I'm more interested in meeting people for platonic reasons than romantic ones, and honestly, I tend not to be romantically inclined toward someone unless I regard them as a friend first. If we're getting really specific with the labels, I identify as bi/panromantic and demisexual. And if you know what that means, you probably understand why the friendship aspect of a relationship is important to me. If you don't know what that means, go ahead and google it. Don't worry, I'll wait.
I am recently married to a wonderful person, and our relationship is very committed and somewhat open (somewhere between monogamish and poly) so I am only interested in meeting or dating people who are going to be comfortable with that. All are welcome to message me for a friendly chat, but as far as dating is concerned I am unlikely to reciprocate any romantic feelings without first building a strong friendship.
It's important for people just getting to know me to understand that conforming to social norms and gender roles is really not my forte. This applies to my dating habits as well - I will only "follow" those rules that happen to coincide with what genuinely feels right. To me, relationships are strictly between the people involved and what is right for them, society be damned. I am often eager to subvert established power structures, and somewhat tied to that, I am deeply invested social justice issues. I expect people in my social circle to care about those issues as well, even if we're not always in perfect agreement.
As many different ways as I can describe myself here, I still think it's difficult to get a sense of what I'm like without investing some time and energy in stimulating conversation.
getting lost and then found again.
doing things that I should regret, but don't.
remembering random strings of letters and numbers.
I love to sing and I think I'm reasonably good at it. I also love to cook when I have the time. My chocolate chip cookies will rock your socks.
When people get to know me a bit they are quick to notice my sense of humor, calm demeanor, and general fondness for all things geeky and absurd.
Comics: Fables, Sandman
Webcomics: XKCD, Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal, Dinosaur Comics, Hark! A Vagrant, Amazing Super Powers, Hyperbole and a Half
Movies: Anything Kubric, Hitchcock, Mel Brooks, Terry Gilliam or Monty Python; Star Wars IV-VII, The Evil Dead trilogy, Machete/ Machete Kills, Mad Max: Fury Road, Vanishing Point, Gone in 60 Seconds (1974), Let the Right One In, The Muppet Movie, Labirynth, Almost Famous, Secretary, To Have and Have Not, Sunset Boulevard, lots of cult classics and so-bad-they-become-fun kinds of nonsense... I like a bit of everything and I'm sure this list is woefully incomplete.
TV: Doctor Who, Orange is the New Black, Broad City, Jessica Jones. Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, Elementary, Scandal, iZombie, The Flash, Adventure Time, Steven Universe, The Daily Show, Last Week Tonight, Star Trek TNG, True Detective, Hannibal, Bates Motel, Firefly (despite its long hiatus...), Arrested Development. The absence of GoT and Walking Dead on this list is not an oversight.
Music: My taste here is even broader than movies, but genres I gravitate toward include classic rock, oldies/R&B, jazz, hip-hop, punk, and indie.
Food: I love Italian, with Thai and Indian tied for second. There is a special place in my heart, though, for comfort and soul food, which is what I'm best at actually cooking, thanks to my southern-influenced upbringing.
Other stuff: I am fascinated by space travel and most things powered by controlled explosions.
I am interested in finding people whose company I enjoy, and whom I can connect with on a mental and emotional level. If all you want is sex, I'm not the girl for you.
Please do not message me if you feel an overwhelming urge to inform me about your assessment of my appearance, positive or negative. I don't care.