White race-traitor (fuck whiteness)
Sex-radical, NOT sex positive
Have trouble meeting people because I have really high standards and a relatively reclusive lifestyle, so I'd like to find some friends, I've seen some very cool people on OKC before, now I hope to get to know them.
(I had a profile for dating before, but I got really tired of trying to decide if I liked someone after a few dates. It felt like a lot of pressure. I also got tired of being matched with people who match me on being say, poly and kinky, but don't connect on anything I care about.
Essentially, I want to make friends who I have a strong connection with, if we get crushes on each other after several weeks or months that is great, but I'm not looking just to hook up with the first poly dude who has an opinion on Game of Thrones.
(I also want the chance to get to know people on OKC who I may adore but dates are off the table because they are a straight lady, gay dude, in a monogamous relationship, not looking to date, etc.))
I love smart people but I hate smart assholes. Being an intellectual doesn't give you an excuse to not be a decent person.
And look, fellas, here's the deal. If you don't meet the standards I use for my amazing and socially conscientiousness female friends, I will neither friend you nor date you. I hate double standards and so I refuse to have men in my life who are below my standards for decent-person material.
Emotionally significant music
Telling you you're rad
Looking at things that are fun to look at
Getting attached to your pets
Finding affordable food
Going with you on errands
Understanding anxieties and neurosis
Playing you lots of new music
(I've got big hair and a big head and big boobs and feet and a big curvy body and a loud voice and strong feelings on many subjects and I come on strong to the people I find interesting once we get talking.)
The National, Marina and the Diamonds, Metric, The Veils, Gregory & the Hawk, Interpol, Florence Welch, Tom Waits, Sea Wolf, Wolf Parade, Frightened Rabbit, Fever Ray, Chairlift, Nick Cave
I'll make you endless mix cds of covers and remixes.
Parks and Recreation, Elementary, Revenge(season 1 only), The Wire, Community, Adventure Time, Pretty Little Liars, Fringe, Orphan Black, Mahou Shoujo Madoka Magica
A Song of Ice and Fire, Tamora Pierce's entire catalog, Sharon K Penman's The Devil's Brood trilogy
Just read Whipping Girl and currently reading Girls to the Front.
I love film, but too many to cite even the most important here. If you're a feminist and you're into film and media crit message me and we'll talk.
The patriarchy/abuse culture/eurocentrism/racism
Food I want to eat
A cute kitty I know
Music- especially inspiring female artists
Media critique of everything I watch
The sexism and racism which make nerd culture so alienating
If I should start a band
Writing an essay/avoiding writing an essay.
I find myself looking at my own page a lot because I've got a super big crush on myself.
You're looking for a feminist friend who is pretty nerdy and can enjoy something without ignoring when it's problematic.
You went to a women's college and you wanna chat about it. (Mills College Oakland CA!)
You want to loaf around in warm dry places keeping our brains busy and our tummies full without spending much money.
You want your friendships to be supportive and honest, even with casual friends. You're not into hanging out with someone just to pass the time.
It's more important for you to connect with a friend than just have hobbies in common.
IF YOU DID NOT READ MY PROFILE, OR ARE IGNORING SIGNS THAT WE ARE CLEARLY INCOMPATIBLE, AND YOU MESSAGE ME SOMETHING STUPID, I WILL SHARE IT WITH MY FRIENDS AND PARTNER AND WE WILL LAUGH AT YOU.
ONLY MESSAGE ME IF YOU'VE READ THIS PROFILE, YOU THINK OUR MATCH QUESTIONS PAIR UP WELL, AND YOU'RE EXCITED ABOUT BEING FRIENDS.