55 Portland, United States
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My self-summary
I'm reasonably intelligent and averagely fit; tolerant and open-minded. I am utterly silly and hilariously cynical. I like to cook, I enjoy exploring the Pacific Northwest and being outside, I love listening to and playing jazz (I play trumpet, sax, and bass), but I also enjoy blues, classic rock, Celtic, funk, Flamenco...the list (and the beat) goes on. I have a lot of fun playing at being a photographer - even if I'm not a "pro", whatever that means, it has at least taught me to pay more attention to all the beauty in the world. I haven't traveled as much as I'd like. I have a hard time avoiding too many parenthetical comments when I write. I prefer cats to dogs, though dogs can be cool too (not the small yappy ones, though). I don't agree that one needs to believe in some sort of Supreme Being or Omnipotent Father-Figure in order to maintain a sense of honesty and integrity and be kind and considerate to everyone.

I've been single for longer than I care to admit (partly due to a small streak of introversion and partly because although I don't find the Dating Process quite as maddening as, say, job hunting, I don't relish it either). With the help of my friends and an active social life I've learned to be reasonably comfortable within my circumstances; still, I'd like to find a true partner, friend, and mate. Someone to share the small and large moments, to enrich each other's day with art and creativity, someone to stay home with and travel with, to come home to and who wants to come home to me, someone to share silly jokes, good food, and comfort and support as we face the inevitable "tough" parts of Life together. That hasn't happened yet, but hope springs eternal...otherwise I wouldn't be here, right?

I'll be forthright and say that I'm really, really not interested in a long-distance relationship. If you don't live in Portland proper, best of luck in your continued search.

I think this sort of self-summarizing is practically impossible to do well. I've done my best to make my profile both flattering AND honest...but to get a truly clear idea of who I am, please check out my answers to OKCupid's questions before deciding to message me. If you still haven't clicked the Back button after that, I'd prefer to get to know each other over a beverage or snack.
What I’m doing with my life
Stripping away the BS, bit by bit, day by day, year by year...
I’m really good at
Playing Well With Others. Also biting sarcasm toward people and situations that need it, "punching up" not down.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm bald, bearded, have permanent laugh lines, and I've got a good voice.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like books, movies, music, and food. There, I've admitted it! I know that's a controversial attitude, but I stand by my words.

I know that's pretty vague. But my tastes are so eclectic - i.e. "all over the map" - that it's tough to delineate them in a meaningful, nutshell way. I like fiction, non-fiction, and humor; foreign films and Hollywood movies and comedies; many sorts of music (though jazz remains my favorite, and I'm not a fan of pop, country, rap, or opera); and Portland's many amazing restaurants offering just about every kind of cuisine ... does that help?
The six things I could never do without
Maslow's Hierarchy? No? OK then, how about: basic necessities, humor, the never-ending quest for knowledge, music, my camera, proper BBQ, and good single-malt scotch. I know that's more than six, but most of those ended up grouped at the top of Maslow's pyramid anyway, so...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...keeping whimsy and silliness in my life. What is it about society, or Life in general, or something, that squeezes all the juice and verve out of so many of us in the over-40 crowd? Have we gotten caught up in the necessities of creating a career and raising kids, and in the process forgotten how to be goofy and enthusiastic and child-like? Are we so disappointed about not keeping the bodies and energy of our youth that we just gave up? Is it the burden of the awareness of encroaching mortality or the death of childhood dreams that's sucking out whatever liveliness is still left in us? Is there some reason that many of us stop learning and being surprised and constantly delighted by new knowledge? (And...what about Naomi??) I fear neither death nor losing my looks, only my will to stick around and keep having fun.

Also, y'know, World Hunger and Climate Change and War and Equality and the Ultimate Fate of Humanity. And stuff.
On a typical Friday night I am
One week older, in the grand scheme of things.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm definitely not a "morning person".

Spoiler alert: I have no creepy nor dashingly romantic secrets.
You should message me if
- you live in the Portland area!!
- you're smart and smart-assed, wise and goofy, and you know a thing or two about a thing or two; you're appropriately grown-up for your years yet you're still willing to let your inner child come out and play
- you're committed to honesty and communication
- you have a high tolerance for puns; also you don't have to love the Three Stooges but you're okay with the fact that they WILL make me giggle inanely sometimes.
- you enjoy a reasonably active lifestyle
- you enjoy being read to
- you like cold weather (or at least don't hate it too much)
- you're not a "morning person"