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My self-summary
Ah, yes, what's my story... My marriage has been over for about a year and a half now. I have been in two serious relationships since then, both ending in heartache for me. Whatya do? Well I decided to go right on with trying to met other people. I'm wanting to take my time and really get to know someone first. I certainly don't want to jump right into another relationship. My heart needs its mending time. But, if I met someone who is amazing, chances are I will move on and, no doubt, fall in love again.

I feel I have a good deal to offer someone. I'm a very compassionate and sensitive man who is a loving father and a loyal friend and mate. I'm also really goofy and van be quite the jackass. I'm socially and politically very liberal and extremely open-minded. I like to think that I'm fairly intelligent as ignorance is a huge turn-off. I adore art and music, children and animals, history and science, and anything funny.

I drive a full-size truck, wear Carhartt and steel toed boots, but I'm certainly not what you expect there. I won't keep a firearm in my house and I do not get into sports what-so-ever. (Sorry. They just don't do anything for me.) The CD player in my truck may be playing anything as lovely as Nick Drake, or maybe something plucky like early Talking Heads. Most of the men in my neck of the woods seem to only talk about football and hunting. I'd much rather talk about philosophy, history, and current events.

Not to say there are no "manly" things I enjoy. I love working with my hands and power tools, drinking a good, ice cold beer, (not that watery American kind, however,) and building things out of wood. But, I also like interior decorating, hanging bird feeders around my house, and keeping a koi pond in my yard. I can lose my temper working on something and swear loudly like my dear ol' Dad, but may also be seen crying over a movie, play, or even just a song. I can be seen painting something on my house, or just painting a picture or portrait.

I'm a huge railroad nut, and I'm in fact trying to make that my new career right now. Most guys like motorcycles, some like cars, and some even like airplanes. I like trains. They are just my thing. To me, a 120 ton 3000 horsepower locomotive is a much more impressive machine than some lame two-wheeled Harley. Some men use trucks, muscle cars, and bikes to help improve their own masculinity. Not me. I'm my own man and I have nothing to prove to nobody. I think a sensitive man is a good man, as is one not afraid to be his own person. I also do not, will not, live through my son. I encourage him to be his own person too.

Okay, I'd admit that I haven't been doing much of anything since I was laid off from my job of nine and a half years when my plant closed. (Man, we came THIS close to making through the lousy Bush years.) I'm able to bide my time a bit and see what kind of work is out there. I got hired elsewhere to my life long dream job, but I'm still waiting for them to put me into action. But, I still have my own place and still consider myself a damn good worker. (Ya know, when I'm like, working.)

I love expressing myself through artwork or just plain talking. I also like cooking a woman a good meal, baby-talking a dog, staring at a painting in a museum, bashing mean and ignorant people, walking through the woods, dancing and singing to music playing in public places, model and craft making, reading passages out of books to someone, quoting funny movies, building Legos with my boy, (well, doing ANYTHING with my boy really,) taking pictures, bitching about the gov't, cuddling, and holding hands.

I am Compassionate, Interesting, and Carbon-based
What I’m doing with my life
Living off severance from my last job. I have a job as a Brakeman on the Indiana Eastern Railroad, but, as of now, I'm waiting to be called to service there as they, too, have had a downturn in business. I also occasionally work as a brakeman on the Whitewater Valley Railroad moving tourists in and out of Connersville, IN, but thats a volunteer job.

Other than that, anything involving art and photography. Bumming around my little house and jamming on Beck tunes. And spending time with my best friend in the world: my beautiful six year old son.
I’m really good at
Making fun at a bad movie. Singing along to CDs in my truck. Making something out of nothing. Animals... they just seem to like me.
The first things people usually notice about me
My grey hair. (duh. I started going grey in high school.) Or how I'm not very tall. (Again, duh.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

"Timequake" by Kurt Vonnegut. It changed my life. He is my favorite author. Also like Cormac McCarthy, Aimee Bender, Hunter S. Thompson, Orwell, and Steinbeck.


"The Big Lebowski." The Dude abides. Also like, "The Shawshank Redemption," "About Schmidt," "Amelie of Montmartre," "Adaptation," "One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest," "Memento," "High Fidelity," "Office Space," "Being John Malcovich," "The Blues Brothers," "Midnight Cowboy," "Sling Blade," "This is Spinal Tap," "Rushmore," "Indiana Jones & the Last Crusade," "The Princess Bride," "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind," "Bringing Out the Dead," "Last of the Mohicans," "Whale Rider," "American Movie," "Pee-Wee's Big Adventure," all the Coen Brother films, ("The Man who wasn't there," "Raising Arizona," et al,)and Mystery Science Theater 3000, (my all-time favorite show,) The Simpsons, Monty Python, and Aqua Teen Hunger Force.


Beck, Led Zeppelin, David Byrne, Muddy Waters, Johnny Cash, Janis Joplin, James Brown, bluegrass, Pink Floyd, Bob Marley, Howlin' Wolf, Jurassic 5, the Beta Band, the Beatles, Buddy Guy, Jim White, Paul Simon, Bob Dylan, the Who, The Stones, etc, etc. etc...

Just no fake pop-country and that "Emo" crap.

My heroes are Thomas Jefferson, Gandhi, Kurt Vonnegut, Albert Einstein, Eleanor Roosevelt, Jesus, Buddha, George Carlin, Kurt Vonnegut, Winston Churchill, Martin Luther King Jr, Woody Guthrie, Malcolm X, Lewis Black, Jon Stewart, Abraham Lincoln, O. Winston Link, Sacajawea, and, recently, Barack Obama.

A few dislikes:

Talk Radio, willful ignorance, loud flashy things, animal cruelty, anyone who is uncomfortable with children, anyone who obsesses with children, bad humor, guns, most TV shows, radio DJ's, NASCAR, playing video games all dman day, and I have a particular thing being a male who, for some reason, doesn't get into any sports.
Six things I could never do without
Music, (Lame, yes.), affection & love-making, my toys, coffee, my dog, and my son. (And, NO, I do not think I'm special just because I produced offspring, nor do I use him to pick up chicks.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Smashing the racist, homophobic, patriarchal, bullshit paradigm! (Ok, I kinda stole that one.) I dun'no, love and political situations? (There's a combo!) Mostly, lately, when I'm going to get stable work again. Just being honest...
On a typical Friday night I am
Anything goes right now. (I keep my boy every other Friday night, so there is that.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I sing in the shower really, REALLY loudly. Also, I could stand to lose a few pounds. Like love handles, ladies? Well, I gots me some! But, seriously, your shape won't bother me so mine shouldn't bother you, right? I think all women are beautiful. Doesn't matter if they are short, tall, fat, skinny, blond, or blue.
You should message me if
You too ponder our role in this insane and endless roller coaster we call an existence. Or, you just wanna chat, like I said.

Also, if you don't mind meeting face to face. I understand meeting in person a somewhat-stranger is a little unnerving to some people. (Some people gave it up after finding themselves face down in a shallow ditch.) But, if I like you, then at some point I'm gonna want to met you in the flesh, as thats the only way to really get to know someone. Plus, I'm willing to travel to just about anywhere. (Within reason. If you live in an Antarctic weather station, I may have a few reservations.)

"I have put my heart and soul into my work, and I lost my mind in the process." -Vincent Van Gogh

"We are only healthy to the extent that our ideas are humane" -Kurt Vonnegut

"We are what we love, not what loves us." -from Charlie Kaufman's "Adaptation"

"When you are right you cannot be too radical; when you are wrong, you cannot be too conservative." -Martin Luther King Jr.

"I think that somehow, we learn who we really are and then live with that decision." -Eleanor Roosevelt

"You need chaos in your soul to give birth to a dancing star." -Friedrich Nietzsche
The two of us