Calibanesque
52 Melbourne, Australia
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My self-summary
I don't want people to get the wrong idea about me. I'm not here to gild the lily. You'll either like what I have to say, or you won't. There's no point in being anything else but completely honest.

The idea of being honest is easy, what's hard is translating that into a few hundred words of objective 'truth'. In other words, whatever I write here is only a small part of me, and then no more than 'my' truth.

When I was growing up there was a big hit by Gerry Rafferty called Baker Street. It's a good enough song, but it's only in recent years that I've come to appreciate it. Whenever it comes on the radio now I stop and listen to it because the words and the story they tell feel like my story.

He writes of giving up the city and buying some land, of giving up the booze and the one night stands, but he knows it will never happen. Me, I'm hoping to make it happen, though I'm not sure about the booze.

I'm a strong believer in experience. You only get one go round so you make the most of it. For me that's living to the hilt. I've had a life of variety and speculation. I've never been interested in the conventional. I avoided having a career because the steady progression seemed too tame for me, but managed one anyway by doing my own thing. I've travelled a lot and drunk in the sights, and absorbed little bits of personal wisdom along the way. I've caroused and flirted, and tried to live as well as I could - good food, good wine, interesting company, and vivid experiences.

At the same time I've been as passionate about knowledge as I have about experience. I love to learn and ask questions. I look up at the stars sometimes and feel awe enter into my soul. I read all the time, and consume news as if my life depended on it. I like to understand things, if I can, and have an opinion on everything. Like I said, I want to use everything up, but can't imagine not being this way. I'm not a passive spectator.

There are risks in my lifestyle. I'm one of those people you hear about who had everything, then lost it all. I didn't have everything, but I made a lot from little. Had I been a different person I might have consolidated, but where's the fun in that?

I'm as hard as nails, but I'm also creative, imaginative, enterprising by nature. I sparkle with ideas. I'm all for pushing the envelope. I pushed too far and fell a long way.

It wasn't fun, but it has been interesting. I learned a lot. I wouldn't recommend it to anyone, but I suspect one day I won't be completely sorry for the experience. You see, you find the size in yourself when you're pushed to the limit, and it gives perspective to your ambitions. And it makes things a helluva lot more interesting.

I'm slowly dragging myself from the hole I fell into, and have a long way to go - but am confident I will get there. To my great surprise I find myself virtually unchanged by the experience. I know more than I did then, have a finer appreciation of the important things, and perhaps am a better person now, but otherwise, despite all, I remain undaunted. I've had things happen to me, and can take some blame for that, but I remain just as enterprising as ever, and have added some wisdom to my intelligence.

I'm not a safe catch. I don't want to be that. I'm interesting though, and I'm my own man. And I believe I will get back to where I was before.
What I’m doing with my life
Busy working my way back. Working, but also putting the finishing touches to my first book, and in discussions about getting my first start-up off the ground.
I’m really good at
Travelling solo. Writing. Being difficult. Cooking. Sleeping. Surviving. Going my own way. And a whole heap of other things I'm too modest to list.

Some of these things I'm looking to partner up in - I'd love to travel with the right person, and perhaps I'll strive to be less difficult.
The first things people usually notice about me
I really don't know anymore. I guess it depends who you are and in what environment. If it's corporate then likely I'll be the stylishly dressed, confident dude. Coud be you notice how well read I am, how well informed, and how opinionated I am - check me in the wee hours of a dinner party.

I think probably most people get the impression of intelligence. I seem to be known for that.

Edit: had dinner with a friend last night and asked for her feedback. She said intelligence certainly, but also mentioned that I was cultured. For some reason that surprised me - perhaps that competitive, overtly masculine sense of self isn't a natural mate to the cultured man of the world.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Generally yes to all this. My mum was a jazz singer, and I grew up with her singing around the house. I absorbed all that, and even now can belt out a standard in the shower.

I'm of that type very receptive to these things. Music has always meant a lot to me - don't ask me to list it out. I've travelled half the world with a soundtrack in my ears.

Movies not much difference. I've got an enthusiast's eye for a good film.

Books of course, are my bedrock. I read my first book at 4 - The Shaggy Dog story - and have been reading ever since. And writing a little too.

As for food, well, it's one of the reasons for living. I'm a dab hand in the kitchen, and make a great dinner guest as well.
The six things I could never do without
Good food, good books, a variety of music, intelligent conversation, good sex, and vegemite. And travel.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How I'm going to get out of here.
On a typical Friday night I am
Planning to have a quiet night but somehow ending up drinking with friends somewhere, again.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I once memorised pi to 155 decimal places.
You should message me if
I understand if I might seem interesting, but it takes more than that. If you can deal with my situation then good. Otherwise, what I crave as much as anything else is a meeting of minds. I want to turn to you in bed and read to you the interesting thing I've just come across, and know that you'll be just as interested in it as me.
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