61Oakland, United States
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My self-summary
For work I play... the piano. Local concerts, jazz gigs, teaching a jazz workshop for kids, and a number of private students. A few years ago, I created what remains a popular book/CD series on learning to improvise.

I like this work, and like that it's not all-consuming. That is to say, I have time for the people in my life and for self-reflection.

Speak-from-the-heart conversation sustains me. So does bringing humor to everyday interactions. Share a laugh? Sign me up.

Sign me up again for a walk in the woods or an event in the city: concert, exhibit, movie, cafe, the park, the urban clamor in moderate doses.

I live debt and mortgage free with enough left in my pockets to travel and save for the future. I lean to the left on political, social, and environmental issues. My house makes its own electricity and heats its own water. The Sierras feel like a second home.

I find time to exercise most days. Swimming, and biking in the East Bay hills are the usuals.

I grew up in the East Bay and have also lived in Tokyo, Santa Cruz, Yosemite, and just outside of Manhattan. I look forward to seeing more of the world. You too?
What I’m doing with my life
See above. See below.
I’m really good at
... offering people my full attention. Wordplay.
The first things people usually notice about me
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movies include: Interstellar, The Age of Adaline, My Life as a Dog, CitizenFour, Midnight in Paris, A Single Man, Breakfast at Tiffany's, The Girl in the Cafe, Lost in Translation, Lives of Others, Tsotsi, Swept Away (the original Lina Wertmüller version).

Books by Dave Eggers, Ann Patchett, Wallace Stegner, David Sedaris, Nick Hornby, Tom Robbins, Pema Chodron, and poet Billy Collins.

Radio shows like, This American Life, Forum, Snap Judgement, Fresh Air, and NPR.

The music of Miles, Coltrane, Bach, Joni Mitchell, Monk…

Food? Italian, south-east Asian, Japanese, American, Mexican, Indian. Home cookin'.
Six things I could never do without
Things? A great piano. A decent camera. The local pool. The trails and streams of the East Bay hills. Wilderness at large. Peaches come to mind.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How the touch of a loved one can stop time.
On a typical Friday night I am
Going out, staying in, playing a gig.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I did time at San Quentin. (But only a couple of hours playing music for and with some of the inmates.)
You should message me if
... you're done with bad boys and silent types. You bear a striking resemblance to your photos. You'd love to be in a relationship rooted in shared admiration, spark, affection, humor, straight talk, walking the walk, respect for individual needs, [breathe] providing a safe place to land, and deepening trust along the way.
The two of us