly express hatred or disdain for a particular person or group, you're already a turn-off. Pay attention to this, people, there's a hell of a lot more of them on this site than you think.


I'm on Kik with the same user name, but if you message me at least tell me you saw my profile here so I don't think you're fake.
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