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My self-summary
Update 2/13/16- I'm back on OkCupid after a long hiatus and 'dipping my toe' in the water. Stay warm, everyone!

All ethnicities/races and reasonable ages welcomed.

I've been able to figure out quite a bit about myself over the years, in order to find a good balance of Man(tm) and boy. The suggestion box is over there.

I'm an introspective, generally smart, and funny guy living and working in NYC. My career is in the mental arts; mostly community mental health (I've worked in the hospitals, shelters, streets, and also have had private practice gigs), and I take pride in the ability to foster wellness in others. I know that some people say that therapists and the like are only in the field because they're 'crazy'. I am certainly not- I am outre, but not certifiable- think the guy at the bar that people gravitate to, because they know I can fix them (I can't, or won't).

I've started running recently; not from my demons, they're my friends. I also love to walk all around the city for hours- when I say 'walk for hours', I mean 20 milers.

Did everyone have to co-opt Nerd Culture? I, too love my podcast stash of Comedy Bang Bang, WTF, and the NPR Holy Trinity of This American Life, Wait Wait, Don't Tell Me, and Radiolab. Like everyone from the era, I too took classes at UCB.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm currently work with families in the mental health non-profit world. I beat the streets, which is my jam. I've worked inpatient psych research (cool clients, dry work), homeless services (tough clients, tough work). This year I'm working on my private practice (send me your crazy friends and fiends!)

I love movies, going to see music, reading, etc. I prefer a dive bar to a club any time, though.
I’m really good at
I'm a pretty great first-dater. It surprises me.

I had studied opera/musical theater in the past. It's a work in progress to get the cojones to formally return, but I still retain decent set of pipes. If you're good, I'll eventually serenade you. If you're not good, well, that's even better.

My guacamole is great, and that's an objective FACT.

I have near-mastery of the NY Times Crosswords, and word games in general, verbal and on paper (no word searches, puhleese). . Nothing better than tangential banter that leads you into absurdity. Note: Scrabble is NOT my friend, and I don't know why.

I'm great at walking all around the city. Although I work in Manhattan and Brooklyn, I'm not in the 'hot spots' of the BK so much. I never get tired of finding a new place, I only get tired of slow walkers (like Eskimos and snow, I have so many different words for them).

I am always on time. Always. Comes with being part German, I guess. I'm cool with you not being on time, thought, just let me know and we're golden.
The first things people usually notice about me
Eyelashes...and that I lack some...'filters.' I tend to say what's on my mind, but do okay at fancy parties; no worries.

Someone once said that my mind works quickly, in the way that I'm thinking beyond the paragraph while most are still reading it. I like processing things quickly.

People are afraid that I'm going to analyze them. I don't wear the therapist hat all the time, but I'm the guy in the bar that people gravitate to and tell their life woes, even if I don't say what I do for a living. It's a calling.

Okay, full disclosure- I do analyze you. I'm just not gonna fix you.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I really am eclectic in all of this; I love a Fellini film, then Midnight Madness. I love Mozart, and the Monkees. Bouley and chicken nuggets. I'm open to anything new. I'm currently on a quest to decode quinoa, and I'm doing damn good.

I read all sorts, although I gravitate toward memoir/essay (yeah, Sedaris like everyone else, the Eggers). I read one book that really struck me "I married a borderline." Please don't be a borderline. Or if you are, please keep me on the good side of the split.

I won't rattle every single piece of media that I consume, but I handle 80's facts with aplomb, read on a pretty strong tear, and can handle any movie.
The six things I could never do without
My six fingers. Come on, OKCupid, we hate this question. However, if you answered 'air' and 'water' might want to look at the other 5 million profiles that put that as well.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I think a lot about hopefulness for the future, both personal and global- this surprises me as I've been raised a NY Curmudgeon.

I get animated about politics and spin, and that includes how much we're inundated nonstop, and how toxic it is. But yes, I will watch Project Runway, please.

I think about the fun in the city that you can grab at every turn, and figure ways to conserve my energy so I can grab it.

I've been thinking about how 'curvy' means such a different thing across ethnicity. Is there an OkCupid converter?
On a typical Friday night I am
When I have it in me, I really do like going to a new bar to unwind. I do prefer the more mellow places and an amazing happy hour. Sometimes I'll just go home with friends and play Rock Band or watch a Russ Meyers film. On the weekend, I really do look for that NY adventure (or to run away)- I'm pretty good at finding that spot that has the perfect NY food- quality, not trendiness.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm an absent minded professor type at times. So, I'll be able to calculate with exactitude the time needed to get to a place, but then lose my keys for 10 minutes (I'll still magically get to where I need to be on time- see above how that magic works).

I might have some dyspraxia, or at least my (adorable) klutziness can be blamed on it. Just help make sure I've buttoned my shirt correctly. I don't pratfall into the street or anything.

Sometimes I fall into a k-hole of internet commenting. I keep my identity semi-public, so I'm not an asshole. "I'm kinda a big deal on the internet."

I just spent 15 minutes listening to different covers of 'Still Alive' from Portal.
You should message me if
I'm looking for a smart-as-a-whip, funny woman who wants to share NY adventures, with me, while venting about the fuck-allness that is NYC. If people using golf umbrellas while it's drizzling bring you violent thoughts, well that's just super too.

After we hate things mutually for a while It's cool to find love of this world, because I do kinda dig it. Don't tell anyone, though.

Bonus points if you can guess my name from my UserID.