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My self-summary
In October of 2011, I moved from Boston to Seattle to reboot my life.

I had no job, my housing plans had fallen through, I barely knew two people in town (who were friends of my sister), and I brought only what I could carry with me on the plane.

I had never lived outside of New England.

We get to choose what our lives look like. I'm looking for someone else who wants to choose to build something unique.

I give myself creative challenges (like running a blog where I did a creation a day for a year) and develop personal traditions (like spending NYE in a different place every year with no repeats). I like to go on random adventures and try new things (hiking to new places, meeting random people in random cities and hearing their stories, indoor skydiving, a trapeze lesson, blowing glass...).

Intrigue me.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a musician/educator, mostly a singer, and I consider myself one of the lucky ones. After I earned my Master's and taught in Boston with the Metropolitan Opera Guild, I decided to quit my job and move cross country to pursue a career in performance. I do the opera thing, some musical theater, and my own singer-songwriter stuff.

Sometimes I do it in crappy bars. Sometimes I do it with famous musicians.

I keep busy.
I’m really good at
I give a heckuva back massage, and I hold my own in a pun-off.
The first things people usually notice about me
Lank. Ears. Scruff.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Catcher in the Rye, Blankets, The Perks of being a wallflower, anything by David Sedaris, anything by Kelly Link, Box Office Poison by Alex Robinson, An Arsonist's Guide to Writers' Home in New England, A Single Man, anything by Vonnegut, Neil Gaiman, Oscar Wilde, Winter's Light: Reflections of a Yankee Queer, Blueprints of the Afterlife, A Little Life

The Beatles, My Brightest Diamond, The Shins, Queen, Sufjan Stevens, Ben Folds, Miles Davis, Debussy, Puccini, Rufus Wainwright, Arvo Part, Steve Reich, oldies (Motown, 60's-70's), Amanda Palmer (Dresden Dolls), Owen Pallett, Nico Muhly, Regina Spektor, yMusic, Son Lux, Fiona Apple, Kishi Bashi, Perfume Genius...

A Single Man, The Princess Bride, Clue, Murder By Death, Amelie, Lord of the Rings, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Kill Bill, American Splendor, I Heart Huckabees, Once, Stranger than Fiction, American Beauty, Samsara, the Before Sunrise trilogy, Boyhood, Mad Max: Fury Road, Moonlight

Game of Thrones, Sherlock, House of Cards, The Comeback, Firefly, Pushing Daisies, 30Rock, Drag Race, Full Frontal, Six Feet Under, BtVS, Mad Men, Extras, Archer, West Wing, Difficult People, Parks and Rec, Rick and Morty, The Walking Dead, Steven Universe, American Gods

Radiolab, This American Life, The Moth, Selected Shorts, Welcome to Night Vale, Invisibilia, Sewers of Paris, Thrilling Adventure Hour (Beyond Belief only), Here's the Thing, The Orbiting Human Circus of the Air, Hello from the Magic Tavern, More Perfect

Pasta, Indian, Chicken every way under the sun
Six things I could never do without
The internet, artistic fulfillment, "me time," some kind of nature, music, the people I choose to have in my life
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My artistic goals, my plans for the next 5 hours, 24 hours, week, season, year, my relationships, Big Ideas, where I've already been and what I've already done.
On a typical Friday night I am

Friday nights in the recent past have included vocal improvisations in a bike tunnel with a group of talented musicians, going out on the town with a drag queen, a stay at home night with coffee ice cream, Dr. Who and the roomies, and singing a gig with the Seattle Opera.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I used to be a Catholic Republican that drank Mountain Dew and was abstaining until marriage. Things change.
You should message me if
You can manage to not take it personally if I don't respond.

You want to climb a tree with me.

You're okay with an intelligent, funny guy who's often stuck inside his own head.

I'm looking for someone with a Wilde wit, Gyllenhaal grin, and ottery bod. Bonus points if you can suggest a unique first date, wear glasses, and read XKCD.

Not all interactions need to be a date or lead to romantic involvement. Adventure buddies, music and film friends, coffee chats- all heartily embraced.
The two of us