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My self-summary
Life just keeps getting interestinger and interestinger.

Smiling is probably the best form of meditation I've found.
Three step program for life:

1. Believe in something, anything: God/love/truth/music/art/social justice/democracy/la revolucion/whatever.

2. Quit complaining and appreciate what you have with every action, word and thought.

3. Be of service to others.

Best Test for a Relationship Ever:
How well do you do nothing, absolutely nothing, together?

If you like just being together, doing nothing, absolutely nothing, your relationship is likely a good one.

Esther Perel on "desire".

Watch this and let me know what you think.
(I love to know what you think because you're beautiful AND smart. )

Do you agree or disagree with the following:

If we're honest, we can always follow our heart because whatever difficult place our hearts may lead us to, honesty can always lead us back out.

"Love with your heart. Use your head for everything else."

The truth is that, great as sex and romantic love are, neither is a cure for loneliness.

Getting wrapped up in looking for "the one" or looking for "the one night stand" can both be selfish and destructive.

Believing that either sex or romantic love (or both) is a cure for loneliness and the demand to make this current sexual encounter, this current romantic relationship the cure for loneliness is likely the cause of all the strife in our relationships.

There is no such thing as holding onto a relationship. It is like trying to grab a fist full of stars...a fantasy forever out of reach no matter how much we demand it, want it, reach for it.

The only thing we can actually do is to fully experience the relationship as it is, right now.

Bringing the demand that this new sexual encounter, this new romantic relationship cure our loneliness only dooms the sex, dooms the romance because we can never be present for the experience of what that relationship truly is if we are looking for something in it which does not exist.

I hope you are fully present today for whatever you are doing.
What I’m doing with my life
Hacking my brain.

I've been trained in verbal discourse; I'm trying to re-train my brain to think visually.

Not sure where it's all leading, but it sure is interesting.
I’m really good at
Public speaking
Never being bored
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
For music, go to and have a listen. I listen to that station all day. (Listening to Oasis's "Champagne Supernova" on The Current as I write this.)

Other than that, if we...

...have a strong, mutual physical attraction
...enjoy being together, alone, doing nothing
...respect each other...

...I'm sure we'll figure out something to read, something to watch, something to listen to, something to eat that we both like.
Six things I could never do without

If I have those, I don't need any more.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why, even though I'm a low-maintenance guy, people insist on spoiling me.

However, if people are really going to insist, who am I to stop them from spoiling so splendidly if they love doing it so much?
On a typical Friday night I am
Looking forward to whatever great thing my friends are going to ask me come do.
You should message me if
You have a sense of humor and you get what I'm saying.
The two of us