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My self-summary
Things I love: Reading; music (especially Britpop); art; good grammar; etiquette and manners; Violet-flavoured candy; London; Cute brunet men; iced chai; sushi; humor; the 60s; the Mod era; books; vinyl album hunting; writing; collecting Tarot cards; shiny stuff that lights up; chocolate or vanilla vodka from my freezer; the cool side of the pillow; nostalgia; pleasant spring and autumn days (mmm, jacket weather); watching the news; cats (just like the rest of the Internet); art supplies; travel; performance art; concerts.

What else? I read quickly, I type quickly, and I write quickly. Most everything else gets done at a more relaxed, mellow pace. Cults are uncool (no Scientologists, please). Atheist. Liberal. Feminist. Pro-equal rights for everyone. Carnivore. Lazy artist and writer. Tealdeer. Information junkie. Skeptic. Occasional clove cigarette smoker. Child-free. Doting aunt. Ferret wrangler. Grouch. Grammar cop. Good friend. An amateur photographer with realistic assessment of skills (I get lucky now and then).

I am turned off by: people with blatantly sexual login names, illiteracy, rudeness, and an apparent inability to hold a conversation with me about our common interests BEFORE hitting on me. IF I were on here for dating purposes, I would be ONLY interested in straight, single males 6 years younger to 6 years older than myself. BUT I am only on here for FRIENDS (and to take silly quizzes): Friends with similar interests. I'm not here to "hook up" with strangers for sex. I like sex as much as the next person, maybe more, but I'm choosy.

Helpful hints: I'm not going to be impressed with comments about my appearance. I'm not going to e-mail you at your personal e-mail address, because MY personal e-mail is none of your business unless I offer it to you. (Also, you could be a spammer.) I'm not going to stop what I'm doing to go fire up another chat program for your convenience. I'm NOT going to send you pictures of me, clothed or otherwise. Please don't ask me to go out of my way to make contacting me more convenient FOR YOU if we've never even met before, that's extremely presumptuous and rude.

Dudes...I hate to have to add this to my profile, but I'm weary of the number of requests of this type I get nearly every time I log on. The worst offenders have not even bothered to fill out a profile yet (or post a photo, for that matter). Not only do these guys want me to give out my personal information immediately, or to stop what I'm doing to IM them with their preferred chat program, they do not bother to let me--or anyone else--know anything about them.

Don't be that guy.

I am attracted to: wit, style, intelligence, good grammar and spelling, a quirky sense of humor, individualists, brunet men with great hair, literate people, musicians, artists, writers, kindness, devotion to friends and family and pets, cleverness, creativity, charm, Brits. But all of that is irrelevant, because I'm not here "shopping for a mate".

What else? Um. I like scones. And cheese. Cheese is yummy.

I am eclectic, music-obsessed, and kind-hearted.
What I’m doing with my life
Independent contractor (art, writing, research, proofreading, etc.)

Looking for something less "catch as catch can". I'm not money-obsessed but would like a career that provides me with enough to not worry about whether I can save for retirement, buy groceries, pay bills and have enough left over to indulge my interests and various desires (which don't tend to be expensive).

I stink at remembering to log on to OKCupid to check my mail. I apologize in advance.
I’m really good at
I paint, draw, do various craft-type things. I am very knowledgeable about music, especially my favourite eras and genres. I sing (even karaoke), read music, and am lazy about playing piano.

I am also good at research, fact-finding, information gathering and assimilating various obscure and not immediately intuitively congruent data points. If it's out there, there's a good chance I can find it. Hire me. :)
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm smart, well-read, tall, laid-back; quirky; and very, very fair-skinned. I have blonde hair down to my elbow (right now, anyway). I dress like an artist (lots of black, lots of interesting t-shirts / tops and shoes and coats) and am not interested in the latest trendy thing.

I am not sure where my mobile phone is.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
(a) I read an ungodly number of books: Caleb Carr, Nick Hornby, Kurt Vonnegut, Jr., Martin Amis, Neil Gaiman, Carl Hiassen, Chuck Palaniuk, Tom Robbins, Donna Tartt, Irvine Welsh, William Gibson, Christopher Moore, Connie Willis, Bruce Sterling, Jasper Fforde, Oliver Sacks, Paul Fussell, Margaret Atwood, Carl Sagan, Isabel Allende, Tom Wolfe, Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Hua-Ching Ni, Ann Rule(!), scads of rock biographies, interesting biographies in general, myths and legends and deconstructed fairy tales, historical stuff, art books.

I read classics and actually enjoy them (although--despite a degree in English literature--I have successfully avoided enduring the badness that is "Tristam Shandy" thus far).

(b) When pressed, I say "After Hours" (Scorcese) is my favorite film.

If it is a quirky film, I probably like it.
If it is a weird film, I probably like it.
If it is a depressing film with flawed and tragic characters struggling for redemption against bad odds, I probably like it.
If it is stylish, I probably like it.
If it is funny and has a minimum of gross-out scatalogical humour, I probably like it.
If it is a "rock and roll movie", I probably like it.
If Disney studios made it, and Randy Newman wrote the theme song, I probably do NOT like it much.
If it's a brainless chick movie (a.k.a. "romoporn"), I probably won't like it at all.
If it has Jackie Chan in it, I don't care how bad the plot is, I like it.
If it is a big budget summer blockbuster, I probably don't have much of an opinion about it or I hate it. Titanic. Yawn. Whatever.
If it has Tom Cruise in it, I probably hate it. Ugh, that guy.

(c) I am obsessed with music. It's the one thing in my life that I DO obsess about. I love: Britpop... Neil Hannon, Jarvis Cocker / Pulp, Brett Anderson / Suede, Mike Viola, Bernard Butler, Split Enz, XTC, Blur, Oasis, The Who, Squeeze, Blondie, The Kinks, Air, Dandy Warhols, Ash, Radiohead; Spiritualized; etc. I had a long list here at one point, but who wants to read 500 band names? Also, who doesn't like The Beatles? I mean, I can understand if you don't like everything David Bowie ever did. "The Laughing Gnome" is...well, um. But we can't be friends if you don't like The Beatles. Go away. Shoo.

(d) Frozen White Russians, Chocolate vodka, Chinese, Japanese, Italian, some Indian, pizza, tiramisu, flan, key lime pie (can you tell I am hungry right now?), chocolate candy with caramel inside, steak'n'potatoes,, also carbohydrates and sugar. Good grief...I eat like a guy. I do really like braised tofu appetizers. Also, lima beans and spinach. But I'd rather eat a bacon cheeseburger than a salad. I am so ashamed of that. SO. ASHAMED.
The six things I could never do without
* the basics like air, food, water and shelter. Duh, Barbie.

* some time alone now and then to decompress because I am introverted

* books / reading material.

* my music collection

* the Internet

* creativity
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My future, art, music, politics, grammar, web stuff, humour, England, my friends / pets / family, being a better person any way I can, the "Big Questions" in life, human quirks, what my niche or role in life is or will be, what I can do for others, all the things I have to get done on my "To Do" lists...that sort of thing.

I try to learn something new every day, and usually I do.
On a typical Friday night I am
Working or job-hunting for more work, alas. I used to go to dinner with friends, go see some live music or improv or a cool film or performance art, then go out dancing until early the next day.

Now I am working or trying to find more work, because being horribly poor and not being able to pay bills or buy groceries is a drag.


In truth, there is no typical Friday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have what I call a hair fetish. Hair on men's HEADS, I mean. Floppy fringes. Beatle cuts. Mod styles. Artsy, rockstar hair. If it is a little long and shaggy, I'm attracted to that. I don't know why, but it is a big factor in whether I find someone attractive or not at first glance. Buzzcuts, biker or hippie hair, short back'n'sides don't do it for me.

I am somewhat ashamed of this quirk, because it focuses on something superficial and has nothing to do with how nice a person is (or not), but I suppose everyone has something that turns them on (or off). I keep my own hair long and layered, actually.

I would never want to own a monkey.

I like dogs a lot and enjoy the company of my friend's dogs in moderation but I am not a dog person. I find them exhaustingly needy and have lived with too many dogs that destroyed almost everything in the house. Not cool. They are like kids: I enjoy spending a little time with them but am thrilled when they go home.
You should message me if
You think we have a lot in common, if you're looking for new friends, if you really like music (a lot), if you're creative (writers, artists, musicians, poets), or if I'm online and you just want to say "hello". Or if you know who Jarvis Cocker is. That would be a big plus.

Also, I don't log on very often. Last time I logged in (before today) was in 2006. Yeah, I suppose I am not a big "dating site" fan, I guess.

You should not message me if you're just a big horndog hoping to get lucky. Won't happen.