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My self-summary
I am happily married and in a wonderful, long term partnered relationship with my girlfriend.

That, along with my array of interests and responsibilities, doesn't leave a lot of extra time; I'm looking for someone to share the occasional, focused bubble-away from it all whenever we can get our schedules to match. Sometimes those bubbles will only last a few hours, other times over night, and on special occasions, a weekend away.

I have strong geek roots. I still have much of the comic book collection I started when I was ten. I also enjoy board games and the occasional video game, but my biggest nerd hobby is playing Dungeons and Dragons. I'd love to tell you more about my character than you could possibly be interested in - don't worry, I won't.

I'm also a Seattle Seahawks season ticket holder, and I'm even a nerd about that: I'm the guy who listens to the play-by-play on the radio while at the game, with binoculars close at hand.

I am brave, optimistic, and creative
What I’m doing with my life
My partner and I spend a large chunk of energy raising our teenager. I'm shocked every day at what a blessing that has become.

I started learning the piano not long ago. I've never been musical, but it's super fun and rewarding.

I also earned my master's in the spring of 2012 and expected to have lots of free time once I finished. That didn't happen (I think I'm even busier now!), but I really enjoy all the ways my time is occupied.

I really like my job! I'm the manager for a team of continuous improvement consultants in healthcare.
I’m really good at
Making plans. I can plan for everything from coordinating movie times to a defense against the robots when they begin their uprising.

Group facilitation.

Reading maps and route finding. I usually know which way is north. Just give me the map, and I'll figure out where we are and how to get where we're going.

Teaching and telling stories. Want to know how to read that map? I can show you. Want to hear how I learned to read maps? I'd love to tell you.
The first things people usually notice about me
I often hear that people feel very comfortable around me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The Sun Also Rises, Notes from the Underground, Cormac McCarthy's The Border Trilogy, The Fifth Discipline, The Astonishing X-Men (written by Joss Whedon), Watership Down, Dune, Sex at Dawn, The Ethical Slut

The Empire Strikes Back, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, Pulp Fiction, The Avengers, Casablanca, Die Hard, Rocky, The Magnificent Seven, No Country for Old Men, Singles,The Royal Tenenbaums, Napoleon Dynamite, The Lord of the Rings trilogy

Orange is the New Black, The Get Down, Legends of Tomorrow, Flash, and The Walking Dead (especially the Walking Dead!), and are current Netflix favorites.

Bob Dylan, Nick Cave, Tom Petty

I'm a vegetarian, but I don't really enjoy vegetables much; pizza is the perfect food. I also love phad thai, cheese enchiladas, Ethiopian and Indian.
Six things I could never do without
1) My iPhone
2) My running shoes
3) That first cup of coffee in the morning
4) High speed internet
5) Bourbon
6) A balance of time with other people and time alone. I go a little crazy when the pendulum swings too far one way or the other.

(I think we all understand the intent here, right? Of course I could survive without those things, but these are some of my favorites that I'm quite accustomed to having access to)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
"Is there a better way to be doing this?"


Polyamory, non-monogamy and how to best live polyamorously in a mostly monogamous world

Sex in all its varied kinky and vanilla forms and with many kinds of people and collections of people. Most people are sexy in their way

Leadership, management, and how to keep growing both skills
On a typical Friday night I am
I typically spend Friday evening with my girlfriend, often with our teenager.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I lost my virginity to a prostitute, somewhere in the desert outside of Las Vegas. Then I drove back and won $500 at the slots. I was a late bloomer.
You should message me if
The idea of forming a non-monogamous intimate relationship with someone who is already too busy sounds good to you.

You think you might like to go out for a beer or a bourbon and talk about polyamory, table top games, intentional community or whatever else comes up.
The two of us