BoyGrownUp
39 Chicago, United States
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My self-summary
Just moved to Chicago (Oct. 2016). Got a bunch of friends in the area, but interested in meeting more, especially the "right" girl.

WARNING: I tend to write messages in a very precise, organized, and thought-out manner. This might give you the impression that I have a stick firmly lodged up my ass, but I'm pretty sure I don't (most of the time)! I mean, I think I don't.

Damn... I really hope I don't.

Look, it's just the way I was trained to write in school! ;D

My 88-year-old grandma just told me that I keep getting more handsome the older I get. My grandma is extremely blunt and honest and did -not- say this to my brother. So that was nice.

I like good food, travel, my family, going out some nights and staying in others, fine Scotch, and a good book, movie, TV show marathon or video game for those nights I stay in. I really like stories, characters, things that make for a compelling or thought-provoking "narrative".

I'm right on the border between introvert and extrovert. It takes a lot of energy to get to the party/gathering/social event, but once I'm there, I almost always enjoy myself.

I have a wild imagination, which is usually a good thing, but not always. I can be too serious and self-critical, but otherwise I'm pretty laid back. I don't appreciate people who think everything in the world is a joke. Most things should be joked about to keep them in perspective, but there are things that ought to be addressed with a serious and concerned attitude as well. Sarcasm has its place, and it's not everywhere.

I'm not a very jealous person, and believe that trust, respect, and loyalty are crucial to a relationship. I guess I don't get jealous because either someone is going to be faithful or they aren't. Jealousy is synonymous with mind games to me, and I don't stick with people who manipulate my emotions for selfish purposes.

I'm pretty geeky with a sense of humor that ranges from sardonic to goofy and/or esoteric to dirty. Apparently my delivery is pretty deadpan to the point that people often don't realize I'm joking.

I'm not very outdoorsy by inclination, but I enjoy "the great outdoors" when I remember to go enjoy them! Day hiking trips are good. Also, I don't really follow sports, but I do enjoy going to sports games, especially ice hockey (I'm a lifelong L.A. Kings fan, but I need to learn to love the 'hawks.)
What I’m doing with my life
I work in I.T. and spend about 10% of my time wondering if I'd have been better off in a different career. That's a rough estimate.

In my downtime, I like to sleep, eat, watch movies, watch anime, occasionally go out for drinks and other fun things with friends, go to art museums, read (mostly fiction), and play video games. Probably too many video games. I guess you could call me a gamer. Honestly, though, I mostly do that in place of watching TV. I just think it's more fun...

I'm studying Japanese (super sporadically) as I hope to eventually take an extended trip there or multiple shorter trips (or both!). I've been to Greece and would love to go back. I also need to see most of the rest of Europe.

I majored in Art History with an emphasis in Japanese art and architecture. I finally made it to Japan for a couple of weeks and now I'm desperate to go back. Kyoto may be my favorite city.

I try to work out at least three times a week with the main goal of being healthy. I'm no gym rat.
I’m really good at
swimming, writing (especially analytical and descriptive papers), being a big dork and a bigger geek, drinking like a fish when I go out and holding my liquor, dancing like I don't care if anyone's watching (see: holding my liquor), being too serious sometimes, and being silly and goofy other times.

I'm also really good at listening when someone close to me has a problem, but I am a guy, and I sometimes get impatient if I can't "fix" the problem. Only sometimes, though.
The first things people usually notice about me
What do you get when you cross an elephant and a rhino? HellifIknow. (say it out loud if you don't get it) Same answer.

Okay, I have been told a lot, lately, that I have a pretty "hot" voice. So maybe that.

Also, I guess: It's often been said of me that I'm a atypical combination of things. I'm kind of "preppy" and conservative, and I can hold my own in most conversational circles okay, but I'm definitely a pretty big geek. I'm somewhat conservative and highly opinionated about it, and a practicing Roman Catholic, but most of my friends are none of these things, which suggests that, however opinionated I am, I don't make people feel judged and I'm pretty open-minded. At least I hope that's what it means.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm a proper geek: Lord of the Rings, both the books and the movies

Books: Lord of the Rings, Wheel of Time, Dune, The Sun Also Rises, I have yet to read a Shakespearean play I didn't love, and the Dresden Files

Movies: original Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, Avengers, Matrix, Bourne Trilogy, (500) days of Summer, anything by Pixar, 40 Year Old Virgin, TRON and TRON: Legacy (more of that geek stuff), Saving Mr. Banks, American Sniper, almost every Bond film ever made

Food: a great steak, Japanese (not just sushi, though I do love good sushi), Greek, American, a great steak, Thai, Vietnamese, Persian, a great steak, and this whole "new American" thing. Also a great steak.

Music: lately, I mostly listen to EDM (melodic dubstep and chillstep are my work and workout jams) some Royksopp and Telepopmusik. I also love U2, The Dave Matthews Band, Snow Patrol, Mumford and Sons, Of Monsters and Men, Silverstein, Strung Out, and very occasionally one of the those radio classical music stations; I have no idea what I'm listening to, most of the time, but I like it (I'm not making this up!). I don't listen to it much, but I'm pretty okay with country!

TV: I always watch shows via Netflix or other streaming services. Netflix's Daredevil and Luke Cage are amazing!

I am a HUGE fan of Chuck, forever and ever. It's my all-time favorite TV show. It's got its flaws, but I love the goofy humor, romantic comedy and drama, and I just think it's a ton of fun that totally panders to my geeky side. I also am a big fan of: Scrubs, Grimm, Arrow, The Flash, Psych, Burn Notice, Firefly, Supernatural and Castle before it got lame. Oh, and I recently discovered that I enjoy the oddness and surreality of Twin Peaks, coupled with Kyle MacLachlan's superlative performance as quirky, idiosyncratic FBI agent Dale Cooper. Such wonderful strangeness in Twin Peaks, though the second season was a bit of a disappointment.
The six things I could never do without
my family
a good job
my imagination
my faith
good food
good stories
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Nerd stuff, mostly. I'm a very imaginative person, and like to ponder "what ifs" as well as "never could be's". I'm also a huge fan of good stories and characters, whether I encounter them through books, movies, TV, or video games.

Also: ethics and theology.

And how to advance my career.

And politics.

And how to make myself a better person.

And what build and back story to choose for my next incarnation of Shepard.

And the ramifications of type II, Ib, and Ic supernovas occasionally collapsing back into neutron stars, and how neutrons stars are basically "failed" black holes.
On a typical Friday night I am
I'm either having a few friends over, going out to movies, going out to explore Chicago, museums, aquariums (I love aquariums), or, most often, I may just be locking myself in my apartment and vegging out in front of a video game, a movie, marathoning a TV series or reading a book. I also occasionally go to game parties (mostly board games) hosted by friends. Always a good time.

Whenever I can, I head home to Southern California to visit my folks and my brother's family. I'm a proud uncle!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
That I'm a pretty clean person (except for dirty dishes), but I'm horrible about clutter. My clothes all eventually end up on my floor at some point. There's usually a pile.
You should message me if
You should know that I don't respond to most messages, for a variety of reasons, but if I do, I first took the time to look at your profile in addition to your photos page and actually thought about how to reply to you. I never send canned anything.

If you actually took the time to read it and like what you see in my profile.

If you like (moderately) intelligent, geeky guys. I you like being with someone who is a little on the introverted/stay at home side. You should be warned that I've been accused, recently, of being too rational. It never even occurred to me that that could be a bad thing!

If you like board games, card games and/or video games.

If you like hitting up bars on Saturday nights.

If you like travel, especially if you want to see Western Europe or Japan.

If you're interested in a potential relationship, then you should either be Catholic or be happy with the idea of dating a Catholic.

You're willing to drag me outside every now and then to help remind me of the beauty of the natural world we live in. I spend a little too much time in my head and in our shared digital universe. I love the beauty of nature, but I seem to forget to appreciate it.

However, since I think of online dating as a way to navigate past all the getting-to-know you dates that won't go anywhere in the long run, I think I ought to mention here: I have chronic health problems. For the most part, I manage them well and work hard to minimize their impact on my life, but one of the unavoidable side effects is that I'm somewhat of a low energy person. It's frustrating because I used to be an intensely high-energy person (I mean, I was a 4-year Varsity swimmer in high school and swam in the State Championships my senior year), but it is what it is, and medicine isn't quite there to fix it just yet. You probably either ought to be low-key like me or ought to be okay with being the energetic one and doing all the "pulling" and be okay with me sometimes skipping out on certain things. I'm okay with not having to do absolutely everything together, if you're more social or energetic than I am.

Also, as long as I'm covering all the bases, I might as well cover all the bases: If my profile gave you the impression that I'm sexually prudish, repressed, or conservative... You would be wrong. If you aren't comfortable with that, then please move along.
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