48 Encino, United States
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My self-summary
Now to scare off 97% of you right off the bat, I am a widow with 3 children, 7 yo son, 9 and 13 yo daughters. I do have local family, sitters and some free time. Many can not handle this, if it is an issue for you, it is an issue for me. If not, please read on....

Many of your profiles start with what "friends" say about you....so I thought, how about posting an 'actual quote' from someone who I asked "How should I describe myself?"..."I am an intense personality that is only suited for those willing to ride the most amazing roller coaster in the world. You need to understand that I will never censor myself or fill in between the lines. My view of life is to be lived, enjoyed and challenged everyday."
( I actually do censor a lot! ;)

I am wiser, calmer and more thoughtful with age, more tolerant, except of intolerance.

I am many things: giving, quirky, not run-of-the-mill, sometimes sarcastic but considerate, intense and alpha/Domme in ways but love men that go either way, both ways even! I am distractible and very high energy at times, but serious and focused when need be. I am assertive and shy, educated, outspoken, sometimes fidgety and unsure, very confident and self conscious, playful and strong willed, snarky, a fast thinker, never bored and never boring, out there. Definitely Sapiosexual!

I do best with a patient, kind, understanding man, who respects my speed and limits. I have no time or interest in one night stands. I thrive on the intensity of extreme sensual sensations combined with overwhelming emotion and a strong intellectual connection and how they all can meet up together for an unbelievable, intimate connection. That feeling that there can never be enough, but being near sated, is an incredible experience. I am looking for that balance/exchange/dynamic with a partner who understands about the play between two people and where it can take us. I believe this can heighten intimacy on many levels for a couple.

I appreciate positive people...slight self deprecation can be endearing...but be kind to others...always and in all ways. I compliment people and I found this quote and loved it..."The greatest good you can do for another is not just share your riches, but reveal to them their own"
I think it is less about "who you are" and in actuality, more about, "who I show up as, when I am with you". Being your highest self in a relationship is quite an aphrodisiac. I am a firm believer that the mind is the sexiest part in all of us....and, a meeting of minds, can be, well, mind blowing!

I miss connecting on all those wonderful levels when you meet a special person. I crave and want that connection, where a man is watching over me, checking in on me, caring for me, taking care of my needs and me theirs, asking me questions, wanting to know about my vanilla day to day, texts and gifts, toys, and surprises, spoiling me, possessing me, I thrive on that shared intensity of yearning for one another day in and day out. I reciprocate and am generous in return.

My life is rich and full and I do not "need" a man, but rather, would love to enhance my life with; a dear friend, loyal confidant, patient, open minded, giving, passionate, crazed, sexy lover and my safe person. I also do well with a persistent man, a man who pursues me.
What I’m doing with my life
I am an LCSW who works intensively with those suffering from a debilitating mental illness to feel better, recover even...using CBT, solution focused, mindfulness and many other therapies, that actually work. And I do a lot, lot more, when not working.
I’m really good at
cooking, entertaining/throwing parties, solving problems, being a mom, helping those in crisis, resolving conflict, defusing difficult situations, being outrageous, saying what comes to my mind, quick come backs, witty repartee, asking questions, reciprocity, complimenting people, listening, being a mediator.....
The first things people usually notice about me
My hair
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I really like food! Indian, Thai, Middle Eastern, Italian, Japanese, Healthy faire, Southern, Rustic, holes in the wall and high end.

TV I have fairly recently enjoyed; The Killing, GOT, Happy Valley, The Flash ;), Extant.
My Life As a Dog, Terminator, American Beauty, Star Trek, Once Were Warriors. I like thrillers, and good sci-fi...not a chick flick kinda gal.

60's, 70's and 80's music still moves me. When my daughter asks what my favorite songs are, the list never changes...Imagine, Lola and Young Americans.
The six things I could never do without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
that I am not doing what I need to get done...
On a typical Friday night I am
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Hell no.....
You should message me if
You are not Vanilla....You love playful banter, a quick and even wicked wit, fun flirting, emotionally intelligent conversation, talking across a table and touching under one. Vanilla at times, definitely not, at others. I like a mind that challenges me to question. Looking for a passionate and compassionate man, with some calming energy, even keeled, a thick skin, who can dish it like I serve it. Healthy lifestyle, goofy at times, maybe intense at others, sexy, kinky, understands D/s and other such acronyms, smart as all get out, my safe person. You; listen, ask questions, reciprocate, are patient, love food, drink, conversing, the elegant and the gritty, diversity, kids, our planet, others, animals, intimate, wild experiences and life...as do I...Be well.