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My self-summary
Hi, I'm B, I'm friendly and enthusiastic and perhaps somewhat of a geek. I like green spaces and rivers, the arts and cinemas, friends and history; I'm happy to be in a city you can walk across.

I like databases, walking, Tai Chi, thai food, xkcd, tesla coils, hamsters, talking nonsense in the pub, having enthusiastic and philosophical discussions about the human condition (see previous item), science fiction, and boardgaming. And other stuff, some of which I probably don't know about yet.

I have a hamster - the cat likes to watch it, luckily it likes to be watched by the cat. It's perhaps an unhealthy relationship, but it seems to make them all happy. The hamster doesn't like me, though.
What I’m doing with my life
By day, the mild-mannered CamBug is chained to a desk, counting people with spreadsheets and databases. Luckily, she enjoys this.

By night she cooks, goes to the cinema, reads, draws, and plays viola badly. Sometimes there is Geek Pub or Book Club, or people come for dinner and DVDs.

And at weekends, she travels to London, goes to art galleries, visits friends, does boardgaming, has a nice cuppa tea, and never quite gets round to making the theremin.

Married for ten years, divorced for five, finding that the new people I meet through friends and work are mostly couples.
I’m really good at
Making small talk with taxi drivers. Making people laugh, and putting them at ease. Asking good questions. I love bouncing ideas around and I'm a fiend at Sudoku. I mix a good cocktail and a good metaphor (when I burn the midnight oil at both ends). I'm a good friend, and calm in a crisis. People like my chocolate brownies (truffle oil - secret ingredient). The Lime Meringue Pie went down well too, but I had help with that. I'm a good team player (but might be getting this confused with my work appraisal).
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm short(ish), dark and curvy, with a big smile. I stride purposefully. I have aplomb.

After a while, people say things like "breathtakingly logical," "freakishly strong," "like Joyce Grenfell," "like Ponder Stibbons"...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Last read: Code Name Verity, Elizabeth Wein; Cor Baby, That's Really Me! John Otway; Cerebus the Aardvark right the way through even Latter Days and The Last Days. Love Christopher Priest and Jeff Noon. Alice Through the Looking Glass (fascinated young Bug a lot more than Alice In Wonderland). I like science fiction for seeing how different worlds work and how people might behave in these new places; I like literary fiction and get drawn up in layers of allusion and the reliability of narrators. I have half a dozen boxes of comics still.

Movies: Last seen: The Grand Budapest Hotel, The Thirty-Nine Steps, The Lego Movie (awesome!), Oldboy, Dallas Buyers Club, Her. Love Brazil, Moon, Inception, Some Like It Hot. Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead Good, so is the Cambridge Film Festival.

Television: Futurama, Battlestar Galactica, The Wire, Firefly. More Futurama. Arrested Development. More films than tv, usually.

Music: Recent gigs: John Cooper Clarke; The Tyburn Tree (Marc Almond/John Harle); Of Montreal; Dan Le Sac Vs Scroobius Pip. Like to dance but don't do it often. Only barely play viola. Am better at recorder.

Food: I like dark chocolate, fruit, Chinese, Japanese and Mexican food. I eat meat but I love vegetables. I read somewhere that after the age of 30, every new foodstuff you eat adds a year to your life - I should reach at least 110 :-) I like inventive baking. There are only two things I can't eat - gluten and dairy - but one can work around that and it's a good incentive to improve one's cooking...
Six things I could never do without
Books, for reading and hoarding and thinking nice things about;
Regular face time with friends, to nourish the soul;
Word play and intellectual challenge, to tickle the brain;
Art, to tickle the other bits of the brain;
Chocolate. Hamsters. Chocolate hamsters? Bakelite hamsters!
A challenge.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
You could just say 'I spend a lot of time thinking'. Indeed, so many people do, it has become a cliche I am embarrassed to find on my profile :-)
I'm outward-looking and inquisitive, I notice things around me and wonder how they fit together. I think about how people work, what is important to them, how they can be happy. I think about words, all the things you can do with them, and it is fun to construct crossword clues in my head.
On a typical Friday night I am
Pretending OKC still lets us have Journals. I am sad that they are retired, even though I didn't post there much. I am also sad that the Send Message and Edit Profile buttons don't work in Firefox any more and that OKC in Internet Explorer chews memory and crashes. Plz send technical support!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am much more pragmatic than romantic, left to my own devices. My top tip for picking up men is: bend from the knees, and keep your back straight. But once I've got past this awkward initial patch I'm quite affectionate :-)

And sometimes I play Gandalf/Balrog with the cat.

Oh, and I have a scar from when I ran with scissors.
You should message me if
If you have a hunch that your life might be better for having me in it, and mine better for knowing you. If I can make you laugh, make you think. I'm looking for the long term relationship thing, and meeting some new friends on the way.

If you want to meet up for a cinema trip. I love the movies! Also art galleries.

You have a bakelite hamster.
The two of us