38Joppa, United States
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My self-summary
I'm a "thinking man" who spends a lot of time chasing his passions. I also have a lot of empathy and compassion. I believe empathy is at the root of what many of us want when we communicate. I can also be quite a goofball when I want to though, snapping out one-liners relevant to whatever situation I'm in. I like to listen to people as well, because people's various perspectives on different things fascinate me, especially concerning different forms of art, and in some cases, history. My personality seems to come out in the piano music I write, with people describing it as dreamy, peaceful, and calming.

I'm also aware that a lot of humans group other humans into behavioral groups based on our appearance as a gut reaction. A long time friend of mine reminded me of how different we were from a lot of people around us that happened to look like us for a long time, going to Baltimore City Public Schools at the time. We barely listened to the music they did, often did not talk they way they did, or even want to talk about the things they did. We chose not to immerse ourselves in the culture they did. I then found a lot of friends and special people in my life who did not look like me or have the same shade of skin, but had similar interests. Over the course of my life, I've then met a lot of people who have similar interests, that I feel are bright, compassionate, funny, beautiful, and take great care of themselves but who do not happen to look like me or people I'm related to. I just want to date someone who has similar qualities, regardless of their cultural background. I identify as a human being and a citizen of this world, not with some label society decides to give me. I feel the same way about people I meet, that I do not know. They are human beings. Not *insert-whatever-demographic-you-want* people. They can then take the time to identify themselves to me as an individual if they wish, and vice versa.
What I’m doing with my life
For a living, I'm a software engineer for a defense contractor. Definitely digging it right now :).

My Meyer's briggs personality type is INTJ. I'm on the cusp of being an an INFJ, too. Apparently, we are pretty rare people. I work around quite a bit of INTJ's, but then again...I'm in a technical field.

Typically you might find me doing things like:

* Randomly writing writing songs on my piano
* Mediating about how beautiful this planet is, and how short our life on it is.
* Working out at the gym, most likely weights, but a bit of cardio
* Kayaking in middle river, riding my bike, or walking around somewhere when the weather is great.
* Eating Halo Top Ice Cream (It can fit in my macros, and it is good to boot)
* Sitting out on my deck listening to music or reading a book
* At a bookstore on a weekend morning reading up on new programming stuff, practicing programming, or reading a cool fictional book

Things you will not find me doing:

* Following pop culture and/or caring about it. That includes 95% of the music and fashion. I have a clear understanding of what makes And that's definitely not going to change based on anyone, lol. That also means I would never want expect someone I'm interested in to be anyone but herself.
* Going to clubs
* Going to crowded bars
* Eating fried eggs, American cheese, and anything that has coconut in it (have always hated those lol)

Im also a professional software developer, settling into my first home, gardening (pulling a lot of weeds now lol), and I am also a hobbyist keyboard player who's interest lies primarily in jazz. But that's been my favorite genre of music since I was 9 years old. I love many types of music though, and am able to find many things to appreciate about so many different types of art. I'm also a big fan of jazz influenced folk, 60's Brit influenced pop rock music, bossa nova and salsa music, and British invasion 80's music :D.

I'm excited about figuring out ways to apply my graphics, music, and programming skills in the future to help build games and application software people really enjoy using, and hopefully even make learning more fun. Tech activism is becoming more of a chief concern of mine as well. I'm currently brainstorming an app that would work as an anti pattern to social media. It has its uses, but I really want to help bring people together organically in various ways.
I’m really good at
Laughing, one-liners, choosing and keeping friends, computers, messing around with instrumental music, random banter.
The first things people usually notice about me
A shaven head? White Teeth? Erm...not sure. *looks around to see if anyone could tell me*
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The art of happiness was the last great book I read for enjoyment. I loved "The Life and Death of American Cities" by Jane Jacobs, but if I hadn't had to read for a class, I wouldn't have picked it up, lol. I also have been spending a lot of time studying mindfulness and mediation. Connecting with the universe from which life comes is a priority of mine, because I believe it helps elevate our common humanity.

T.V. Shows: Orange is the New Black, House of Cards, Game of Thrones, The Wire, The Sopranos, Various Marvel Comic related T.V series, various Anime series like Darker than Black, Phantoms, etc.
Movies: Spider-Man, Batman Begins, The Dark Knight, Iron Man, Iron Man 2, Lord of the Rings Trilogy, Pan's Labyrinth, American Zombie, The Matrix (first one only), What Dreams may Come, Patch Adams, Good Morning Vietnam, some great classic horror like Christine and Near Dark as well as much respect (but I'll never watch it again, it made me keep the light on for 2 weeks) for The Exorcist and...those are a few that I can think of that had a solid impact on me in one way or another. I also love good martial arts movies, like Ong Bak and Kung-Fu Hustle:).
Music: Way more than this list but: Miles Davis, The sonar Collectiv Orchestra, Jazzanova, Clara Hill, John Coltrane, Steely Dan, Swing Out Sister, Astrud Gilbero, Janelle Monae, Prince, Erykah Badu, Jill Scott, Bebel Gilberto, Ellis Regina, Ella Fitzgerald and Cole Porter, Jane Monheit's covers of the aforementioned artists, and modern game orchestrators like Noubo Umaetsu, and Hitoshi Sakimoto. As for Rock: The Beatles, The Kinks, The Zombies, The Doors, The Beach Boys, The Mars Volta, XTC, A Perfect Circle. Folk/Rock: Joni Mitchell, Thief, Pat Metheney, CheckField. 80's British invasion, including Phil Collins, Tears for Fears, Joe Jackson (even though I believe he is Canadian), Level 42 (some of their stuff, anyway). The list goes on and on...
Food: During the week, mainly salads, wraps, lean meats and veggies. On the weekends I eat whatever though, usually wings and a cider at a local pub (Dry rub wings at Red Brick Station are awesome!), sushi at a place like XS in mount vernon or sushi hana in towson, or whatever else may strike my fancy. I'm not extremely picky.
Six things I could never do without
Air, Water, Food, a job...ok, maybe the list isn't THAT serious...

Family, Friends, House, computer, cell phone, car, keyboard.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The fact that It takes courage to engage someone as a human being without fear. It takes courage to embrace empathy in your heart. The fact that It takes courage to feel with love in our hearts without fear.

On a more material note, the heath and well-being of my loved ones, projects for my new house, code, whether or not I can randomly flesh out a song in my head, etc.
On a typical Friday night I am
Over my best friend's house spending time with his family and my goddaughter (usually watching some flick we think is awesome), catching a few drinks at a happy hour, or maybe I'm out at the coffeehouse reading something.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I shed tears watching MockingJay Part 1 (The Hunger Games Film Series) very recently. There is something that moved me deeply about that film and it's subject matter.

I have a huge imagination, and I'm a video game and movie geek. Not so much that I can recite a bunch of lines or anything, but I can have some pretty fun conversations about various games and movies. My favorite show as a teenager was also Xena: Warrior Princess. And I'm darned proud of it.
You should message me if
You love music and art, hiking, biking, kayaking, museums, board and/or video games and want to hear from a guy who is funny, and likes to talk about lots of interesting things, as well as talk to a guy who may be a thinker, but he likes to have fun doing it. I know it can be jarring to join a site like this, and get spammed by all kinds of guys too, clamoring for your limited time. But if you're interested, feel free to drop me a line.

You are greatly interested in making the world a better place, through love, compassion, and whatever your heart leads you to do :D.
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