John__Bender
45 Malden, United States
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My self-summary
The woman in the photo is Molly Ringwald, lest anyone think I'm posting photos of me with an ex or anything.
I just moved back home to Massachusetts from Seattle, love my second home and always will: (RIP Capitol Hill! Big love to Greenwood & Ballard!).

I'm a guy of contrasts, I'm a sports fan, love classical music and intellectual pursuits as well as going to see local bands play out at bars.
I enjoy the arts & literature but am far from a "kill your television" person.
I'm an animal person, especially dogs and doubly Pugs! - LOVE pugs!
Patriots, Sox, B's & C's fan as well as Paris St. Germain & Aston Villa.
I'm fun,outgoing, & have a huge personality.
If your "ideal" person that you seek is "normal" then i'm not the droid you're looking for.
I am proudly different, unique, offbeat and quite frankly "Normal" = boring to me.
Also, if you don't have a face photo up then i'm not intetested.
I have put my face here, you can as well !
Not trying to sound negative at all, want to be up front before anyone invests their time reading forward.
I thrive on being creative - 23 years in radio and i'm a writer currently working on my first novel with several others in the concept stage ready to be written once I finish this initial one.
Please also note that if I visit your profile and you are not in the Boston area know that it's NOT because I am "Travelling through and looking for a hook up".
What I’m doing with my life
Working, writing my detective novel, and barring that I'm following the words of David Wooderson:
L-I-V-I-N...LIVIN!
Hear the man speak the words here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WtiH4RCdYTk
I’m really good at
Trivia - sports, pop culture,history, TV & movies, I'm THE ringer you want on your team.
I'm a heck of a home chef and love being in the kitchen.
I'm the KING of parallel parking, there's no spot I can't get a car into!
I'm a great listener and forever ready to be an ear to a friend.
Always know the name of the movie or tv show that "had that guy or girl who was in that thing".
give great hugs, and can pack a box for shipping or moving like a pro!
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes- they are VERY blue, big smile or tattoos, as well as my big voice and laugh.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
How about some of my favorite movies:
Fletch
Summer School
LA Confidential -
BTW How cool was Kevin Spacey in that film? Sgt. Jack Vincennes, that cat was a dapper dresser!
Used Cars
Swingers - "You're so money & you don't even know it!
The Warriors
Making the grade
Real Genius
Hiding Out
LOTR & Hobbit series series
Any James Bond movie, well except for the ones with Timothy Dalton & Pierce Brosnan.

Ok, now some authors and books:
A people's history of the United States" - Dr. Howard Zinn
Any Oscar Wilde
Ursula K. Leguin
My Uncle Oswald - Roald Dahl
Anything by Jimmy Breslin - architect of "New Journalism"
Judy Blume - One of my YA influences and who didn't love the "Fudge" books?
A Stranger in this world - Kevin Canty
Mickey Spillane
Frankenstein - Mary Shelley
Donald E. Westlake
Dick Schaap
Charles Bukowski
Henry Rollins
Bright lights, Big city - Jay McInerney
"The Pigman" and other books written by Paul Zindel - Another influence of mine as far as my Young Adult novel projects I'm working on writing.

Music wise I LOVE 80's New Wave & punk
Adam Ant, Haircut 100, Cocteau Twins, Cure, Morrissey, Echo, Reflex, Duran Duran, Bauhaus and many more!
classic hip hop & R&B Eric B & Rakim, Whodini, , Dazz Band, old LL, Beasties, Gap Bandl, Teena Marie, Troop.
classical - JS Bach in particular
Jazz & big band - Stan Kemton, Art Blakey, Terry Gibbs, Wayne Shorter, Stan Getz Tito Puente, Maynard Ferguson, & of course Chet Baker amongst many others including Sinatra, Ella, Satchmo,Edith Piaf, Billie & Sassy.
I'm a regular listener of "The Swing years & Beyond" on KUOW, still do even though I no longer live in Seattle.
Metal - especially "hair metal" but I go deep on the bands I dig not just your usual Poison, Cinderella & Warrant, I'm talking bands like Tuff, kix, Enuff Znuff, Danger Danger, Loudness and many more!

I'm a big NPR listener, BBC news, "The Diane Rehm show", "The World" are some of my favorite programs as I'm a news junkie but also enjoy their entertainment programs - "The Moth Radio Hour", "Wait, Wait don't tell me", "Car Talk ".

TV:
"The Young Ones"
Lots of old TV shows on the retro TV channels from when I was growing up in the 70's-80's
Seinfeld
The Rachel Maddow Show
Wish MSNBC would bring Keith Olbermann back.
I like Car shows like Counting Cars, "Fast & Loud" - GYSOT!!! along with how to car shows, and wood working how to shows.
Bob's Burgers, Robot Chicken, Family Guy.
Love cooking shows - I'm an enthusiastic practitioner of the gastronomical arts.
I also like "Sherlock", "Seinfeld","The League", "CSI".
I will always stop and watch a marathon of "How it's made" when I stumble upon it too.
The six things I could never do without
1. - My family!
2. - Pots & Pans
3. - My Journal
4. - Water
5. - My imagination
6. - Being able to go to a beach
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The state of our country - i'm politically active, proud lefty.
What I want to do with my life, What my next steps are, What TRULY makes me happy?
Getting my motorcycle permit & license.
learning to swing dance - care to be my partner?
On a typical Friday night I am
Unwinding from a long, busy week, sometimes hitting a local spot for a cocktail.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I know the fly spot where they got the champagne !
I am pedantic and at times a touch verbose but I can assure you that you'll be entertained when I am !
I once flew all the way to Paris to get broken up with, deep down I had a feeling it might happen but still went - does that make me a masochist?
I also some VERY interesting and amusing dating stories that nobody else can claim and my friends will tell you could ONLY happen to me - I sometimes feel like I'm having "Larry David moments" the kind that can ONLY happen to Larry on "Curb"
Ask and I'll share some
You should message me if
You're fun,intelligent, funny,enjoy great conversation, and want to meet someone new who's up for just about anything especially if it will produce a great story !
Ask me about the time I met Sherman Helmsley - aka "George Jefferson" at a record store in Boston as proof.
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