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My self-summary
I'm largely focused on school, and have decided that I will be dull and inward-focused for the next year. As a result, I'm not really looking right now. (That doesn't mean I won't want to have coffee or dinner with you, it just means I'm not actively looking.)

I try not to be a dick. Because, as I am told, dick is abundant and of low value.

I overuse ellipses.

I'm a nerd, and I know everyone is a nerd now, but I still remember when it was a very bad thing, so I'm a little old-school that way. That said, I'm not really focused enough to be a geek about anything.

Re ethical non-monogamy: I believe in ethical everything. One of those things is non-monogamy.

Oh, possibly related to the last: I have "casual sex" listed. This means only that I might be open to that, with the right person. It does not mean that "that's what I'm here for." I am also up for short-term dating, and for friendship. In fact, I've made quite a lot of friends here over the years, of various sexes and genders.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm pursuing certification as a teacher of grades 1-6. I was initially planning to be a science teacher and, while I'd still make an awesome one, I've switched from Biology concentration to Language & Literature, in which I an get A's without really trying, rather than Orgo, which I'd have to study for and maybe get a D anyway. (I was always torn about which path to take anyway: see next section.)
I’m really good at
Explaining stuff. (Note: Not MANsplaining stuff. Nobody is good at that)

I draw stuff. I write stuff. Reading stories aloud, and making up new ones.

I'm told that I'm really good with my hands.

Making a certain subset of people laugh quite a lot. Not everyone gets this, though.

Cooking, especially dinners.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm told I have a nice voice. Also, I'm told it's noticeable that I fully occupy the space that I am in, whatever that means.

If you run into me online, the first things you notice (so I'm told) is wry little comments. Seriously, I've had strangers facebook me on the basis of my comments on their friends' posts. A lot. Which is a nice, if unprofitable, talent to have.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Watership Down, The Neverending Story (NOT the movie!), The Black Company, Neil Gaiman, Terry Pratchett (RIP), Haruki Murukami. Poets: Blake, Seuss, Nash, Silverstein, Neruda, Williams, Whitman, Vonnegut and Vittoria repetto. Nonfictions: Jane Liedloff, Jane Jacobs, Christopher Alexander. The Importance of Being Earnest is my favorite play, and my second favorite thing to read aloud after Anansi Boys. I kind of want to be James Baldwin when I grow up.

Movies: Star Wars (originals), Amelie, The Muppet Movie, Gladiator, Killer Condom, Jesus Christ Vampire Hunter, Shortbus, Hedwig and the Angry Inch, Ink, Lilo and Stitch. I think Kevin Smith is a douche but I laugh at everything he's made, possibly because I suspect my life is one of his movies. Tired of zombies. I love a GOOD werewolf movie, but I've apparently seen all six of those.

TV: For a long time this was blank, but lately I've been watching Penny Dreadful. Have to catch up on season 9 of Doctor Who. I lived The IT Crowd (that's not a typo), so I don't know if that counts.

Music: Too much to mention. Create a matrix of "Building a Mystery" and Alice Cooper's "Poison" and you have a blueprint of my romantic sensibilities. Especially with a sampling of La Valse d'Amelie.

Food: Like music, tastes are too wide to list. Ethnic is good, spicy ethnic is better. I've discovered that I can throw together an awesome mole from scratch just by grabbing stuff from my kitchen shelves. I don't eat cephalopods because I suspect they will one day rule the world.
The six things I could never do without
Carbon, oxygen, enzymes, a homeostatic temperature of 310.2 degrees Kelvin, an intracellular pH of 6.8, and 15 lbs of pressure per square inch.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The countless hidden manifestations of privilege. Everything to do with #BlackLivesMatter. Also gender. The nature of identity and kinship among differing subcultures.

Whatever happened to making out for the sake of making out, rather than as foreplay?

Art; specifically, illustration, animation. Poetry. How I can achieve animation in still illustrations. And stuff like this:

How best to permit children to grow into their educated, well-rounded, well-adjusted selves instead of molding them into what the people in charge want them to be. How to teach them to think without teaching them WHAT to think. How to work within a paradigm of schools and school days when I detest schools and all they do to children and imply for society.
On a typical Friday night I am
Right Now: Studying, writing assignments, or illustrating. Might be running D&D for my kids.

Until recently, and hopefully once more some day: At some sort of tiny live entertainment on the Lower East Side -- burlesque, storytelling, music, something. Mostly as an audience, but I'd recently taken a step into producing them.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I once created a dish of roasted celery root and yucca, solely so I could make a joke about mixing Greek and Latin roots. Yeah. I'm that guy.

Fortunately, it was pretty good. The food, if not the joke.
You should message me if're a smart, extroverted, artsy woman who is a SJW* with a "fuck that" attitude and a macabre streak (this can be quite a big streak, really) who is not looking for monogamy or to have children -- at least, not mine. You don't have to be queer, but it seems to help. Tats, piercings, other mods, and/or unnaturally-colored hair are all good indicators, but none are necessary.

* Social Justice Warrior, though Single Jewish Women are of course also welcome to apply.

I'll be suspicious of you if you're looking for "Straight Guys Only". I'm basically a straight guy myself, but I wonder why you'd exclude queer dudes.