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My self-summary
For the love of cupcakes and chocolate icing please send me something beyond any form of, "Hi; you are very beautiful." For fuck's sake my profile literally outlines an infinite number of things about me to talk about/discuss. Appeal to my brain and/or personality and I will message back! Just got to give me some time! I'm a busy girl and I will check your profile a few times before messaging back.

-Sighs- Now that that disclaimer is over on to the good stuff. : )

I'm looking for someone(s) with drive, goals, passion, a who aims to do something with what they are given. You don't have to know what it is or even be after it right this second. But if you live with ferocity, and want to experience something new without fear or judgement I would like to do that with you. : )

Also, please be proactive about your shit. I really have no time for people who are upset with where they are and are not trying to change it/be happy. I live my life as full as I possibly can every day and I don't need to date others who are that extreme. But they cannot be idle. Life is too finite for that.

That said, here are some important things about me.

Probably the most crucial thing you should know if you are interested in me is in my private fact. The rest of my information is important. But this is a big deal so it goes in a special spot.

I am Pansexual, not Bi.

I am often Polyamorous, but not always, it depends on who I am dating and where I am at with them.

I am very confident. I know who I am, what I want, and where I am going and I'm not afraid to say so. I have high standards for myself and I know exactly how much I am worth and I don't settle. So if you like confidence, I'm your girl. ; )

Okay, I've been told I'm cocky, not just confident. I'll agree with that.

I am strong and forward and if I want/need something from you you can always expect me to just tell you, not expect you to know. Also, I don't get upset about things easy. I stand my ground, and express myself, but in a calm, civil manner. I really hate drama and I don't want to be with someone who can't give me the same courtesy , so please, if you are not that kind of person, move along.

I'm a sucker for a good argument. If you can challenge the way I think without being an asshole I might makeout with you.

Respect and honesty make me hot and bothered.

I will stand up to you, but I want to be with people who will stand up to me, and push me to grow.

I am equally dark and sexy as I am cute and innocent. -bats eyelashes-

I am a classy lady, who likes to say fuck a lot.
It may be my very favorite word.

"Keeping it classy," is my motto. Until we are behind closed doors and among friends, then all bets are off and you better be prepared for what you are getting with me.

Honesty gets you really far with me. Even if its not what I want to hear, I REALLY respect it. Can honesty and respect be a turn on? The answer is yes. At least for me, : )

Hmmm... What else. I have an environmental science related degree. I chose that major to appease my logical and scientific half of my brain. My creative side and I love to sew, craft, and basically glitter everything. I spend a lot of time in my studio making stuff. I am currently taking fashion classes to expand on my little handmade empire.

I like to do things on my own. I get all warm and fuzzy inside when I have made something myself and I get to present it to the world.

I do not think the topic of sexual compatibility should be avoided, ever. It irks me to no end when that is what someone opens their conversation with. Just because its one of my, and everyone else's, favorite topics, doesn't mean it should be the very first one. But it should also NEVER be avoided.

I believe in putting time and effort in to build strong lasting relationships.

I am not going to run from love and commitment. It scares the fucking shit out of me, but I am brave, and strong, and determined to find good partners to go through the world with.

I believe in courting. However, I enjoy dating too.

I look you in the eye and say what i am feeling/thinking. I am not shy, or fearful of expressing myself and telling someone what i want or need, both emotionally or sexually. And I like to discuss the hows and whys and grow from there.

I have good credit (which I am damn proud of considering the spending habits of my generation) and I don't let people spend money on me easily. I have a tough time with that. As tight as money is; I try to always go Dutch. We have to date a while usually before I let someone else pick up the check.

I want to date someone(s) I can laugh with. And cuddle with. And go enjoy activities with.

I'm touchy feely. That has to be okay. I love human contact and often share it with my friends. I actually really need it so if seeing me cuddled up to a friend at a party and that would upset you I am not your girl. My language of love is often physical so I need to express it.
What I’m doing with my life
Working, and having fun. I have four jobs, am back in school. I'm a busy mother fucker. But I like keeping my life full of new things.
My social calender is fucking stacked. I do a lot. I love to fill up my life as much as possible. I prefer to date individuals who are similar to me in this respect. This way we can share a lot but we are also independent of each other. Having my independence in my relationships is incredibly important to me. If I feel smothered its over.
I’m really good at
Planning activities, being honest, talking when I have an issue. Also, I am really good at being overdressed. Like always. I really like getting dolled up.
Randomly being a nerd/geek. I am usually unsure which is Star Wars and which is Star Trek but sometimes I will surprise you!
Also, I'm good at being a good time. And a DD. And a friend you can depend on when you are in need. I'm also good at telling people how much they mean to me.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm good at communication. Like really good. I don't blow up with anger easily. I don't do drama. And I NEVER say something about someone that I wouldn't be willing to say to that persons face (or have already said to them). Honesty is HUGE for me. Also, I'm open about my sexuality.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Laurel K. Hamilton is one of my favorite authors.
I love shoot-em up movies, and horror films a lot.
I love Game of Thrones and Walking Dead. I adore zombie flicks.
I love country music and Hip-Hop (I prefer dirty south hip-hop)
Don't even get me STARTED on hick-hop.
But I also love pop and classic rock.
My favorite food is definitely fresh, dark, strawberries. Below them in no particular order is mushrooms, Nutella, bread, peanut butter, angel food cake, high quality chocolate, and coffee. Mmm coffee.
Six things I could never do without
Here's a list of things I love:
A good cup of coffee. I get up almost every morning and make a freshly ground blend with real cream and sugar and I find my morning Zen.
Change. I like change, even when it pisses me off, makes me cry, of just sucks, it keeps life interesting.
Fashion. Shoes, makeup, hair, following designers; I love all of that.
Flirting. Its natural for me, like breathing. Can we make an activity of going out and letting me hit on the waiter/waitress hard in front of you and see how confused, blushy and cute they get?!?!?! (Am I a terrible person?)
Girly things. I like pink, and feminine clothing, painting my nails and everything typically thought of as "feminine," whatever the fuck that is supposed to mean.
Days on the ranch. I like my animals and the beauty of the land.
Meeting new people. I'm not at all shy.
Doing things I have never done before. I have a bucket list a mile long and I work on it as often as possible.
Organizing things. (Especially by color. My closet it flawless.)
Having my perspective pushed.
My pets.
My PT. She taught me how to walk again, and I will never forget that.
Yoga at sunrise.
A good candle. I always have one going. I adore a good candle. I am actually a bit of a candle snob. I have a favorite brand that never fails me.
On a practical note, my contacts. : )
Talking about sexism and gender roles across cultures and communities. I'm definitely into Women's and Gender Studies, though it wasn't my major.
I also love giving gifts. It is one of my languages of love. The only occasion I need to give a gift is liking you.
Perfume bottles. The glass is so beautiful.
Smelling nice.
At risk of getting a bunch of pervy underthings. I have a problem with never having enough. A pretty real one. If companies stop making pretty lacy things then I will have to stop but until then all bets are off.
Gentle sunshine on my skin (that was fucking poetic; no?)
Late night trips to get froyo. I do this A LOT.
Working in my studio.
My cat. I love him. He is an adorable bundle of awesomeness.
Taking old stuff and creating new stuff out of it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Stories, I write a lot.
The zombie apocalypse.
The people I love.
How to own all of Sephora. And Joanne's Fabrics. How can I do that?
On a typical Friday night I am
No typical for me. I could be working, bar hopping, dancing, at a dinner party, home alone with a movie, or working out.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm gonna put several things in here.

I am NOT looking for love. I love easily and deeply. I have more people in my life that I love and who love me than I can even list. My goal in life is happiness. And on the love front I am completely and 100% satisfied.
What I AM looking for is HONESTY, INTEGRITY, and RESPECT. Those are huge orders to fill so if you don't think you can fill them 100% please don't waste my time. Or yours. Please know what those three things mean to you and what that looks like for you AND be able to articulate it.

Also, I'm a Unicorn. If you know what that means I'm giving you a high five right now.

A man who dresses nice makes me forget words. It appeals to my love of fashion, and some carnal part of me. All those clean lines make me all stupid inside, and I might check the stitching of your clothes with big dreamy blue eyes for a few moments. But also it just gets me plain old desire.
I'm not talking in a suit by the way, though that counts as dressing nice, but having a sense of style, your lines, ect. is basically the equivalent of lingerie to me. The right fit of a clean v-neck has been known to make me speechless.

Ya...I got lost in my imagination there for a moment. -guilt face-

Prince makes me dance and sing like and idiot but INXS hits turns me on.

Soooooo anyway, another thing that I think my be pertinent is that I am a highly affectionate person, both giving and receiving, and I appreciate that in a partner as well. Cuddles=awesomeness
You should message me if
You think you can really get with the honesty, integrity, and respect requirements I have.
Or you ever wanted to date a more modern liberal version of a southern belle.
Or you are sex positive and understand what rape culture we live in and it's affects on us as men and women, especially if we aren't critical questioners I our cultural environment.

Please, for the love of god and blueberry muffins, don't message me if you aren't gonna put any effort in. I won't respond if all you say is, "hello, how are you?" If you've read my profile then there are a thousand things to talk about. I have time to spend not time to waste.
The two of us