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My self-summary
***Meow! I just took a new job in Columbus, and am relocating from Fort Lauderdale, FL. SO, say "hello" and invite me out! I would love to meet some locals to chat up and to interrogate about Ohio!!***

I am a one-time academic who is now working in middle management and hospitality. It’s not what I would have imagined, but it pays the bills and I enjoy it. I'm clever and caring, and I like putting time and energy into people who are intellectually stimulating and compassionate.

I am an intensely constructive person. Being a positive influence in the world is incredibly important to me. I get along best with people who also have a desire to do good in the world, even if they don't presently have a plan or the resources to do so.

Practically I am organized, honest, and forthcoming.
What I’m doing with my life
Working, mostly. However, after a thus-far lifetime of being a radical feminist (which I still am) and an apologist (which I am less and less, lately) I am now having some really electrifying and awesome relationships with the kind of women I have always been so ennamoured of. Meeting new people, making new friends, dating, exploring, investigating.
I’m really good at
Teaching people how to beat me at my favorite games. Emotional intelligence is a strong point, though I'm just as vulnerable and sensitive as the next guy. And I'm not a bad cook, when the mood strikes. I have a mischievous side and I am happiest when my sense of humor is appreciated.
The first things people usually notice about me
I am tall. I tend to command attention, but I am really more of kitten…a large liger-like kitten, but a kitten nonetheless.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Mirah is a favorite musical artist. Also, Dr. Octagon. Jeffrey Lewis has often saved my day. Zombie movies and zombie books are almost always enjoyed. I love food, almost all kinds. Was a vegan for a number of years. Now I eat everything, but I am very flexible about dietary preferences.
Six things I could never do without
Sex Positivity
I spend a lot of time thinking about
whether or not I want to be able to look back upon my life and joyfully consider myself a loner with a string of great loves - past and present - or to seriously domesticate myself with one or two or three or four people. The arrangements of those multiples might be kids, a queer family, or an avuncular relationship with some others' nuclear families.... Not sure. I do know that Uncle Boak_Tree is as awesome as Boyf Boak_Tree is as awesome as Mysterious & Vulnerable Lover Boak_Tree. At least, I know that I am (un)comfortable thinking about myself in any of those roles; and that what makes me (un)comfortable is what I spend a lot of time thinking about....
On a typical Friday night I am
not filling out essays about myself on online dating sites.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am not (really) very interested in being the dark handsome guy who seduces you. I am very interested in being seduced. C'mon, ladies: run some game. I am available. Try the dominant role on for size; I will communicate where and when my interest/invitation stops, no worries.
You should message me if
You’re a reclusive genius, a passionate eccentric, a die-hard non-conformist, a casual seeker, a complicated sweetheart. Someone who wants a relationship with someone who is willing to explore with you, or relax and enjoy an uncomplicated evening, or period, or season -- or even a lengthy duration -- of joy, compassion and the pursuit of knowledge and wellness.
The two of us