When being myself, I'm fast-talking, enthusiastic about my interests, reasonably polite yet dirty-mouthed, with an off-kilter (or bad) sense of humor, and a goodly helping of arrogance.
I'm the nerdly type, and when I'm not playing in matters sexual you might not guess — why would I be obvious?
Working on my writing; having written a few somewhat successful short stories I'm working on two unrelated novels, one a present-day BDSM romance between two widows, and the other a non-traditional fantasy story.
Getting inside someone's mind and kinks.
Reading someone's responses and knowing when to push harder and when to ease up.
Random nerdish pursuits.
* C.J. Cherryh's science fiction and fantasy, for helping me understand humanity and write women in particular.
* P.C. Hodgell's fantasy, for the best wish-fulfilment fantasy-superheroine ever put to the page (at least, for my personal wishes). Also, for the imagination popping from every page, the imagining of worlds where nature is fundamentally magical, and carnivorous killer unicorns, because why not.
* Ian Banks, with or without the central initial M. That the Scots can be twisted, morbid bastards is amply proved by Banks. Both his mainstream fiction and his science fiction show the same macabre, bloody love of nasty and gore, but at the same time such amazing flights of imagination.
A variety of tasty food
Books to read
New things to understand
Problems to solve
A deserving ass to spank
Submissives who crave my wicked ideas
Lately, I've been doing wicked things to hot people on Friday nights, though, when I haven't had to work.
That parts of me are much nicer than the image I like to project isn't really a secret to anyone perceptive.
If you can write in complete sentences with proper grammar and punctuation. You do not get extra points for making me want to beat good English style into you.
If you have an active and curious mind.
If you need to be shown the error of your ways and put soundly in your place.
I'm open to the genderqueer, androgynous, sexually ambiguous, intersexed, crossdressing, transgendered and transsexual, in both directions. I try and educate myself on these topics so I minimize any possibility of clueless stumbling across ways to offend someone.
I appreciate feminists of all genders, so long as they do not think my liking of sexual dominance with consenting partners is sick and wrong and sexist. I consider my partners actually my equals; the game is that they are not, but this is not the underlying reality.