I'm constantly amazed by the awesomeness of my life. It's full of amazing friends and lovers, fulfilling work, fun hobbies, music, and dancing. I hope for a world where we all take good care of each other so everyone feels welcome at the awesome party we build together.
I wear a lot of hats that I really like: I'm an academic, I'm an opera singer, I'm a dancer, I'm a stand-up comic, I'm a writing coach, I'm an arts fundraiser/organizer. It feels like my plate should be full, but I'm still hungry to explore the world and all the wacky, creative people in it.
[also, I wrote this when I first joined in January and I was just thinking I'd revisit it and do some editing, perhaps to tone down the ebullient positivity and capture that perfect tone of OKCupid snark, but you know what, fuck it, this is totally who I am, and yeah, I am this happy, so come play in my world, it's a super fun place]
Also, the awesomeness of my life is partially because of me being awesome and putting a lot of work into it, other parts of it are because of awesome people who surround me, but the opportunities and circumstances I have are also informed by HUGE amounts of white, cis-male, hetero-presenting, credentialed/institutional, class, and able-bodied privilege that I have. I do my best to be a strong ally who uses this position in a way that's helpful to others, and I'm still working hard on speaking less and listening more. Also fuck white supremacy and fuck the patriarchy.
I'm helping. I'm helping people write better. I'm helping people experience music more meaningfully and critically. I'm helping folks raise money to make awesome music. I'm helping people move their bodies with joy and confidence. I'm helping people laugh and smile.
Teaching. Pretty much any job I've had that I've liked involved teaching. I have a knack for it and it makes me feel like I'm living a life of service, which is super important to me.
Top 5 Composers: (All Genres)
1. Charles Ives 2. Beethoven 3. Duke Ellington 4. Mary Lou Williams 5. Allen Toussaint
Top 5 Singers: (All Genres)
1. Marvin Gaye 2. Fritz Wunderlich 3. Aaron Neville 4. Jan DeGaetani 5. Bessie Smith
Top 5 1930s Swing Bands:
1. Chick Webb 2. Count Basie 3. Fletcher Henderson 4. Charlie Barnet 5. Jimmie Lunceford
Top 5 Big Band Arrangers:
1. Fletcher Henderson 2. Van Alexander 3. Edgar Sampson 4. Sy Oliver 5. Benny Carter [edit: how did I not put Don Redman front and center on this list?! I totally fucked that up.]
Top 5 New Orleans Musicians: (All Time)
1. Louis Armstrong 2. Art Neville 3. Professor Longhair 4. Mahalia Jackson 5. Jelly Roll Morton
Top 5 New Orleans Musicians: (Contemporary)
1. Big Freedia 2. Meschiya Lake 3. ReBirth Brass Band 4. Tuba Skinny 5. Ellis Marsalis
I'll keep working on this...
[update: by "I'll keep working on this..." it turns out I meant: "hey, I've got a full life to live and dancing to do and a dissertation to write, so fuck listing out all this shit...I like a bunch of movies and books and such. I also like a lot of food, you can find out what when we go on a date and I order or cook it!"]
Also, I unchecked "casual sex" from my looking fors. I'm still totally up for sex with someone I've recently met and may not know for very long, but I've been realizing that, for me, sex isn't a "casual" experience. It's beautiful, it's intense, it's super fun. It's a truly awesome thing and I've never experienced it as "casual", not sure I would enjoy it half as much if it were.
[Update: I've re-checked casual sex because I've become more interested in seeing if sex works for me as a light, fun activity where intense emotional intimacy is welcome but perhaps not necessary for pleasure. So, fun "not a big deal" sex is becoming increasingly appealing to me, but not to the exclusion of "big[ish] deal sex."
Also, if clear and intentional discourse about desire and consent is important to you. Being very explicit and clear about what I want and asking the same of a partner, especially when sex is involved, is a really big deal for me. So, if interrupting date chit-chat or sexy times for a potentially awkward conversation about likes, dislikes, intentions, and boundaries would be a big turn-off for you, we are likely not a good fit.