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My self-summary
I am pretending to be a blank slate. (We see what we want to see, anyway. It feels so much better to be optimistic than realistic!)
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to figure out what's next so I won't be surprised. By the way, I don't drink desperately, just thought that was a hilarious answer choice!
I’m really good at
Listening, reasoning, thinking, teaching.
The first things people usually notice about me
My close resemblance to Frankenstein's monster.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The Sopranos and Six Feet Under way back when, Mad Men, Nurse Jackie. OITNB goes without saying, The Good Wife, Orphan Black, Grace and Frankie, Transparent. I binged on Dexter a couple weeks before the finale and found the character development extraordinary (and loved Deb Morgan). I don't watch many of the series people rave about (especially if they're dark and depressing) because I'd rather be reading. Despite my degrees in English I rarely read fiction, but love reading about psychology, the brain, perception, behavior, and why people believe weird things (such as conspiracy theories). I typically have over a dozen books checked out from the library. As for diet, I follow Michael Pollan's advice: "Eat real food, not too much, mostly plants" (although my efforts towards calorie restriction are consistently sabotaged by chocolate). Music: Mostly Apple Music or internet radio through my stereo system– lots of French music, both old and new, some but not all jazz (e.g., Ella Fitzgerald and Diana Krall, not the screechy, irritating, I've-either-got-to-turn-that-off-or-throw-myself-out-the-window kind of jazz), Urban Latino, and contemporary hit songs (with some exceptions: Justin Bieber and Fetty Wap may be proof that the Illuminati really do control the music industry). I enjoy songs and music videos from other countries. Music is energizing and uplifting!
Six things I could never do without
Friends, books, the internet. Times two.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Whether consciousness continues after the body craps out. What my present would look like if I could go back to certain moments and hit Undo. Why my college students are so bewildered by commas and semicolons. Why the Fox News demographic is so gullible. Whether the world is savable or if we are doomed. Why anyone would want to keep up with the Kardashians. If I will ever learn how to attain perfect crèma from my vintage Pavoni espresso machine. If God hates me because even though I really, really want to, I find it difficult to believe in Him or Her (I mean, think about it: if God has a gender, then there is a penis or vagina under those flowing white robes. I find this problematic). Even though science shot holes in my spiritual canoe, I find neurobiology fascinating. So basically I spend a lot of time thinking about thinking.
On a typical Friday night I am
Grading papers or procrastinating (exactly what I'm doing right now, as it is indeed a Friday).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I once really believed that by practicing Transcendental Meditation twice a day I would become enlightened within five years. That's what they promised, so at age 20 I moved from NYC to Palo Alto to learn the technique in a Stanford classroom filled with flowers and incense. I even became a TM teacher to speed up the process. After those five years went by and none of us had achieved Cosmic Consciousness, we were told "ten years." When those were up, they said it would surely happen "within this lifetime." A few more years went by and nobody had hit the Nirvana jackpot, so they added ".........or maybe the next lifetime."
(I finally caught on.)
You should message me if
You're looking for intelligent life forms and not into rock climbing.
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