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My self-summary
You ever think maybe there's no point to this whole online dating thing? I wonder why we all keep doing it.

I suppose I keep bothering at this because I don't feel that I have a lot of other options for meeting people. How do you meet people when you have at most four hours a week to leave the house alone, let alone to 'date'? Experience tells me that online dating leads, at best, to long exchanges of emails with occasional first dates. Second dates are few and far between (I always have to set them up, which is disheartening), and I honestly can't remember the last time there was a third. I could profess an interest in casual sex, but who really wants that in the long term? I could let go of my ideals, my preferences, and settle, but I already know that leads to dark places. I could fill this profile with erudite, eloquent, enigmatic phrases, but I suppose I would have to have some hope of things changing. Should I give up here and now? But then we come back to the beginning: Where else do you meet people, if not the internet? Perhaps I should shell out for a profile on a pay site, but one must wonder if that is really worthwhile: Do people actually encounter long-term lovers and develop meaningful relationships on such websites? Oh me of little faith!

My life is not all fear and longing; I read good books, I make amazing conversation, and I'll never admit to it but I'm not a half-bad cook. I can fall madly in love in a matter of minutes, and can summon that feeling at will long after the object of my ardor has vacated the premises. I see art everywhere, beauty in things most others barely notice, and the holiest of divinity in the most profane of spaces. I can take a beautiful photograph of anyone I find beautiful, and I can show you how much I love you with almost no effort at all. Empathy requires so little effort for me that I am occasionally baffled as to how many people manage to fail to grok the emotional states of others to the extent they do. I love to sing, and my voice doesn't send people fleeing from the room with their fingers in their ears and wishing they'd never met me.

I don't dress up for first dates. Sometimes I think that is a mistake, but most of the time I think it is important. If you wonder about it, ask: it makes perfect sense to me, but I could be persuaded to change my ways by a decent case.
What I’m doing with my life
Learning Mandarin, German, and French; Raising my son; Surreptitiously drinking on the job; Fantasizing about a perfect life which I have no idea how to achieve.
I’m really good at
Many, many things, and really awful at many, many others. I mean let's be honest, who isn't? Most recently I've been complimented on my singing, conversational skills and tenacity; I've also sucked ass at video games, navigating, and being patient with stupid people. I love video games, and given enough opportunities to play a game I will improve. Most of the time I'm very patient with stupid people, but lately I just haven't had the energy or inclination to deal with them. I'm *always* going to suck at navigation, and most days I'm okay with that.
The first things people usually notice about me
You know, I'm really not sure? I'm told that I come across as taller online, people are surprised to find that I'm short in real life (about 153 cm), but aside from that I have no idea. I suppose I should ask friends what they notice about me.

**Most common answers: 1) "You're short!" (see above); 2) "You're much prettier in real life than in your pictures." (I hear this a lot, actually. I think it means I need to get someone to take better pictures of me. :p)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Anathem, Neal Stephenson; American Gods, Neil Gaiman; Cryptonomicon, Neal Stephenson; Guns, Germs & Steel, Jared Diamond; The Genius in All of Us, David Shenk. I don't watch much television these days, but as long as it's not LCD TV I'm willing to give most of it a shot. This week I watched Leaves of Grass and Growing Op because Netflix suggested them to me, and I loved them both. In fact, Leaves of Grass may well have made my top ten, that movie is hilarious and beautiful to me. <3 I'm not particularly fond of horror and have to be in just the right mood to deal with romantic comedies or tearjerkers, but I'm willing to watch most movies once. My musical tastes are very eclectic, and unlike most people who say that they include rap & country. My favorite foods are generally the sort I don't have to cook, but I do have particular weaknesses for Indian & Ethiopian. Oh, and sushi-- you don't need to like it, but I love the stuff. :) I'm very open-minded when it comes to trying new foods as long as they're not cantaloupe-based. Blech.
Six things I could never do without
Truth, beauty, freedom, love, hope, music. I have done without all of these things, and find it's not really worth the trouble. I won't be settling for less than all of them in the future.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
A Unified Theory of Physics, my next research project, finishing my book, making love, healing myself and others (indeed, the world), the tendency of many people (myself included) to fear change despite the potential for improvement, topographagnosia, atypical neurology and the inadequacies of human language.
On a typical Friday night I am
Home alone with two babies. Woohoo, I'm a wild one, right?

This is such a strange question. I wonder what it actually means? Is it asking about what I do when I anticipate "time off"? I'm a single mother: I never have time off. The closest I get to "time off" usually involves me hiding in a bathtub for a few hours surfing the internet. Is it asking if I'd like to go hang out in a bar, or cuddle up with good friends, or go to a wild party? I suppose I could do any of those things, but it doesn't come up terribly often. Is it asking what I would do on a "typical" Friday night if I had a significant other of my very own? Well, to be honest I'd like to be smoking a lot of weed and having amazing sex, at least in the short term. In the long term, I'd like to have a family dinner, put the baby to bed, and then smoke a lot of weed and have amazing sex.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I tend to discriminate against men based on their age, especially when they're interested in casual sex (and let's be honest, most of you are). Here's the deal: I find casual sex to be depressing, and kind of lackluster on average. If I'm going to deliberately engage in such an activity, I want to have a good reason to believe that it will be at least decent, if not *good*, and I have had remarkably little *good* sex with men over 45. I guess what I'm saying is, if you expect to have that kind of party with me you'd best bring your viagra and whatever you need to keep yourself awake; If you're not in shape for a marathon, you're probably going to have a hard time keeping up, and then we'll both be disappointed.
You should message me if
If you feel like it, I suppose, and if you have something interesting to say. Please use proper grammar; I will delete your message promptly if you don't.
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